teaching hubby to take cock?

July 2, 2018 11:28 AM | TSB replied:

hubby takes butt plugs, dildos, strap-on, and then cock

humiliation ideas needed

June 19, 2018 2:05 AM | Strippednakedmale replied:

I have a domme friend who comes up with some pretty good
humiliation techniques to use on me.....

naked waxing humiliation

letting my slave wank more?

May 13, 2018 11:25 PM | Donald replied:


I guess you are talking about the "pee pee" movie?

As well as cock slapping, Christine also shows David what she
thinks of that "nasty business".

Why not let your slave jerk off, but only while you pee on him?

I think you'll find he is a lot less angsty after being treated
like a toilet, to quote Christine.


letting my slave wank more?

May 8, 2018 2:40 AM | Adrian replied:

What chance that the research was done by men? But getting real,
how many guys actually get to have sex 21 times a month?

Surely not many Mistresses are going to pander to subs by
letting them wank almost every day?

In my experience dominant women rather like the idea of keeping
their men in chastity belts. And what's the point of a chastity
belt if he gets to have that much supervised sex?

my Wife is the Dom but will not admit it

April 12, 2018 11:55 PM | Christine replied:

Wannabe slave t,

The fundamental question in your post was...

>"How does a submissive male get his vanilla WIFE to realize
>what she has and more importantly could have with a little
>effort on her part"

Please tell us.....

1. what she has


2. what she could have


3. what type of effort you think she would need to put in

Then we,will all be more able and more likely to give you
relevant and helpful "suggestions/inputs" to improve your

Your comment about this site being....

"really oriented toward the submissive male as opposed to trying
to teach/mentor Females in the art/necessity of male domination"

seems to me to be incorrect.

Every time a woman has asked a question here I'd say there has
been a rush to offer help and mentoring. The DOMestic archives
are bulging and overflowing with this kind of mentoring given
freely by DOMestic members.

Elsewhere on my site there is of course much material aimed at
teaching the arts.

On my coaching site at....


I link back to the relevant materials here on MsChristine.com
and most women looking for mentoring find that those links are
more than adequate and don't need to go further with individual
mentoring at all.

sincerely, Christine

The Fem Dom Training Software. Now on your phone and mobile
devices. Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.

training a sissy to deep throat

December 29, 2017 3:50 PM | Michelle replied:

OMG! Helen. sissy surprised me on xmas day. She deep throated
me! The training had worked. She got a punishment for not
telling me she'd been practising behind my back, but she does
like the 'cat' on her bottom. OK, it was not a large girth
dildo, but I was so proud of her.

Went out boxing day and got her a new summer dress in the sales.

Hopefully I can increase the girth.


training a sissy to deep throat

September 1, 2017 11:03 AM | Helen replied:

How lovely, dear Michelle!

Auntie sounds like the right person to help you along in taming
the last resistances of your sissy. I'm pretty sure that the two
of you will soon have her in the proper state...lol

Remember that we have always to be like true animal trainers
and/or dungeon keepers, that is, merciless! Complaints, or
worse, rebellion must be corrected immediately with strict

I'll admit that with my husband, who's not a true sissy, I'm
often very harsh.

When he disobeys or tries to rebel, it's always the whip: the

And it's so lovely and arousing for me, to look into his adoring
eyes, when he's still hanging after punishment...His body
deliciously striped by my lash!

That's the moment when I strap on his mouth dildo and permit him
to approach me as a simple fuck toy. Of course, after a while
the parts are reversed and I put on my leather strap-on to fuck
his boi's pussy...lol

Kisses and hugs

training a sissy to deep throat

August 29, 2017 6:04 PM | Michelle replied:

Hi Helen,

Been away at Aunties - an old school chum who likes Adult
Babies. I go there about once a month so she can play with
sissy, who always groans at the prospect at her role play. I get
to relax and managed to read Ms Christine's FemDom Manual I
downloaded. Wow!! This Lady needs to be made a Dame, or get an
OBE! Auntie only gets sporadic internet in the countryside, so I
had to print it out - loads of pages and ideas. I talked about
your suggestions with Auntie, and she agreed with your
suggestions about teaching sissy.

Haven't received the gag I purchased due to the Bank Holiday we
have here, but will keep it in its box until I'm ready to use it
- drives sissy mad not knowing what it is.

I love the idea of chains and will definitely measure up the
house. Chains are a strong mental and physical tie to reinforce
her connection to me. Thanks for the idea.

On the way back, sissy did moan about being a baby, so I'll
meter out, like you did, some suitable punishment... I do like
to bite and claw her beautiful bottom. (Over a long time while
she's strung up in the doorway.)

Sisterly love, Michelle xxx

training a sissy to deep throat

August 27, 2017 1:38 PM | Kimi replied:

My girlfriend trained me to suck on her strap-on before she
would fuck my wet sissy cunt. I learned quickly as I wanted her
to slick my sissy pussy and slide up and down on her strap-on
wearing a garter belt and stockings.

To pleasure her she makes me lick her while she smothers my face
while I wear a dog collar and leash. I never thought I would
turn into such a sissy.

training a sissy to deep throat

August 27, 2017 1:05 PM | Helen replied:

You're welcome, Michelle. Always glad to share help and advice
to a lovely sister...

Regarding the mouth dildo, you should make a little survey among
the kinky sex shops and find the one that has the smallest mouth
plug: that will be easy to bear for her and to get used to it in
a rather short time.

Squatting over her face could be a problem the first times,
because you'd add the pressure of your lovely body's weight to
his mouth... I suggest for you to stay seated comfortably on
your armchair or bed's edge and she kneels, gliding towards
you...When she has learned the knack, you can add a pair of
leather reins to the rings of the strap, so to pull her closer
and harder inside your pussy...

I find it very arousing, too, when I come back home from work
and find my slaveboi (husband... lol) stark naked and heavily
shackled as I left him, with a chain long enough to permit him
going to the kitchen and prepare my dinner...

He'll eat in his bowl on the floor, and knows that after I
finished dinner, with a glass of Port wine and a fine slim
cigar, he'll be brought to the basement to taste my whip, for
any and every error he made...

I feel so good!

Your friend Helen

training a sissy to deep throat

August 26, 2017 3:45 PM | Michelle replied:

Many thanks Helen for your reply.

I had one of those gags years ago, but sissy, (also my husband),
couldn't move her head fast enough for me to enjoy. I thought
about squatting above her, but again I was worried about sissy
choking and being sick. In the end I binned it. I've now ordered
a new one.

As to a position to try your advice could you let me know.

Your Praise and Punishment is what I call: carrot and stick. And
yes, it does work. I like to combine it in mind games. That way
sissy doesn't know the scale of 'Praise, or Punishment'.

Gets me so excited when I get home from work to see her in the
hall with skirt/dress around her waist and panties down on all
fours displaying her male clit, rosebud and love eggs. After all
this time I still get aroused - like a freshly caught wet
salmon. Love it!


training a sissy to deep throat

August 26, 2017 1:17 AM | Helen replied:

Dear Michelle, you used the right word: train. It's all a
question of making your sissy get used to the dildo in his

I did this with my slave-husband and now he is very good
at it.

My "method" was just like an animal trainer of the circus:
praise and punishment. I started with the 2" deep one that's
mounted on the leather dildo/mouth plug; I told him he had to
fuck me this way, as I loved it... So he willingly let me strap
it over/into his mouth, and got used to it.

Then I progressed with the shortest one of my strap-on, making
him lick and gobble it and now, after only six months he's able
to do a proper blow-job on my thickest and longest one I mount
on my strap-on.

Obviously, I always encourage him in his work with sharp flicks
of my quirt!

teaching hubby to take cock?

August 24, 2017 6:09 PM | Michelle replied:

Hi. This is my first post. I'd like to start a new thread.

I want to train my sissy to deep throat


Locking a shock collar in place

July 28, 2017 5:51 PM | Dawn replied:

There is no better training device than a shock collar around a
man's testicles. I have my husband put one on when I want him to
work. The quality and attention to detail is unbelievable.

I use the "Lady Educator ET-300TS-L Mini". It is a waterproof
rechargeable puppy shock collar with a 1/2 mile range that can
only be turned off with the remote.

The shock collar has 100 levels of intensity. The highest I have
used is level 40, more than plenty to get his attention. It is
more expensive (around $199), but is good quality. Don't waste
your time with the cheap Chinese units.

I have used different shock collars over the past 5 years, and
this one works best. I instructed my husband to attach it to a
"Climax Metal 2C-150-A Aluminum Two-Piece Clamping Collar,
1-1/2" Bore". He ground the bottom flat, drilled two holes for
the contacts, and used electrical tape to secure it. When it is
bolted on, it's not coming off.

teaching hubby to take cock?

July 2, 2017 2:38 PM | Tim replied:

Just wanted to say thanks for the advice on this thread. It took
six months of training, but my husband took his first real cock
in his ass last night. It was hotter than I ever could have

my Wife is the Dom but will not admit it

March 20, 2017 7:38 PM | Gaia R North replied:

I have come back after a while away. I am still in contact with
some people I got to know here so I am looking forward to
chatting etc

novice femdom role play an hour daily

November 24, 2016 12:17 PM | David replied:

Hello Marie,

Thanks for your phone call and your subsequent post to the blog
sent in via text message. Texting makes extra work for us as it
means we have to move it across to email to get it to display
here on the blog.

Text is usually very short, and there is no way such matters can
be sensibly addressed in short text messages. We need a lot more
information before we can offer advice and help. Which is one of
the reasons why we offer our help and advice via the blog.

>I'm a novice into femdom relations.

Please tell us more. How long have you been playing. Did you
start because a husband or lover requested it?

>I would like to know your advice on playing roles about one
>hour a day

That sounds like a reasonable way to start off. But that
probably does not answer your questions?

Are you asking us, and/or the other folk here on the blog to
suggest rituals and games that would take about an hour to play?

If so we might need to know more about your lifestyle. Are you
limited to just the evenings, or is this for daytime play?

Why do you suggest one hour? Is that because of pressure of
work, or limited time due to having a young family?

Or is that all you are comfortable with, or all your partner is
interested in at the moment?

>when to begin being a femdom or longer to reach the goal of
>full time

Yes, you will need to move into longer periods if your goal is
to become full time.

But who has this goal, is it you or your partner that wants to go
full time?

Thanks for your additional text message received today while I
was in the middle of typing this response to your first post. As
I told you on the phone, we only communicate via the blog. But I
realise that English may not be the best language for you.

As English is not your first language it may interest you to
know that Christine's manuals have been translated into both
Spanish and Portuguese. So if you order the text version of her
manuals in English, you can request us to send you either the
Spanish or Portuguese text via email.

David at Ms-Christine.com

Christine's FemDom manuals are at

penis plug urethral play

November 24, 2016 11:02 AM | David replied:


christopher wrote:

>I want to use a penis plug

There are lots to choose from, this search on Amazon for example shows lots of penis catheters including many that are suitable for use as penis plugs.

>but I'm scared to try it out as I am a cut guy

I don't believe it makes any difference that you are circumcised. Here for example, is a penis plug for natural and circumcised penis that is advertised on Amazon.

>and I just want to feel at ease using one but I know
>it will hurt me

If it hurts, stop it. If done carefully and with the right equipment it will be pleasurable with only mild discomfort.

>and I need to know if I can use anything in my
>home that will look like a penis plug.

Absolutely NOT. That is very dangerous.

Never use any household items, or any item that is not specifically designed for inserting into your penis. There are too many risks, and numerous horror stories of people who ended up in A&E (accident and emergency) at the local hospital because things went wrong.

Rules to follow....

1. Use only medical grade equipment designed for the purpose like catheters and sounds.

2. Use the right size. The width of your own urethra is ideal. Wider will cause your urethra to stretch and cause pain. Whereas thinner can cause injuries and penetrate sensitive tissue.

3. Use lubricant, and lots of it. You need to choose the correct sterile lubricant.

4. Be gentle. The urethra is very sensitive tissue that can be easily torn or injured. You do not want to puncture the urethral wall. If you notice sudden sharp pain or blood you should seek medical attention straight away.

But most important, educate yourself thoroughly on this topic before you consider putting anything up there.

Please read the advice I posted about penis plugs for prolonged urethral play at:-


Also you may want to take a look at this

Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment

penis plug urethral play

November 23, 2016 9:47 PM | christopher replied:

hi, I want to use a penis plug but I'm scared to try it out as I am
a cut guy and I just want to feel at ease using one but I know
it will hurt me and I need to know if I can use anything in my
home that will look like a penis plug.

Medical Sounds hurt when stretching

October 7, 2016 11:36 AM | Beginner replied:


once a sound is inserted and pain tolerable, how long should it
be kept in to achieve best stretching results? Assuming just
inserting and taking it back out soon after not as ideal as
leaving in for hour or so?? Does that make a difference?


Medical Sounds hurt when stretching

June 11, 2016 9:00 AM | TR replied:

I do not endorse sounds at all! If you are trying to stretch
your urethra from meatus to bladder then you are going to have
some pain.

For safety reasons I do not use sounds. I only use Foley
Catheters that I buy from AllegroMedical. There is no RX needed,
and you can buy any size you need up to a 30fr. Make sure that
you start small. I would say a 14fr then wear that for a week.
take a week off and then go for 16fr and so on and so on until
you reach the size you want.

Make sure that you get a foley catheter with a balloon size no
larger than 5cc as anything larger causes bladder spasms that
cause extreme pain and blood in the bag.

You will need the following:

Foley catheter
insertion tray
leg/bed bag (i say get both)
extension tube
catheter plug

It is not "Cheap" but it is so worth it as it feels amazing!

I would also get a set of diapers as if you have a bladder spasm
you may release urine around the catheter and trust me it is red
and not fun to clean.

I have downsized to a 5cc balloon and had no problems. I do wear
a diaper over my catheter just in case but wear tights over it
to minimize the visual size and sound. Wrestling singlets work

ask if you have any questions. I am more than willing to talk
you through it :-)

zapped and padlocked balls - software resuscitated

May 23, 2016 6:27 AM | Will replied:

my wife padlocked my balls

DOMestic by new email system

May 10, 2016 6:02 PM | Madam Sin replied:


laura smith wrote:

>I can't get in without a login

So why not get yourself a login?

As your site is a commercial site, it seems a bit mean spirited
of you not to buy a password and add your own site to DungeonNet
like every one else does.

$5 for a lifetime link on DungeonNet seems cheap to me.

Madam Sin

DOMestic by new email system

May 10, 2016 12:52 PM | laura smith replied:

Would anyone do me a big favour and add Bondage Bunnies (the site I work for) to DungeonNet?

I can't get in without a login and I was told to ask on this forum.

I would eternally be in your debt ;)

Mistress and her maid

May 5, 2016 9:18 AM | MaidRenee replied:

Ms. Vonne wrote:

>I don't understand is how folks afford to do

To my knowledge, and in my opinion, there need not be any money
changing hands. Sissy maids like me consider it a privilege and
an honour to serve. My quest now is simply to find a Mistress to
serve. (polite curtsy).


sissy dominated by my wife

April 20, 2016 4:45 PM | David replied:


ifallnlvez wrote:

>I am a sissy husband completely dominated by my wife and we
>would like to talk about my slavery and Her control!

That's just the kind of thing we do here on DOMestic. I'm sure
I'm not the only one who looks forward to hearing more from you

Did you want to tell the readers more or ask questions?

David at Ms-Christine.com

Download "Prickteasing" by David at http://www.u4ds.com/manuals

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April 11, 2016 11:41 AM | Pat replied:

Christine, thank you so much for this response. I appreciate it and will read it in detail.

I appreciate you (and David)!! You and your blog provide a great outlet for those like me who so desire a lifestyle such as yours, but have no hope in attaining that kind of relationship because our wives are not at all receptive to that.

Thank you again so much for providing the service you do!!

I appreciate you!


DOMestic by new email system

March 24, 2016 7:52 AM | champash replied:

I enjoy reading Your blog, which I used to receive by email. I love the many ideas and stories.

DOMestic by new email system

March 14, 2016 10:47 PM | notbad55 replied:

Hello Mistress Christine:
i am wondering if You would be so kind and add me to the new system.

subservient sissy maid

February 21, 2016 5:18 PM | Christine replied:

MV wrote:

>I lost track of the email. Did it die?

I guess this was not a comment about "subservient sissy maid"
but an enquiry about the digest? Please see this post...

DOMestic by new email system

subservient sissy maid

February 21, 2016 4:42 PM | arthur replied:

I do hope this wonderful organization continues. Just joined..
Love strict Mistresses and their harsh spankings of male

I love to hear stories (and occasionally write a private fantasy
back and forth with a friend) about strict Mistresses who spank
their sissy male maids...

May i post a request to that effect?


email address info

teaching hubby to take cock?

February 21, 2016 6:51 AM | TC replied:

I have been forced to take a fat cock in
my ass then down my throat.
Loved it!

dog service for husband?

February 19, 2016 5:36 PM | Leo Posey replied:

Nothing gets a sub's attention like a good tug on his leash. He will come to heel... he doesn't have a choice. And his cock will follow......


subservient sissy maid

February 13, 2016 6:07 PM | MV replied:

I lost track of the email. Did it die?

Please help convince my wife to try Dom

January 24, 2016 5:39 PM | Christine replied:

Hello Mitchell

you wrote:

>I would like my wife to become at least a dom

You and thousand, perhaps even millions, of others have such

>and if she would a dominatrix

How do you define the difference between "at least a dom" and "a

>so to fully feminize, sissify, me as her slave. Here is my
>problem she thinks this is a crazy life style change for us,

If you are proposing it as a lifestyle change, then that is
bound to scare her a bit. And let's face it, it is unlikely to
be realistic to fully feminized, sissified, and actually live as
a slave for most people.

Unless you have the privilege of not needing to live and work in
the real world, your wife is likely to be right in thinking that
this idea is crazy as you have presented it.

Whereas in this day and age many wives have seen kinky stuff
like Fifty Shades of Grey in the media and might be prepared to
play a little game if you don't make it seem so scary.

>how can I convince her that to consider to try domination?

That desire is perhaps more achievable.

First you need to ask yourself "what's in it for her?" - and I
don't mean your fantasy answers.

Ask yourself what would really make life better for her, and is
there a way I can offer that to her in a way that allows me to
inch gradually towards getting my needs met.

So for example:-

One day you go out of your way to do some chore that she really
hates doing.

If she thanks you for it, simply ask her if she would mind
checking your work and ordering you to do it again if it's not

On another occasion. You do a different chore she hates and then
surprise her with it. Reporting it to her in a way that is
amusing. For example:-

"I've just cleaned your bathroom Ma'am, I hope it meets with
your approval." Accompany the report with standing to attention
and giving a little bow.

Or perhaps do something that she has been wanting you to do for
a while, like putting up some shelves or some such handyman type
chore. Report that in a way that allows her to order something

"I've done the shelves you wanted Ma'am. Are there any other
chores that would please you?"

>We have been married for a number of years and I have been and
>continue to be a closeted cross dresser

Is she aware of this cross dressing? Does she mind? Or is it a
secret that she might suspect and worry about?

>with the desire to please her as a slave

Most men who have these desires actually want to do the things
they enjoy, but under her orders. If you actually want to please
her then you don't need the orders, you can just get on with
doing the things that please her.

If she likes the results, you could ask her if she minds you
wearing "a pinny" to do certain chores.

Softly softly and let her see some benefits and she might find
the idea of your cross dressing more acceptable.

"Do you mind if I pretend to be your maid?" is much more likely
to be an acceptable question after you've actually been doing it
for a while anyway.

>and be used to please other men and women as she wants.

Is there any reason to believe that she actually would enjoy
such sexual activities? Has she said or done anything to suggest
that involving other people is something she would like? Or is
that another of your fantasies?

The key is to think about what she wants, and find ways to give
it to her in ways that ease her towards styles of behaviour that
you might enjoy.

>Help Please!

Tell us more about your life as it is at the moment, and your
experiences with your wife thus far, and then other folk might
have suggestions that would help you to gradually integrate
things that ease her fears.

sincerely, Christine

The Fem Dom Training Software. Now on your phone and mobile
devices. Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.

sounds, silicone worm penis plugs, jewellery

December 20, 2015 5:47 PM | Christine replied:


gwpm wrote:

>How far does the "sound" go in?

I thought David and Madam already answered your questions on
this subject back in 2010 at:-


But David posted some info on penis plugs today at:-


>Do you push it in further?

In general, the answer is DO NOT push a thin sound as there is a
high risk of injury through puncturing the urethra.

NEVER use force.

A thicker one gently guided in is ok, think in terms of allowing
it to fall in. Withdraw it to add more lube if you feel any
resistance. Use only the slightest of gentle pressure to
encourage it further in.

Sharp pain means stop!

>Any advice you could give me would be appreciated.

The advice from:-


is to start with the largest size that can be fit into your
penis opening (urethra) without stretching or force. Use lots of
lubricant on the first several inches of the sound, as well as
around the opening.

Carefully stabilize and gently guide it in using an absolute
minimum of force. Let the sound "fall" in as far as it wants.
Once it stops going in, just let it be for a bit, before
experimenting with moving it in and out about 1/2 inch. At this
point it may also be a good idea to take out and re-lube the

sincerely, Christine

The Fem Dom Training Software. Now on your phone and mobile
devices. Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.

penis plug urethral play

December 20, 2015 3:41 PM | David replied:

Please read the advice I've just posted about
penis plugs for prolonged urethral play at:-


Also you may want to take a look at this
Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment

penis plug urethral play

December 17, 2015 7:22 PM | DQ replied:

For extended wear of a penis plug can the plug be longer than
the length of a flaccid penis or will that cause damage if too

humiliated and photographed wearing girly clothes

September 22, 2015 1:04 PM | lee replied:

love to hear more please

chastity for small penis?

September 21, 2015 7:36 PM | jamesr1853 replied:


After spending a lot of time and wasted money on this subject,
let me share my insights.

My penis is very small when flaccid (oh and tiny when erect) so
despite loving the idea of chastity it never used to work. I
always got bored and escaped.

What I found out:

First - cheap and secure don't go together - you can always get

Second - expensive and metal is often impractical and
embarrassing at the airport. :-)

Don't despair however there is a solution. I have had a small,
almost painless frenum piercing. It was simple to get and very
humiliating (mistress watched and giggled with the guy who did

This now means that any of the cheap plastic devices are 100%
secure with the addition of an extra lock or fastener on a ring
through the piercing.

I can't pull out for a sneak wank now, which is super exciting
(did I say that?).

I did find that I could cum if I used a vibrator on the plastic
device, but it was a sad and rather unpleasant feeling.

Mistress found out and I confessed, resulting in an extra two
weeks in chastity.

It can be done.

Yours respectfully

(moderator changed "fermium piercing" to "frenum piercing" as we don't think "james" meant the element Fermium)

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