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March 29, 2009

UK porn censorship and hypocrisy

From: "Christine" at u4ds.com / MsChristine.com
Date: Sun, 29 Mar 2009 23:40:47 +0100

Hello,

If we lived in an ideal world, I'd be the first to defend the UK
Home Secretary against the eagerness of the gutter press to do
an expose on her husband watching adult movies.

However, the UK is not an ideal place, it has a recent law which
took effect in January harassing private individuals which we
reported in the thread "UK censorship and porn possession law
comes into effect
".

One of the advocates of this law is Jaqui Smith, Britain's first
woman Home Secretary who has taken a stance on the sex
industry, pledging to introduce tough licensing laws for adult
clubs. She is the person responsible for regulating the adult
entertainment industry in the UK.

So, it is with dismay that I see the front page news today was
that this same Jaqui Smith has claimed House of Commons
expenses, paid by the tax-payer, for the cost of watching adult
films. This is the same Ms Smith who also claimed tax-payer
funded allowances for her real home, on the basis that her first
home was a room no bigger than a cupboard under the stairs at
her sister's house.

She says she abided by the rules by designating her sister's
house as her main residence, allowing her to claim payments on
the real Redditch constituency home she actually lives in and
shares with her husband and children.

The Home Secretary, submitted the bill for adult movies as part
of a claim for television services even though she had not been
at the family home on the dates in April last year when the
adult films were viewed. The BBC covered the story here:-

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/7970492.stm

Her husband who also gets 40,000 pounds from the UK tax-payer
for being her assistant has apologised for embarrassing her as
it was he who viewed the films in question.

The Virgin Media bill submitted as a supposedly legitimate
expense on her so called second home included two 18-rated items
listed as "additional features", which cost five pounds each to
view. Virgin Media have confirmed the phrase is a euphemism used
on their bills for films with an "adult content".

One has to question the ethical standards of a Home Secretary
who has already claimed well over 150,000 pounds from the
British tax-payer for her family home "within the rules" as a
second home, although hardly within the spirit of the law. Such
tax-payer funds paid for her entertainment centre, DVD players,
two wide-screen televisions and two digital set-top boxes and
just about everything else in the home including the kitchen
sink.

Should a person with such moral and ethical standards be the one
the tax-payers are obliged to pay for spending her time
legislating over what adults do, read, and watch in the UK?

Another censorship issue also hit the news this week which may
serve to the lighten the mood. The BBC reported that the
law-makers in parliament have their own web browsing 'censored'
.

One effect of that censorship is to block MPs' access to
articles written by at least one of their own who writes a
column on one of the web sites that is blocked.

If it wasn't for the fact that government should be a serious
issue done by sensible folk, I'd just want to say "grow up" and
"leave us alone" to the lot of them. As it is, we get the
politicians we deserve if we bury our heads in the sand, so
please consider very carefully just who you vote for at the next
election, and be sure to vote.

sincerely,
Christine at Ms-Christine.com

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March 24, 2009

topping from the bottom - what is it?

From: miss allie
Date: Tue, 24 Mar 2009 08:28:02 EDT


I know that i must be stupid but i don't understand what
"topping from the bottom" is. Can somebody please explain that
to me? It would be most appreciated.

miss allie

 

In The Bank Manager's Cupboard. Part Twenty

posted by: "Christine" at u4ds.com / MsChristine.com
posted on: Tue, 24 Mar 2009 01:39:54 -0000


Previous issues are at:-
http://u4ds.com/stories/meeting_and_seduction/


In The Bank Manager's Cupboard - by Ms. Christine
Copyright 1986-2009 Christine and David Stevenson


Part Twenty.

Sporting an erection, which poked ridiculously behind
him, David remembered the sight he had last seen. He
made a futile attempt top rub his erection against the
bedclothes by lying on his back and wriggling. Never
before in his life had he known what it was like to
have an erection that his hands could not reach. The
choice as to whether or not to masturbate was no longer
his.


It was ridiculous and unfair, exasperating, not to
mention uncomfortable. He was locked in with nothing
but fantasies to keep him company. He could gain no
sexual relief, and little pleasure. His erection became
so bothersome that eventually he gave up, and once
again did as Karin had suggested. He filled the bidet
with cold water, and sat down to cool off his lust.
Something he had to do several times during the
evening.


^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^


Karin didn't return for hours, it must have been around
midnight when David heard voices, then giggling and
laughing coming up the stairs. Finding it complicated
to kneel, he again bent over and peeked through the
keyhole. He was inflamed with jealousy and desire as he
saw Karin, with a man. They were necking, and stroking
their hands over each other's bodies. She was now
beside her bed, groping him. Her passion astounded
David, as he watched her squirming her body against the
man. She was panting, hot with lust.

What David could not know was that Karin's arousal was
partially, if not mostly stimulated by the thought of
making David watch. The other man was just another
object to be used in her games. With some difficulty in
the restricting outfit David knelt, squashing his
genitals against the floor, further adding to his
discomfort and indignity in order to get his eye
against the keyhole.

Karin tore at the man's belt, and dropped his trousers
and underpants as she fell back upon the bed, pulling
him with her. She wriggled to help the man pull off her
panties and moaned with pleasure as she pulled him on
top of her. She helped him enter her, and he instantly
started bucking and pumping. Certain that David would
be watching, Karin looked towards the door and groaned
in ecstasy. She was moving vigorously up against the
man, meeting his thrusts, as she rushed headlong
towards her climax. Her first orgasm came in seconds
and she pushed the man down the bed towards her vulva.
His face was soon in position and as his tongue pushed
deep into her, Karin's hand moved in a blur against her
clitoris.

David felt humiliated by his own position as he watched
Karin's face, he had never seen a woman's face express
so much ecstasy and pleasure. After her second climax
she pulled the man back up her body, and as the man
pumped towards his own climax Karin's face contorted
with her cries of pleasure as orgasm followed orgasm.
The man slumped onto Karin as he pumped his own seed
deep within her.

Karin and the man collapsed together on the bed for
quite a while, apparently recovering from their
passion. Eventually David saw Karin kneel up and crawl
down the bed, she turned her back to David so that his
view was between her parted legs. There she sucked the
man back to erection. David watched Karin's own hand go
between her parted thighs as she knelt so blatantly
exposed to him. Karin toyed with herself as she licked
and sucked the man's genitals. This was perhaps the
greatest of all humiliations for David. To see the
woman he revered give herself to another in that way,
the woman who denied him so much. He heard them both
moan as the man obviously came in her mouth.

How could she, after all she said about men, behave in
such an abandoned manner with another? It didn't make
sense to him! She must like it both ways? Then why not
with him?

It must have been long past one in the morning before
they had both left the room. Karin was again
respectable, her panties replaced and now wearing a
negligee. David returned to sit on his bed in abject
misery. Some ten minutes later her voice announced over
the speaker to David, "That was a real man in action,
wanker." Karin must be alone downstairs, he concluded,
as he heard her laughter before she released the
microphone button. She must have known he would be
watching, and she had obviously enjoyed that knowledge.


^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^


Part Twenty-one is at:-

http://u4ds.com/2009/04/bank_managers_cupboard_21.shtml

March 23, 2009

2009-03-23 ( 15 edited messages )

# admin: January to March 09 update
# C: Madame de Sade - pain and verbal punishment
# Re: C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
# Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor x 3
# Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women? x 8
# S: Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Thirteen


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admin: January to March 09 update
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com / MsChristine.com
Date: Sat, 21 Mar 2009 23:44:53 -0000


Hello,

I've now completed and uploaded the January to March 2009 update
to the members web site.

Supporters of DOMestic can see the latest at

http://u4ds.com/2009/03/march_21st_2009.shtml

and access or search the last 12 years of DOMestic.

If you don't have a password you can search at least 3 months of
DOMestic using the search box at...

http://u4ds.com/

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

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C: Madame de Sade - pain and verbal punishment
Date: Sat, 21 Mar 2009 01:18:18 -0000
From: "David" at u4ds.com


Hello,

As the Marquis de Sade is responsible for the "S" in BDSM, I'm
always interested when the mainstream media gives coverage to
things "de Sade". So I tuned in tonight to the BBC's Newsnight
Review
to hear the critics discuss Madame de Sade, a 1965 play
written by Yukio Mishima and currently being staged at Wyndhams
Theatre, London.

Named as one of the 'powerful women in theatre', Dame Judi Dench
plays the outraged mother-in-law of the Marquis. Rosamund Pike
plays his wife Renee. The two women previously appeared together
in the 2002 James Bond film Die Another Day. The stage play of
Madame de Sade also features Frances Barber as a countess
fascinated by de Sade.

BBC news reports that Madame de Sade received mixed reviews, but
the three critics I just listened to quite literally "rubbished"
it. Tony Parsons opined that the playwright would be ignored
were it not for the fact that "he topped himself". Miranda
Sawyer
who thought the play "rubbish" agreed with Jonathan
Freedland
that the play missed the opportunity to explore so
much.

The play ostensibly considers how the debauchery of the
notorious Marquis de Sade affected his wife Renee. A subject
that could be very interesting territory. Perhaps the
opportunity was missed in favour of reflecting the author's own
fascination with "the beauty of pain, sex and death" as
suggested by Daily Express reviewer Paul Callan.

Even with such a potentially interesting subject of Madame de
Sade, the play is reportedly tedious, heavy going, wooden and
weary. Michael Billington of The Guardian thought the acting
breathtaking and the production visually stunning but the play
itself "Higher Tosh". Quentin Letts described it as "115 minutes
of verbal and visual punishment".

sincerely,
David at Ms-Christine.com

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Re: C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
Date: Mon, 23 Mar 2009 09:58:32 -0700 (PDT)
From: Miss Stress - Saber


Mistress P /sub_arub wrote:

>Is it possible that submissive men who top from the bottom
>don't realize they are doing it (if left uncorrected)? And if
>the submissive continues to top from the bottom, even after
>being corrected a number of times, would you say he is truly a
>submissive?

From my personal experiences, if a man I'm playing with has
limited real life experience, then I find that he will have more
of a tendency to top from the bottom.

Is it correctable? It is *IF* he is seeking to be a submissive
partner. If he is not, and only wants to have done to him what
appeals to him, then he will continue to top from the bottom.

I detest the word "true" when dealing with D/s. Some have told
me I'm not a true dominant due to the fact that I do allow my
boys a little room to be 'sammy', and then I've had others who
highly consider me to be a "true" dominant because I have no
issues or qualms about putting a boy out of my service.

What I would suggest in this case is communication. Find out
what he seeks from a D/s relationship. One of my primary ways of
"screening" a new boy is to have him give me as detailed a "day
in the life" as possible and then we go from there.

Sincerely,
Saber
AKA Miss Stress

"Vocabulary enables us to interpret and to express. If you have
a limited vocabulary, you will also have a limited vision and a
limited future." - Jim Rohn


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: Thu, 19 Mar 2009 10:20:42 -0700 (PDT)
From: Miss Stress - Saber


"Darryl" nuked potatoes wrote:

>"Kink is a man thing probably brought on by the way he was
>raised and of course having strong women around him."


Define Kink, please. Because I strongly disagree based upon my
definition of kink, so I'd like to know yours. You can give
examples if you want.

Saber


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: 21 Mar 2009 09:30:28 -0000
From: steve


Initially I was somewhat irritated by Mr Potatoes ludicrous
sweeping generalisations; a person who has been with us for many
years seemed to have become a troll. However, he has caused such
a wonderful wave of invective and opinion from intelligent and
articulate dominant Women that I say... Carry on nuked!

pussikat steve


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: Mon, 23 Mar 2009 09:38:36 -0700 (PDT)
From: Miss Stress - Saber


nuked potatoes wrote:

>I don't think kink (Dominant Women definition should be
>discussed here) is really fair for most Women

It depends nuked. Personally I find fisting a boy or paddling
him with my nice mahogany wooden paddle with its carved out
holes *e-x-t-r-e-m-e-l-y* arousing for me. Isn't that kink? How
is it not fair to me if this is something I enjoy?

>Even professional Dommes are in great need to be accepted

How so? In what ways do they need acceptance? Are you speaking
legally, or as in being accepted by their peers? Give me a
little more

>it is not what they want or love

And _you_ know this to be fact *how*?

>they are hard about love because they were hurt

Again... And _you_ know this to be fact *how*?

>They claim power but it is not their true love, like any of
>us..... and like all men they need to love. So again i say
>there is no such thing as a dominant woman

nuked, you have a way of looking at life in the manner that
comes across to me of "well, if I can't find someone who meets
all of my personal criteria in order for this person to be
'dominant' then they just don't exist". Which is such a crock of
crap. Because once again I disagree with you that there "is no
such thing as a dominant woman."

Saber
AKA Miss Stress

"Vocabulary enables us to interpret and to express. If you have
a limited vocabulary, you will also have a limited vision and a
limited future." - Jim Rohn


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
From: Madamplz
Date: Thu, 19 Mar 2009 10:06:54 EDT


Ms Christine wrote:

>"I'm a dominant woman who has come to enjoy kink because my
>man loves it. That doesn't mean that all women are like me."

Conversely, I am a dominant woman whose husband came to enjoy my
kink because I love it. It doesn't mean that all women are like
me in that respect but I've known quite a few who are. The
dominant women I know ignore men who drink so as to cry in their
beer. Likewise these women couldn't be bothered with men who
believe they couldn't possibly be dominant without a male.

A man who feels this way should consider the possibility that he
has little to offer a dominant woman and that may be the reason
none are in sight.

Madam


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
From: Madamplz
Date: Fri, 20 Mar 2009 12:08:14 EDT


nuked wrote:

>And that was my point - a Woman if in love will do :-) it is
>not how a woman is. A man gives his woman power


This is your problem in a nutshell. What I heard you saying
above is that you're perfectly willing to use a woman for your
purposes, even a woman who might truly care for you. The very
foundation on which you build a relationship has to do with use,
not love, nor devotion. Doesn't sound very submissive when you
isolate it down to your essential philosophy, does it.

Additionally you believe that you are the source of a woman's
power. That belief causes you to seek out powerless women onto
whom you are able to project your own interests. Conversely, you
attract women who feel they are powerless by giving them a
scenario in which you both pretend she is the source of power in
the relationship.

My guess is that you do this in order to avoid fully
relinquishing control to a truly empowered woman. It's your
safety valve. You "allow" a partner to participate in this
pretense until you are dissatisfied with her level of control,
or her attempt to control you in a way that puts you outside of
your comfort zone. At that point you simply show her the light
of day and expose the game for what it is. She may able to be
talked back into this game for awhile but most women eventually
see you in the light of day, too, which means you end up
exposing yourself as a user.

Madam


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
Date: 21 Mar 2009 00:55:28 -0000
From: MichaelK


I think nuked's problem is that he fails to realize that women
(and men) are different.

But Madamplz's response possibly implies that the ideal is a
fully empowered, dominant woman.

Someone once suggested that in rough figures about one third of
people will never ever want to talk or read about kink, about
one third will (at the right time) be interested to read or talk
about it, but never do anything, and the remaining third will
(at the right time with the right person), enjoy some kinky
activities.

Of the last third about one third of those will enjoy kink
enough to want to do this kink with their next partner.

This rough guide suggests that about 1 in 9 (about 11%) of
people are the committed kinksters.

One of the problems I see with much discussion of BDSM is that
so much focus is given to this 11%.

We tend to forget about the other 22% of people who enjoy kink
with the right partner, but then are happy to become vanilla
with the next.

My current partner, Ada, is enjoying practicing Devotional Sex
with me. But I am sure that with her next partner she will
return to vanilla.

While there are of course many kinky relationships where BOTH
people really want kink as part of their relationship, I am sure
that, given the numbers, most kinky relationships have one
person who is "kink is really wanted", and the other "I would be
happy to not be kinky, but I'm enjoying practicing kink with you
now".

Most of these "mixed" couples probably enjoy a slightly milder
kink than the full-on BDSM that dominates the Internet.

Anyone reading the story of my first date with Ada:
devotionalsex.com/15real_ada_1intro.html
or the Blog of our ongoing activities:
devotionalsex.com/15blog_ada1.html
will see that Ada is NOT dominant.

On our first date I offered Ada something new and different. She
tried it, liked it (and me), and we continue to BOTH enjoy what
we are doing.

As a Mistress Ada is a failure. But, like most women, she does
not want to be a Mistress.

As a Devotional Sex Princess, with its milder version of FemDom,
Ada is fantastic.

I think the BDSM world needs to do a better job in appreciating
the success of women such as Ada.

They also need to do a better job of appreciating kinky people
such as myself who do not actually want a Mistress/slave
relationship, but very much do want the milder experience of
Devotional Sex.

As a full submissive I am a failure. But I think I make a great
Devotional Sex Knight.

Some people are fully kinky. Nuked - fully empowered dominant
women do exist.

Some people only do kink because their partner suggested or
wants it. As long as both partners enjoy what happens, then this
is a good thing.

Cheers,
MichaelK
Devotional Sex


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
From: Darryl - nuked potatoes
Date: Thu, 19 Mar 2009 19:51:57 -0600


Ms Christine wrote:

>Your original point/s were not very well made at all, they
>consisted of broad and sweeping generalisation that dominant
>and/or kinky women don't exist. That is just plain wrong.

Yes I agree i feel like I have come full circle. I do believe
there are no dominant Women. The real strength in Women is a
man, as it should be. The strength of a man is treating that
Woman and all people with


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
From: Christine at u4ds.com / MsChristine.com
Date: Fri, 20 Mar 2009 02:02:20 -0000


Nuked,

Your message seems incomplete, ending as it does with the word
"with". Also, your meaning is unclear. First you agree that you
are just plain wrong, then you start to make a point that you
still believe you are right. Which is it?

sincerely,
Christine at Ms-Christine.com

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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
From: Darryl - nuked potatoes
Date: Fri, 20 Mar 2009 22:01:05 -0600


Hi Ms Christine,

I just try to stir the proverbial pot. You know that. But it is
true I do not believe Women were ever to be Dominant in a sexual
way. Women are nurturing, mothers sisters and daughters.
Dominance on a Woman's part is the respect she commands by being
her true self not some pervy idea a Man comes up with.

A Matriarchal society would be a failure as Women can't get
along with Women they are much worse then Men. A man can have
respect and loyalty to another man and keep his honour, women
can not come close to this.

There is no such thing as a dominant Woman.

warmly Yours
Darryl aka nuked potatoes


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
Date: 22 Mar 2009 00:01:21 -0000
From: MichaelK


I think the next step in nuked's (very flawed) logic must be
that all men are dominant, and thus there is no such thing as a
submissive man.

With no dominant women or submissive men, DOMestic would not
exist, and thus nuked's post would not exist.

Having now eliminated nuked's post in a puff of logic, I suggest
that the rest of us who know dominant women, submissive men, and
DOMestic do exist, move on and no longer waste time with nuked's
nonsense.

Cheers,
MichaelK

Devotional Sex


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
From: "David" at u4ds.com
Date: Sun, 22 Mar 2009 01:37:51 -0000


Hello,

MichaelK wrote:

>I think the next step in nuked's (very flawed) logic must be

It's hard to say what it must be, since he fails to answer the
most basic of questions designed to establish what he's trying
to say.

Saber / Miss Stress just recently invited him to define what he
means by kink, and Christine and others have already asked him
similar questions. I put some effort into My Dominant Women
definition post to help him work out what it is that he thinks
doesn't exist and it was simply ignored.

But as Nuked will not define his own thoughts, I'll play Nuked's
advocate for a moment and hazard a guess at what he' trying to
say.

>that all men are dominant

He does seem to be saying that men were designed that way, and
that being otherwise is deviant and not manly.

>and thus there is no such thing as a submissive man.

I think he is saying there are submissive men, and that it is
those who have thought up the "pervy idea" that women do exist
who are what we call Dominant Women.

>With no dominant women or submissive men, DOMestic would not
>exist, and thus nuked's post would not exist.

I imagine that Nuked, when sober, could argue that DOMestic
would still exist, but might thus consist only of submissive men
pursuing their "pervy idea", and our women followers who we men
are being unfair to. Thus his question "Is kink really fair for
most Women" is the title Christine gave to this thread.

>Having now eliminated nuked's post in a puff of logic,

Logic? Hmmmm.... Eliminated with the "Consequences" technique
might be more accurate.

>I suggest that the rest of us who know dominant women,
>submissive men, and DOMestic do exist, move on and no longer
>waste time with nuked's nonsense.

I'm still prepared to waste my time on him, but if he wants to
have a discussion directly with me he'll need to start being
courteous enough to answer any questions I put to him.

Meantime, without much feedback I'm just going to conclude that
Nuked is beating himself up because he is conflicted. I'd
surmise that his possibly unconscious thought process is that he
really ought to be a "real man" and lead his woman the way men
are supposed to, and that he should stop this pervy stuff which
is so unfair on them.

If I'm right Nuked.... The cure is to first learn to love
yourself and who you are. You'll probably be a better lover of
others after you can love yourself. You'll certainly be more
attractive as who you really are, once you love who you are.

Masochism is a joyous experience if you love yourself.
If you don't, it is likely to be sad.

sincerely,
David at Ms-Christine.com

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S: Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Thirteen
From: Shoekisser
Date: Thu, 15 Jan 2009 22:48:56 +0000


First chapter is at:-
http://u4ds.com/2008/11/anniversary_surprise.shtml


Anniversary Surprise

Chapter Thirteen


So, things got back to a relatively normal state.

The big question is, "Was her campaign to feminize me a success?
I'll let you be the judge. Here's the way things stand now.

The shirt, pants, socks and shoes I wear to work are definitely
masculine. My eyebrows have partially grown out, so my facial
features are close to being masculine. The women at work won't
let me forget what they witnessed. Every new hire hears all
about me shortly after she starts, and gets to see me in action
at the next party. As new women join my Pilates and ballet
classes, they too soon learn all about me. My wife hasn't
invited any of my classmates to a party, but I suspect it's only
a matter of time.

My attire when I attend classes is less masculine, although I am
able to wear sweats and running shoes to and from class. The
color and style of my leotard, tights, and ballet shoes could be
worn by either men or women. Not overly masculine clothing, but
much less embarrassing than a tutu. Since most ballerinas don't
have noticeable boobs, I can get by without wearing a bra.

In Pilates, I dress to fit in, like one of the girls. My crop
top and capris have also migrated away from pink to blue and
other gender-neutral colors. I go bra-less here also.

My running clothes were all purchased in the women's section,
although you can't tell from looking at them. They are in colors
that are gender neutral.

My wife entered me in a Halloween 10K race, where costumes were
encouraged. Naturally she insisted I run in the pink tutu,
tights, and leotard with pink running shoes, and my hair in an
up sweep. I won a prize for the costume

She found a pair of Mary Janes with rubber soles about 2" thick,
and decided that would be sufficient padding to run in. I ran in
them once. They created a sensation, but really hurt my feet, so
she hasn't insisted on a repeat performance.

The last time we were shopping for running gear she spotted some
running skirts, which are the latest craze for women. She
pointed them out, looked at me with a strange expression, and
said, "Cute". I thought that was the end of it, but I should
have known better.

When we got to the exit she saw a poster advertising a fund-
raising race to support breast cancer research. "That's it.
We'll buy you a pink running skirt and you can wear it in that
race."

It hasn't happened yet, but I'm sure it will.

I voluntarily wear the white petti pants under my running
shorts. They are usually rolled up and hidden from view, but I
expose the lace cuffs to women every chance I get. The color
contrasts with all my shorts, so they're very obvious. The
shocked reactions I get from strange women are priceless. As
much as I've been humiliated wearing women's clothes, I will
have to admit that I enjoy the attention those lace cuffs get
me.

So, the only time I appear in public completely dressed as a
woman is at the parties, that have become monthly events. I go
the whole route with the maid's dress and all the accoutrements.
Due to Pilates and a better diet, my waist no longer requires
the cincher, so I hold my hose up with a garter belt. I have
mastered the 5" heels and can move in them efficiently. I now
have a pair with ankle straps that are definitely CFM pumps, as
is evidenced by the frequent propositions I receive at these
parties.

None of the women come right out and say it, but I know their
intent is to do me with a dildo. I have acquired the feminine
ability to successfully deflect these proposals without
offending the propositioner.

My make-up, and the styling of my new beautiful blond wig are
done by professionals at the beauty parlor the day of the party.
My wife keeps declining their persistent offers to tattoo
permanent makeup on me. I think she needs to keep that in
reserve as a threat to me.

The maid's dresses have become longer and more modest, although
still with full petticoats. I now look more like a respectable
maid, and less like a hooker. The short skirt and Viagra without
panties incident occasionally get mentioned, but hasn't
recurred. The threat of that tends to keep me in line. I always
wear a pair of my growing collection of ManTran ear rings for
these parties. Some are dangling, others just large, but all
attract attention.

Of course, these parties mandate that my body be completely
hairless below the neck, except for a patch in my crotch that my
wife likes to trim into interesting shapes.

Our sleeping arrangements are conventional, the two of us in one
bed. We do wear matching his and hers night gowns. These, along
with all my other clothing purchases, are made in person, with
me trying things on.

Sex, with me as the passive partner, is frequent and keeps
getting better. I still have to ask by dressing in panties,
garter belt, hose, and heels, which stay on while we're doing
it. I find it hard to remember what it was like to have sex with
me on top. Somehow that seems perverted. Occasionally, my wife
gets out the dildo and uses it on me.

There are a few constant reminders of my status. I always wear
the engagement ring. Years ago, when we first got engaged, my
wife said she had no desire for a ring. I recently hinted about
buying her one to match mine, but her reaction was negative,
"There is only one bride in this family and it's you."

I also wear panties at all times to remind me of my feminine
side.

I wear the ManTran medallion on a chain around my neck at all
times. It's usually covered, by a shirt, but is exposed when I
work out. I also have a lapel pin and cuff links showing the
logo. Any time a woman asks about it, I hand her a ManTran
business card. Every time I do, I can't help but think that some
poor guy won't know what hit him. My Pilates class is a
particularly fertile ground. I think every woman in the class
has gotten a card. I fully expect to see another feminized
husband show up for class someday.

The other reminder is a 20" x 24" enlargement of a full length
picture of me in my wedding dress displayed prominently in our
living room. When questioned, I try to pass it off as my sister,
with varying degrees of success.

I've sort of gotten used to this new life. There is an
incongruity in my feelings. I hated the things she did to me,
but I love her more now than I did before. She keeps telling me
I'm a better person because of the experience, and I'm starting
to believe her. Our marriage seems to be better.

That's the end of my story, I hope. We have another anniversary
coming up, and I'm hoping for no more surprises. The commission
checks from ManTran continue to roll in. My wife hasn't been
spending much on clothes for herself lately. I wonder if she is
saving for the down payment on another trip. She wouldn't do
that, would she?

Shoekisser


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March 21, 2009

January to March 09 update

posted by: "Christine" at u4ds.com / MsChristine.com
posted on: Sat, 21 Mar 2009 23:44:53 -0000


Hello,

I've now completed and uploaded the January to March 2009 update
to the members web site.

Supporters of DOMestic can see the latest at

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and access or search the last 12+ years of DOMestic.

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March 21st 2009


Index of the update to the DOMestic site on March 21st 2009

 

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Story: Anniversary Surprise by Shoekisser

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07

08

09

10

11

12

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How would you like to be treated? by Susan

Reply by Tom


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No such thing as a dominant female by nuked potatoes

Reply by David Stevenson

Reply by jbj

Reply by MissE

Replies by Saber, Princess, MsLynn & Madamplz

Reply by nuked potatoes

Reply by Ms Christine

Reply by nuked potatoes

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Madame de Sade - pain and verbal punishment


From: "David" at u4ds.com
Date: Sat, 21 Mar 2009 01:18:18 -0000

Hello,

As the Marquis de Sade is responsible for the "S" in BDSM, I'm
always interested when the mainstream media gives coverage to
things "de Sade". So I tuned in tonight to the BBC's Newsnight
Review
to hear the critics discuss Madame de Sade, a 1965 play
written by Yukio Mishima and currently being staged at Wyndhams
Theatre, London.

Dame_Judi_Dench_in_madamedesade.jpg
Dame Judi in Madame de Sade - BBC Photo

Named as one of the 'powerful women in theatre', Dame Judi Dench
plays the outraged mother-in-law of the Marquis. Rosamund Pike
plays his wife Renee. The two women previously appeared together
in the 2002 James Bond film Die Another Day. The stage play of
Madame de Sade also features Frances Barber as a countess
fascinated by de Sade.

Rosamund_Pike_madamedesade.jpg
Rosamund Pike in Madame de Sade - BBC Photo

BBC news reports that Madame de Sade received mixed reviews, but
the three critics I just listened to quite literally "rubbished"
it. Tony Parsons opined that the playwright would be ignored
were it not for the fact that "he topped himself". Miranda
Sawyer
who thought the play "rubbish" agreed with Jonathan
Freedland
that the play missed the opportunity to explore so
much.

The play ostensibly considers how the debauchery of the
notorious Marquis de Sade affected his wife Renee. A subject
that could be very interesting territory. Perhaps the
opportunity was missed in favour of reflecting the author's own
fascination with "the beauty of pain, sex and death" as
suggested by Daily Express reviewer Paul Callan.

Even with such a potentially interesting subject of Madame de
Sade, the play is reportedly tedious, heavy going, wooden and
weary. Michael Billington of The Guardian thought the acting
breathtaking and the production visually stunning but the play
itself "Higher Tosh". Quentin Letts described it as "115 minutes
of verbal and visual punishment".

sincerely,
David at Ms-Christine.com

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March 20, 2009

Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Thirteen


From: Shoekisser
Date: Thu, 15 Jan 2009 22:48:56 +0000

First chapter is at:-
http://u4ds.com/2008/11/anniversary_surprise.shtml


Anniversary Surprise

Chapter Thirteen

So, things got back to a relatively normal state.

The big question is, "Was her campaign to feminize me a success?
I'll let you be the judge. Here's the way things stand now.

The shirt, pants, socks and shoes I wear to work are definitely
masculine. My eyebrows have partially grown out, so my facial
features are close to being masculine. The women at work won't
let me forget what they witnessed. Every new hire hears all
about me shortly after she starts, and gets to see me in action
at the next party. As new women join my Pilates and ballet
classes, they too soon learn all about me. My wife hasn't
invited any of my classmates to a party, but I suspect it's only
a matter of time.

My attire when I attend classes is less masculine, although I am
able to wear sweats and running shoes to and from class. The
color and style of my leotard, tights, and ballet shoes could be
worn by either men or women. Not overly masculine clothing, but
much less embarrassing than a tutu. Since most ballerinas don't
have noticeable boobs, I can get by without wearing a bra.

In Pilates, I dress to fit in, like one of the girls. My crop
top and capris have also migrated away from pink to blue and
other gender-neutral colors. I go bra-less here also.

My running clothes were all purchased in the women's section,
although you can't tell from looking at them. They are in colors
that are gender neutral.

My wife entered me in a Halloween 10K race, where costumes were
encouraged. Naturally she insisted I run in the pink tutu,
tights, and leotard with pink running shoes, and my hair in an
up sweep. I won a prize for the costume

She found a pair of Mary Janes with rubber soles about 2" thick,
and decided that would be sufficient padding to run in. I ran in
them once. They created a sensation, but really hurt my feet, so
she hasn't insisted on a repeat performance.

The last time we were shopping for running gear she spotted some
running skirts, which are the latest craze for women. She
pointed them out, looked at me with a strange expression, and
said, "Cute". I thought that was the end of it, but I should
have known better.

When we got to the exit she saw a poster advertising a fund-
raising race to support breast cancer research. "That's it.
We'll buy you a pink running skirt and you can wear it in that
race."

It hasn't happened yet, but I'm sure it will.

I voluntarily wear the white petti pants under my running
shorts. They are usually rolled up and hidden from view, but I
expose the lace cuffs to women every chance I get. The color
contrasts with all my shorts, so they're very obvious. The
shocked reactions I get from strange women are priceless. As
much as I've been humiliated wearing women's clothes, I will
have to admit that I enjoy the attention those lace cuffs get
me.

So, the only time I appear in public completely dressed as a
woman is at the parties, that have become monthly events. I go
the whole route with the maid's dress and all the accoutrements.
Due to Pilates and a better diet, my waist no longer requires
the cincher, so I hold my hose up with a garter belt. I have
mastered the 5" heels and can move in them efficiently. I now
have a pair with ankle straps that are definitely CFM pumps, as
is evidenced by the frequent propositions I receive at these
parties.

None of the women come right out and say it, but I know their
intent is to do me with a dildo. I have acquired the feminine
ability to successfully deflect these proposals without
offending the propositioner.

My make-up, and the styling of my new beautiful blond wig are
done by professionals at the beauty parlor the day of the party.
My wife keeps declining their persistent offers to tattoo
permanent makeup on me. I think she needs to keep that in
reserve as a threat to me.

The maid's dresses have become longer and more modest, although
still with full petticoats. I now look more like a respectable
maid, and less like a hooker. The short skirt and Viagra without
panties incident occasionally get mentioned, but hasn't
recurred. The threat of that tends to keep me in line. I always
wear a pair of my growing collection of ManTran ear rings for
these parties. Some are dangling, others just large, but all
attract attention.

Of course, these parties mandate that my body be completely
hairless below the neck, except for a patch in my crotch that my
wife likes to trim into interesting shapes.

Our sleeping arrangements are conventional, the two of us in one
bed. We do wear matching his and hers night gowns. These, along
with all my other clothing purchases, are made in person, with
me trying things on.

Sex, with me as the passive partner, is frequent and keeps
getting better. I still have to ask by dressing in panties,
garter belt, hose, and heels, which stay on while we're doing
it. I find it hard to remember what it was like to have sex with
me on top. Somehow that seems perverted. Occasionally, my wife
gets out the dildo and uses it on me.

There are a few constant reminders of my status. I always wear
the engagement ring. Years ago, when we first got engaged, my
wife said she had no desire for a ring. I recently hinted about
buying her one to match mine, but her reaction was negative,
"There is only one bride in this family and it's you."

I also wear panties at all times to remind me of my feminine
side.

I wear the ManTran medallion on a chain around my neck at all
times. It's usually covered, by a shirt, but is exposed when I
work out. I also have a lapel pin and cuff links showing the
logo. Any time a woman asks about it, I hand her a ManTran
business card. Every time I do, I can't help but think that some
poor guy won't know what hit him. My Pilates class is a
particularly fertile ground. I think every woman in the class
has gotten a card. I fully expect to see another feminized
husband show up for class someday.

The other reminder is a 20" x 24" enlargement of a full length
picture of me in my wedding dress displayed prominently in our
living room. When questioned, I try to pass it off as my sister,
with varying degrees of success.

I've sort of gotten used to this new life. There is an
incongruity in my feelings. I hated the things she did to me,
but I love her more now than I did before. She keeps telling me
I'm a better person because of the experience, and I'm starting
to believe her. Our marriage seems to be better.

That's the end of my story, I hope. We have another anniversary
coming up, and I'm hoping for no more surprises. The commission
checks from ManTran continue to roll in. My wife hasn't been
spending much on clothes for herself lately. I wonder if she is
saving for the down payment on another trip. She wouldn't do
that, would she?

Shoekisser

March 19, 2009

2009-03-19 ( 21 edited messages )


# Re: C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not? x 4
# Re: C: Anal Worship
# Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor x 3
# Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women? x 6
# C: Dominant Woman definition
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Re: C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
From: Peter Green
Date: Fri, 13 Mar 2009 23:50:49 +0000


I have to reply to Mistress P.

Mistress P wrote:

>Is it possible that submissive men who top from the bottom don't
>realize they are doing it (if left uncorrected)?

>And if the submissive continues to top from the bottom, even
>after being corrected a number of times, would you say he is
>truly a submissive?

Yes and Yes

i was once a subbie who topped from the bottom.

a lovely Domme from Memphis USA sorted my submission out, but it
took two years of correspondence and stroppiness from me.

Thanks Brecksrider

luv rita xxx


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Re: C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
Date: 15 Mar 2009 01:24:16 -0000
From: barry


Hi All,

imho, a lot of male subs (myself included) have a secondary
masochism. Here's a part of the Wikipedia definition of s/m:

"In a secondary masochism, by contrast, the masochist
experiences a less serious, more feigned rejection and
punishment by the model. Secondary masochism, in other words, is
the relatively casual version, more akin to a charade, and most
commentators are quick to point out its contrivedness."

I used to think I wasn't truly a sub because of my topping from
the bottom and my "do-me" sub mentality, but reading that
article helped me understand where Nuked Potatoes is coming
from. I always knew that there was something wrong with my
submission that was something to be "gotten over". And it is
true that the the selfish, do-me part of my submission needs to
be gotten over. But now I know that my submission isn't fake,
just a little flawed.

barry


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Re: C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
Date: 15 Mar 2009 15:17:45 -0000
From: bill star


Mistress P wrote:

>would you say he is truly a submissive?


Good question. I believe there are levels of service. I believe
that there are relationships where one is not a slave, but
certainly wants to experience their submission. I fall into this
category.

I am clearly submissive to many authoritative women but i also
switch and find that i am good at it. To the Domme looking for
someone that is going to follow her every word and think totally
about her i am not a good match and i know that.

For the Women that enjoys control and enjoys getting into
someone's head and isn't consumed with the rigors of traditional
dress or performance and rules i am a great fit.

She may allow plenty of room for me to feel my freedom and
control only to have me voluntarily give it up and showing me
how much i really need that control and the need for my own
submission.

I would be glad to discuss this with someone. I do not see
myself as someone topping from the bottom; but certainly if i
portrayed myself as a slave i am not being true to myself or my
Top

bill


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Re: C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
From: Madamplz
Date: Mon, 16 Mar 2009 20:56:14 EDT


MichaelK wrote:

>"in a strong FemDom relationship does a Mistress really want a
>sub who never makes suggestions? Does she really want a sub
>that never shares with her how he would like to please her?"


No. Although if my submissive shares with me how he would like
to please me and I reject his idea(s) I will get annoyed if he
doesn't drop the subject.


Mistress P wrote:

>Is it possible that submissive men who top from the bottom
>don't realize they are doing it (if left uncorrected)?


There are men who may not realize they are topping from the
bottom. My guess is that they've spent too much time alone
fantasizing about what a dominant woman is. They may have
developed an expectation of what she does that makes her
dominant and project those expectations on you.

There are also men who pretend to be submissive or whose
submission ends the second they finish cumming.


Mistress P wrote:

>And if the submissive continues to top from the bottom, even
>after being corrected a number of times, would you say he is
>truly a submissive?


There's also the possibility that the submissive doesn't fully
grasp what it is that you are demanding. If that's the case he
may revert to what he thinks is supposed to be done and not
necessarily what you want him to do.

Would you care to offer more information?

Madam

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Re: C: Anal Worship
Date: 18 Mar 2009 05:21:06 -0000
From: bkdrsubmale

Give me a _top_ woman who _loves_ to use a strap-on!


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
From: Madamplz
Date: Mon, 16 Mar 2009 21:00:26 EDT


MsLynn wrote:

>I and the many dominant women I know will neither cease to
>exist nor pound down doors to prove ourselves.


I would have to agree. It is completely immaterial whether or
not someone believes I am dominant or anyone at all is dominant -
least of all, someone who drinks to convince himself.

Madam


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
From: "Darryl" nuked potatoes
Date: Sat, 14 Mar 2009 20:20:59 -0600


MsLynn wrote:

>I and the many dominant women I know will neither cease to
>exist nor pound down doors to prove ourselves.


Hello Ms Lynn,

What a cop out pfft :-) I do not ask you to prove a dominant
Woman exists. I say there are none. A true Woman seeks love just
like any man.

Kink is a man thing probably brought on by the way he was raised
and of course having strong women around him.

This is not topping from the bottom or anything else of Elise
Sutton bs... not all is bs of course. Many women find their
verification by thinking they are dominant, and it is not true.

nuked potatoes


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: Sun, 15 Mar 2009 05:37:21 -0000
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com


Hello,

nuked potatoes wrote:

>I do not ask you to prove a dominant Woman exists. I say there
>are none.

By saying such a thing you are just giving the impression that
you are a person who is completely ignorant. The world has
always had substantial numbers of dominant women. Study your
history books for famous examples.

You also assert that:-

>Kink is a man thing probably brought on by the way he was raised
>and of course having strong women around him.

And those strong women you mention, what are they Nuked? Are
they dominant women?

As to your suggestion that "Kink is a man thing" - that is also
complete poppycock.

There are kinky women and kinky men. The source of their kink is
by no means proven but you'll find some links to resources in
this post which may help you to understand more. Even in men it
is not limited only to those "men having strong women around"
them.

There is a lot of research available to you, and off hand I
don't know the precise statistics on the amount or proportion of
men and women. My own experience should not be taken as a
statistically relevant sample. But when meeting kinky folk I've
often found that the submissives are the kinkiest partners in a
couple.

I've met some submissive and very kinky women, and in the
submissive women I've met spanking and bondage seems to be quite
prevalent. Some of the kinky women I've met have been switches.
Some were lovers of administering punishment and not always keen
on taking it themselves when submitting.

I've met kinky women living with straight men, which tends to
give the lie to your idea that women only do it to please their
man.

I've obviously met lots of dominant women who also liked to
administer discipline to their men. Some of those women have
told me quite frankly which aspects of kink they like, and which
they don't. It's quite common for women to enjoy thrashing a
chap they love and are married to.

I've not encountered a female fetishist, so I tend to think that
aspect of kink is more of a "man thing" - but I have no doubt
that there are female fetishists out there, and see this link
for further discussion on the gender of fetishists:-

Sexual fetishism - Gender

It also says on that page that:-

"Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the sexual attraction
to objects or body parts not conventionally viewed as being
sexual in nature."

which I think is a somewhat limited but useful definition.

To understand the differences and variety in kinks, if the
access to 13 years of DOMestic has not been enough to enlighten
you, then try reading the literature suggested on the Wikipedia
page for kink at:-

References and further reading.

On the Wikipedia page I mention above it also says:-

"Kink is a term used to refer to a broad range of sexual
practices (sometimes referred to as kinky), including spanking,
bondage, dominance and submission, sadomasochism (BDSM) and
sexual fetishism. Kink sexual practices transgress what are
considered "normal" sexual boundaries as a means of heightening
the intimacy between sexual partners. Some draw a distinction
between "kink" and "fetishism", defining the former as enhancing
partner intimacy, and the latter as replacing it."

>Many women find their verification by thinking they are
>dominant, and it is not true.

That is another silly generalisation Nuked. When you generalise
like that you are going to be wrong at least half the time.
Sometimes it is true, sometimes it isn't.

I suggest you get out more, perhaps go to a library instead of
the bar and there you could get an education in a place where
you might at the same time meet new people.

It is best not to waste your time by posting rude or ignorant
assertions which have no basis in fact. Feel free to express
your opinions or ask questions in a more sensible and respectful
way.

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
From: Madamplz
Date: Mon, 16 Mar 2009 20:49:47 EDT


Christine wrote:

>having a met a potential partner who you like a lot, if you
>don't give that person a chance to know your kinky self, you'll
>never find a partner who may love you for who you are, and who
>may also want to share your kink with you.


I agree. Don't try to guess whether or not the partner is kinky
and then hope for the best after you've sealed the deal. The
partner may feel betrayed or tricked into committing to you
without committing to the kinky side of your nature.

Madam


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
From: "Darryl" - Nuked potatoes
Date: Sat, 14 Mar 2009 19:57:32 -0600


Hello Ms Christine,

That was a very nice reply.

you wrote:

>having a met a potential partner who you like a lot, if you
>don't give that person a chance to know your kinky self

And that was my point - a Woman if in love will do :-) it is not
how a woman is. A man gives his woman power

Nuked potatoes


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
Date: Sun, 15 Mar 2009 03:54:49 -0000
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com


Hello Nuked,

you wrote:

>And that was my point

No. Your original point/s were not very well made at all, they
consisted of broad and sweeping generalisation that dominant
and/or kinky women don't exist. That is just plain wrong.

In order to help you differentiate between such nonsensical
generalisations and possibly valid specific points I started a
new thread for you where I explained how it is for one specific
woman, me. I tried to help you see that there can be a
difference between dominance and kinkiness.

I explained that I'm a dominant woman who has come to enjoy kink
because my man loves it. That doesn't mean that all women are
like me.

You don't seem to get it Nuked, as you are still making sweeping
generalisations that will be generally wrong even if almost
accurate when applied to a specific woman. If you can start
expressing yourself better, and drop the tendency to
generalise, you'll find a more sympathetic audience to whatever
specific points you are trying to make.

>a Woman if in love will do :-) it is not how a woman is

Do you see what is wrong with that statement.

You say "a woman" - do you mean all women, or one specific
woman?

If you mean all women, then don't be daft, that's just
poppycock. There might be more fetishism in men, but there are
millions of kinky women, and some of them live with non kinky
and very straight men. I've met them. Women are often kinky
without being fetishistic.

It's just the way the world often works that people do not
always meet the ideal partners or counterparty to their kink.
That's why it's best to express yourself to increase your
chances of meeting and then forming a relationship with the
right one.

If you've met quite a few women then you've probably unknowingly
met many genuinely kinky women who have just not shared their
kink with you, because, like many men, they would be too
embarrassed to open up. And many of them would not have had the
kinks that precisely matched yours.

>A man gives his woman power

There you go again. Is that all men, or one specific man?

Couples exchange power in lots of different ways.

There are all sorts out there. I've met lots of men who give
their woman power. I've met women who give their man power. I've
met couples where one or both don't understand the power
exchange at all but are dominating and submitting without even
knowing that they would be thought by others to be kinky.

But don't kid yourself. Most women I know have the power, and
many of them know it. We just like to let men think they are
giving the power to us. It makes the poor boys feel better. :-)

sincerely,
Christine

The Fem Dom Training Software.
Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.
http://www.mschristine.com/program.shtml


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
Date: 15 Mar 2009 19:21:48 -0000
From: Michele


Christine, I am following this thread with interest. I agree
with you and David that Nuked is expressing himself poorly at
times (that's not new!) and indulges in too many sweeping
generalisations.

I don't even understand what the question "Is kink really fair
for most women?" is supposed to mean. What does the concept of
"fairness" have to do with "kink"? I am confused.

Also, how do we define "kink," "kinky," "kinkiness"? I don't
think we can just say that we can tell what's kink when we see
it, so we don't have to define it. Where "normal" ends and
"kink" starts? What, for that matter, is "normal"? You wrote
that "there are millions of kinky women." Depending on the
definition of "kinky" I might say that you're probably right, or
on the contrary that you probably overstate the number.

Many women are dominant without being kinky. You say you never
had a kinky thought until you met David. And I never had a kinky
thought until I decided to make my marriage a D/s relationship
(which was not, in itself, a "kinky thought" but a means to an
end). So that's at least two of us, and there must be others!
Lots of them!

The problem with the word "dominant" is that it conjures up the
image of the leather-clad, whip-wielding Dominatrix that so many
submissive or would-be submissive men fantasize about. But many
women are dominant in various aspects of their everyday life
without being dominant in their sexual life. It is usually their
male partner - husband or boyfriend - who brings them into the
"kinky" sex life. More often than not, the woman accepts the
role of domme (when she does accept it at all, which she often
doesn't) to please her partner, not because she enjoys it. In
that sense it can be said that topping from the bottom is more
the rule than the exception.

No doubt there are women who genuinely do enjoy sexual
domination, and some of them can even be quite sadistic, but
although I have no way to prove it, I suspect that they are in a
rather small minority. Which may account for the frustration
that led Nuked to his generalisations.

By the way, didn't Nuked have a satisfactory D/s relationship
some years ago? That experience would in itself invalidate his
statements.

Michele


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
Date: Mon, 16 Mar 2009 00:00:35 -0000
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com


Hello Michele,

you wrote:

>I am following this thread with interest

I'm so glad. I thought I might be wasting my time and that of
the readership in general. It feels like talking to a brick wall
at times, especially with Nuked :-)

>I don't even understand what the question "Is kink really
>fair for most women?" is supposed to mean. What does the
>concept of "fairness" have to do with "kink"? I am confused.

I'm slightly less confused than you, because when David plucked
that question out of Nuked's ramblings, I vaguely remembered
that Nuked has raised such ideas on DOMestic before. I asked
David and we both think it was when he was in a relationship
with a young lady who was very definitely opposed to kink.

We didn't want to spend our time searching the archives. So,
instead I figured that I might draw Nuked to talk more about the
subject that was perhaps behind his recent assertions.

>Also, how do we define "kink," "kinky," "kinkiness"?

I've discussed some of the definitions here:-

http://u4ds.com/2009/02/dominant_woman_only_in_a_drunk.shtml#c006218

>I don't think we can just say that we can tell what's kink when
>we see it

I guess a fair definition is that kink is that which we believe
to be so unconventional as to be embarrassing to admit to
enjoying, even to well known acquaintances.

>so we don't have to define it

No. But to help to answer Nuked's question of "Is kink really
fair for most women?" it would be helpful if we knew what it was
we were discussing. How can we judge it to be fair, or
otherwise, if we don't have some idea of what it is?

>Where "normal" ends and "kink" starts?

It's boundaries have changed a lot in my lifetime. Some of our
mothers might have felt that even admitting to enjoying sex was
not "normal" for a woman. Oral sex would have been a very wicked
perversion for many. Whereas nowadays, I think it's fair to say,
both female enjoyment and oral sex are seen by the majority as
normal and healthy.

>What, for that matter, is "normal"?

That which is the "norm" :-) Conventional is perhaps a better
word, but it doesn't get us much further. :-)

>You wrote that "there are millions of kinky women." Depending
>on the definition of "kinky" I might say that you're probably
>right

I was using David's mathematical basis. He's has shown me
statistics over the years that suggest that at least 5% and
probably around 15% of people in western countries indulge in
sexual activities which the general populace regarded at the
time as being "kinky".

On that basis, we would be talking many millions of women. A
million or more in the USA alone.

>or on the contrary that you probably overstate the number.

You could be right. That which was once regarded as kinky is now
so totally normal, that although more people now indulge in
those activities, they are now closer to the norm, and thus no
longer kinky.

Kinky is now normal.

>Many women are dominant without being kinky.

True. After David read my reply to Nuked at:-

http://u4ds.com/2009/02/dominant_woman_only_in_a_drunk.shtml#c006218

he pointed out that in the first paragraph I was replying to
Nuked about conventional dominance, and Nuked was probably
talking about his definition of a "Dominant Woman" whatever that
means to him.

So I "invited" David to post a "Dominant Woman definition" in
the hope that Nuked would either...

a.) accept that dominant women do exist

or better still...

b.) define what kind of woman it is that he thinks doesn't
exist.

>You say you never had a kinky thought until you met David

That's true, I think. It is thirty years ago now. A different
world. Kink was underground, and the first issue of Skin Two had
not hit the streets, at least not in my neighbourhood.

Although it has to be said that it was as though David had lit a
fuse. Once he introduced me to the concepts I found them to be
both terrifying in their strangeness to me, yet at the same time
intriguing, fascinating, and quite a lot of fun.

David encouraged me to read the very mildly kinky Forum
magazine, and pointed out the fantasies and so called reader's
letters that they published that he enjoyed. I was soon inspired
to write my first rather naive story "The Lorelei" with just the
mildest hint of dom sub and kinky fetish. I sent it in to Forum
in the UK and got a rejection slip of course.

Undeterred, and encouraged by David's enjoyment of my fictional
works, and our bedroom games as they were then, I continued to
write stories that got much more kinky. I had David as my avid
fan and only reader eagerly devouring my work for some years
before we both started publishing ourselves.

We fed off each other, enthusiasm being contagious, and my
writing inspired David to express himself through fiction as
well.

>And I never had a kinky thought until I decided to make my
>marriage a D/s relationship (which was not, in itself, a
>"kinky thought" but a means to an end). So that's at least two
>of us, and there must be others!

Yes indeed. That might give some hope to the many men searching
for their dominant woman. She is out there, and not necessarily
where you expect to find her. She might be at the very next desk
in the office just waiting to be discovered or introduced.

>The problem with the word "dominant" is that it conjures up the
>image of the leather-clad, whip-wielding Dominatrix that so
>many submissive or would-be submissive men fantasize about.

Indeed. But most men do realise, I hope, that real life is not
going to be quite like that. Certainly the fantasies that David
enjoyed and showed me in Forum were folk with very "normal"
lives, but just more than a bit kinky in private. So I could
easily see myself in the roles he clearly enjoyed thinking about
me indulging him with.

Although I have to admit that I like clothes, and I bought a lot
of leather and shiny outfits as soon as David suggested he liked
them. The enthusiasm of a submissive man was all the
encouragement a twenty five year old woman needed to indulge in
some serious clothes buying. :-)

After wearing my new outfits and fetish wardrobe at home I was
also quite eager (and at the same time terrified) for him to
find somewhere he could take me to so that I could wear them out
in public and swish about in.

When I did so, having men literally falling at my feet to
worship me was, to say the least, flattering and quite likely to
turn a naive young woman's head. (OK I'll admit to exaggerating
my innocence a bit for dramatic effect!)

My terror might be more understandable when you realise that I
am talking here of a trip to London in the early 80's and the
Maitresse club was at that time a once a week event which took
over a rather seedy establishment which was a gay bar six days a
week. Fetish was not at all mainstream and certainly not yet as
fashionable as it was to become in the nineties.

>But many women are dominant in various aspects of their
>everyday life without being dominant in their sexual life.

That was me. David told me quite frankly that he had always
thought me a dominant and demanding woman, and obviously that
was part of what attracted him. I was actually quite hurt that
perhaps he didn't think me a "nice girl". The diplomat in David
had to be quite careful to encourage without offending.

>It is usually their male partner - husband or boyfriend - who
>brings them into the "kinky" sex life. More often than not,
>the woman accepts the role of domme (when she does accept it at
>all, which she often doesn't) to please her partner, not
>because she enjoys it. In that sense it can be said that
>topping from the bottom is more the rule than the exception.

Now I think you might be straying into the kind of
generalisation that will only encourage Nuked in his own
prejudices. I'm not at all sure that we have enough data to use
phrases like "more often than not" and "usually". I'll accept
"many" and "often" as being proven by my own experiences of
meeting others online and in person.

>No doubt there are women who genuinely do enjoy sexual
>domination, and some of them can even be quite sadistic

Of that there is no doubt. We've met many here on DOMestic, and
I've met quite a few sadistic women in person. Sadism in women
is not as rare as you might think.

>but although I have no way to prove it, I suspect that they are
>in a rather small minority.

Yes, well that's more or less where we came in. Kinkiness is
kinky because it is (or was) in the minority. But a small
minority is not the "none" that Nuked asserted.

Although I'll accept that possibly Nuked lives in an area of the
frozen north that may be somewhat parochial? Maybe there really
are few chances of meeting more open minded women?

>Which may account for the frustration that led Nuked to his
>generalisations.

I'd like Nuked to explain his frustration when he can tear
himself away from drowning his sorrows.

>By the way, didn't Nuked have a satisfactory D/s relationship
>some years ago? That experience would in itself invalidate his
>statements.

My own recollection was that the relationship he shared with us
on DOMestic was with a dominant woman from Europe who was quite
strongly against kink.

Perhaps, Nuked, you will correct me if my memory is wrong on
that matter?

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

My FemDom manuals are at
http://u4ds.com/manuals


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Re: C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
Date: 16 Mar 2009 18:49:48 -0000
From: Michele


Hello Christine!

Thanks for using my post as a springboard for additional
comments. Yours are always interesting to read.

I wonder if there is any real use or advantage in discussing
such concepts as "Kinky" and "normal" (relating to sex
activities) since, as you noted, sexual behavior and what's
considered "normal" keep changing - certainly the evolution
since the sixties (around the time we were born) has been
impressive.

When Nancy Friday published "Women on Top" in 1991 she remarked
in the preface that the young women she interviewed for the book
were profoundly different in their attitudes to sex from the
ones she interviewed in the early seventies for her first book,
"My Secret Garden." "Their voices sound like a new race of
women," she wrote. And now we are again almost twenty years
later! I'm sure today's young women are a new race too.

One major evolution during the past couple of decades is the
growing acceptance of what we call "Kink." The ads and photos in
fashion magazines are full of allusions, often blatant, to BDSM,
lesbianism etc... Many young couples now include light bondage
and other kinky practices in their lovemaking.

I was surprised to find out how widespread the use of strap-on
dildoes has become in France in the last few years - women
sodomizing their boyfriends or husbands, and the men enjoying
it. I am not claiming that the practice has become "the norm"
but the freedom with which many women discuss it on specialized
internet sites strikes me as something quite new.

Michele


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C: Dominant Woman definition
Date: Sun, 15 Mar 2009 17:32:53 -0000
From: "David" at u4ds.com


Hello,

In a reply to "dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor" - I
wrote to Nuked/Darryl:-

>Why don't you start different and more sensible threads?
>Perhaps they could be entitled:-
>"Is kink really fair for most Women?"
>"Dominant Women definition needed"

As Christine has started the first of those suggested threads
and it hasn't helped Darryl (aka Nuked Potatoes) to understand
why he's wrong, I'll have a stab at helping Darryl to find the
dominant woman definition that he so clearly needs.

I hope we all understand the words "woman" and "definition", and
if so, there is only one word that we need to focus on.
"dominant".

The Wikipedia pages for the word and it's relevant derivations
are at:-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominant
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominance
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domination
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominance_and_submission

But if you read those articles and click on anything relevant to
the word "dominant", you can realistically only end up at this
page to define the word "dominant" in a BDSM context:-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominant_(BDSM)#Dominant

The key phrase there seems to me to be:-

"A dominant typically refers to the individual who has actual
control of the BDSM context/relationship, exercising authority
or power over a submissive"

So, Darryl/Nuked, for a definition of a "dominant woman" you
could paraphrase that as:-

"A dominant woman has actual control of the BDSM
context/relationship, exercising authority or power over a
submissive"

Do you accept that definition of a "Dominant Woman"?

If not, would you like to give us your definition?

sincerely,
David at u4ds.com

Download "Prickteasing" by David at
http://www.u4ds.com/manuals


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admin: What's new on the DOMestic Blog
Date: 17 Mar 2009 07:35:45 -0000
From: MichaelK


Hi Ms Christine and David,

I have started to read the Blog instead of just waiting for the
email digest. It is not easy to remember how many replies each
topic had before, so I find it hard to know when a new reply has
been posted.

If there was an easy way to let frequent readers see what was
new, then that would make the Blog much more useful.

Best Regards,
MichaelK

http://devotionalsex.com

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Re: admin: What's new on the DOMestic Blog
Date: Wed, 18 Mar 2009 01:24:31 -0000
From: "David" at u4ds.com


Hello Michael,

Thanks for your feedback.

There are two ways you can know when new messages/replies have
been posted. And in response to your message I've today made the
first of them much more obvious. I hope this works for you?

1. See the right hand menu. Click on the words "Latest Comments"
(near the top) This will load:-

http://u4ds.com/replies.shtml

which will display all comments to the blog in reverse date
order, newest at the top.

or

2. Click on the orange icon in the right hand side of your URL
bar which allows you to subscribe to either of the newsfeeds.
The one you would want would be the DOMestic Blog feed. This
would let your browser software know immediately whenever a new
message or reply has been posted.

More info on newsfeeds can also be found via the right hand
menu, (near the bottom) by clicking on the link to the
help file "Newsfeed Help".

If anyone has suggestions for how I can make this or any aspect
of blog operation more clear then please feel free to let me
know.

sincerely,
David at u4ds.com

The DOMestic discussion list. Now in our thirteenth year. The
password site now has over 6,700 files with well over 400
stories, plus pictures, and hundreds of articles. $26.99 for a
one year password. $16.99 for six months at
http://u4ds.com/password


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Re: admin: What's new on the DOMestic Blog
Date: Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:26:48 -0700 (PDT)
From: MichaelK


Hi David,

Thanks for your reply.

The "Latest Comments" link is just what I wanted - the perfect
solution for me.

Best wishes,
MichaelK

(Devotional Sex)


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Re: admin: What's new on the DOMestic Blog
Date: 18 Mar 2009 06:50:30 -0000
From: MissE


Another way is to use bloglines (www.bloglines.com) I have
been using it to follow multiple blogs and it saves a lot of
time as I only go to those blogs that have an entry vs having to
check each and every one of them.

MissE


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Re: admin: What's new on the DOMestic Blog
Date: Wed, 18 Mar 2009 17:40:55 -0000
From: "David" at u4ds.com


Hello,

MissE wrote:

>Another way is to use bloglines

My favourite is Opera, but yes, we have a link to Bloglines and
a few other feed readers in the "Other Browsers and Readers"
section of our help file at:-

http://www.mschristine.com/newsfeed.shtml

To be sure a feed reader updates you when a new comment is
posted, which is what MichaelK wanted, and not just new entries,
you would need to give it the individual messages / blog url
http://u4ds.com/index.xml as opposed to the digest only feed.

I imagine using something like Bloglines is also handy for
keeping records of which blogs you read off your computer, so
might be useful for folk using business or family machines.

>I have been using it to follow multiple blogs and it saves a
>lot of time as I only go to those blogs that have an entry vs
>having to check each and every one of them

The feed reader built into Opera is the best I've used, much
more user friendly than IE or Firefox. It does exactly the same,
but saves having to log on to a web site. You can have it check
all your blogs at once, or select the ones you want to look at.

If you spend a lot of time online it has a handy little message
in the bottom right of the screen which tells you when new
messages have appeared on your blogs so you get to see them
sooner. You can even set it to check different blogs more
frequently than others if you like, so a high traffic blog might
be auto-checked every 5 minutes.

But using a browser based feed reader is probably not ideal for
shared computers, as other folk using the computer would see
what interests you.

sincerely,
David at u4ds.com

Support DOMestic at:-
http://u4ds.com/password


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S: Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Twelve
From: Shoekisser
Date: Thu, 15 Jan 2009 22:48:56 +0000


First chapter is at:-
http://u4ds.com/2008/11/anniversary_surprise.shtml


Anniversary Surprise

Chapter Twelve

When we got home that night, she had me remove the shirt and
pants, and sit on the floor at her feet.

"We need to assure that you are more feminine at all times.
Starting now, any time you are home, you will be appropriately
attired in a maid; dress, heels, and makeup. And you will resume
the maid's duties you learned at the academy. Any time you go
out, in addition to feminine underwear, you will wear women's
shoes with your pants and shirts."

A week or two later she found a pair of black women's lace-up
oxfords. These had a definite feminine shape to them with a
pointed toe and a one inch narrow heel. She accompanied me to
the store to try them on, and insisted I buy them, and wear them
out of the store.

About the same time, she found some "Mary Janes for men"
advertised on line, and bought me a pair. They were wide and
heavy, like men's shoes, but had an instep strap and were
definitely Mary Janes. They reminded her of the original pair of
real Mary Janes I wore that first day at the airport and on the
plane. So she had me dig them out of my closet and add them to
the list of acceptable shoes.

She insisted I wear one of these pairs of shoes to work every
day, and any other time I was out of the house. The girls at
work used to try to guess which shoes I would wear each day.
There were even rumors of a betting pool. Thus, even though I
wore shirts and slacks to work, the shoes definitely fit the
feminine mold.

The day of my next Pilates class, she had me paint my finger
nails and toe nails pink. She added additional padding to my
pink bra, and made me put it on, along with the pink panties,
then the pink top and pink skirt. Anticipating her next move, I
got both the pink running shoes and pink ballet slippers out,
and asked her which she preferred.

"Nice try, but the answer is neither. I think your pink heels
will look nice with that outfit."

I objected, and, of course, got zapped, and wound up wearing the
heels. She also applied light makeup, pink eye-shadow, and
lipstick that matched the nail polish.

On the way to Pilates, we stopped at a sporting goods store. She
announced to the clerk that I needed a running bra. The clerk
looked shocked, but soon recovered. She pulled out a tape
measure.

"Hold your arms out to the side."

That command brought back embarrassing memories, but I did as I
was told. She measured me around the chest.

"The only bras we have in his size are black. Is that OK?"

"I think black will be fine. It will provide contrast with his
pink top."

I was led into a dressing room, and told to remove my top and
bra, which I did. After I had the black running bra on, The
clerk said, "He's kind of flat-chested, isn't he? I recommend he
wear his padded bra under the running bra so he looks more like
a woman."

"Good idea."

So I put the pink bra back on and the black running bra over it.

"I would also like to see some tops more appropriate for
Pilates."

I soon had a low cut, lacy, skimpy pink top with a bare midriff
on over the bras. It didn't even come close to hiding the black
bra.

"That's better. How about pants that match the top?, and he
needs a singlet to run in, something that will show off his
bra."

The clerk left and returned with a pair of pink pants, and a
pink singlet.

"Take your skirt off."

After I removed my skirt, "Oh, those are pretty pink panties.
You're lucky your wife lets you wear them."

Yeah, right.

With difficulty, I managed to squeeze into the pants and get
them zipped. They looked like they had been painted on. The
singlet was also tight.

"Those are the largest we have in stock, but I could order
larger sizes if you prefer."

"No, I think those are just right. We want them to be tight to
show off his body."

"There seems to be a bulge in his crotch. Is he excited?"

"No, that's just a device that helps to control him. If he did
get excited, I would use it would reduce the swelling quickly.
It also works to correct him when necessary."

She pushed a button, and I was on the floor.

"My, that is effective. I'd like to have one for my boyfriend.
Where can I get one of those?"

My wife handed her a ManTran card.

On our way out of the store, my wife spotted a shocking pink
Pilates mat. She decided I needed one.

We arrived at Pilates just as the class was about to start. The
women were all seated on mats on the floor. When I walked in
wearing the skirt, new tight pink top, with the black bra
showing, and heels, the instructor noticed me, and said, "Well,
what do we have here?"

My wife, who had followed me into the room, "He wanted to show
off his new outfit."

"It's lovely. Come up here and let us all see it."

"I can't do that."

I got zapped, and heard, "Do it, or I'll take your pretty pink
panties away. Is that what you want?"

Without thinking, I responded, "No, Mistress," which got a laugh
from the class.

"Oh, you have a pretty pink mat. Bring it up here. I saved you a
place right in front of me."

The spot in front of the instructor was usually avoided because
it was the center of attention. I had to walk carefully in the
heels to the front of the room through all the women, who, of
course, had comments to make.

"Oh, aren't you sweet? You're wearing make-up and pink nail
polish. I like that. Raise your skirt and show us your panties."

I did and got whistles and catcalls.

"Take your pretty heels off, and let's get to work."

Of course, exposing my painted toe nails brought more comments.
I was the center of attention throughout the class, particularly
when my body position was such that my panties were exposed.

The next time I ran, my wife had me dress in the short pink
skirt, pink panties, lacy white petti pants, that hung below the
bottom of the skirt, jog bra, much of which was visible, and
pink singlet. Every woman I encountered noticed and commented on
my appearance.

The following week my wife announced that she had found an adult
ballet class for me. We went shopping in a dance store, where
she told the clerk I was going to start taking a class. The
clerk was very helpful, and inquired where the class was. I
tried on and bought a leotard, tights, and a tutu, all pink, of
course. She also decided the ballet shoes I had weren't good
enough. I needed toe shoes. Of course I had to model everything
in the store, which was full of women and girls.

The day of the class, I again had make-up and fingernail polish
applied. She also did something to pile my hair on top of my
head, incorporating the hair piece.

Unlike Pilates, where the instructor and other class members
knew me, the ballet class was all strangers, or so I thought.
Then I recognized the instructor. She was the dance store clerk
who had sold me the outfit I was wearing. She hadn't said
anything to me in the store, but I sensed that she may have
confided in my wife, and warned the class to expect me. Again, I
created a sensation, which was another humiliating experience.

My wife decided that two weeks of training wasn't enough, so we
continued this routine beyond that. During that time, I slept on
the floor with bound arms attached to the foot of her bed. There
was no sex, except I received the dildo weekly.

Finally, after a month, she sat me down, at her feet, and asked
if I had learned my lesson and would behave properly if she
removed the ball ring.

I, of course, said, "Yes, Mistress."

"I certainly hope so. If you backslide again, you will go to
work and everywhere else in a dress and heels. All your male
clothing will disappear. I will let the girls at the beauty
parlor do the permanent make-up on you. I also will make our
dildo sessions public."

Since I now knew she had the power to do all that, and wouldn't
hesitate, I replied, "Please don't do that. I'll do whatever you
want."

She had me stand and raise the skirt of my maid's dress. She
unlocked, and removed the ball ring.

"I hope we don't need this again."

"So do I, Mistress."


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March 17, 2009

What's new on the DOMestic Blog

Date: 17 Mar 2009 07:35:45 -0000
From: MichaelK


Hi Ms Christine and David,

I have started to read the Blog instead of just waiting for the
email digest. It is not easy to remember how many replies each
topic had before, so I find it hard to know when a new reply has
been posted.

If there was an easy way to let frequent readers see what was
new, then that would make the Blog much more useful.

Best Regards,
MichaelK

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March 15, 2009

Dominant Woman definition

Date: Sun, 15 Mar 2009 17:32:53 -0000
From: "David" at u4ds.com


Hello,

In a reply to "dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor" - I
wrote to Nuked/Darryl:-

>Why don't you start different and more sensible threads?
>Perhaps they could be entitled:-
>"Is kink really fair for most Women?"
>"Dominant Women definition needed"

As Christine has started the first of those suggested threads
and it hasn't helped Darryl (aka Nuked Potatoes) to understand
why he's wrong, I'll have a stab at helping Darryl to find the
dominant woman definition that he so clearly needs.

I hope we all understand the words "woman" and "definition", and
if so, there is only one word that we need to focus on.
"dominant". The Wikipedia pages for the word and it's relevant
derivations are at:-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominant
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominance
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domination
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominance_and_submission

But if you read those articles and click on anything relevant to
the word "dominant", you can realistically only end up at this
page to define the word "dominant" in a BDSM context:-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominant_(BDSM)#Dominant

The key phrase there seems to me to be:-

"A dominant typically refers to the individual who has actual
control of the BDSM context/relationship, exercising authority
or power over a submissive"

So, Darryl/Nuked, for a definition of a "dominant woman" you
could paraphrase that as:-

"A dominant woman has actual control of the BDSM
context/relationship, exercising authority or power over a
submissive"

Do you accept that definition of a "Dominant Woman"?

If not, would you like to give us your definition?

sincerely,
David at Ms-Christine.com

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March 14, 2009

Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Twelve

From: Shoekisser


First chapter is at:-
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Anniversary Surprise

Chapter Twelve


When we got home that night, she had me remove the shirt and
pants, and sit on the floor at her feet.

"We need to assure that you are more feminine at all times.
Starting now, any time you are home, you will be appropriately
attired in a maid; dress, heels, and makeup. And you will resume
the maid's duties you learned at the academy. Any time you go
out, in addition to feminine underwear, you will wear women's
shoes with your pants and shirts."

A week or two later she found a pair of black women's lace-up
oxfords. These had a definite feminine shape to them with a
pointed toe and a one inch narrow heel. She accompanied me to
the store to try them on, and insisted I buy them, and wear them
out of the store.

About the same time, she found some "Mary Janes for men"
advertised on line, and bought me a pair. They were wide and
heavy, like men's shoes, but had an instep strap and were
definitely Mary Janes. They reminded her of the original pair of
real Mary Janes I wore that first day at the airport and on the
plane. So she had me dig them out of my closet and add them to
the list of acceptable shoes.

She insisted I wear one of these pairs of shoes to work every
day, and any other time I was out of the house. The girls at
work used to try to guess which shoes I would wear each day.
There were even rumors of a betting pool. Thus, even though I
wore shirts and slacks to work, the shoes definitely fit the
feminine mold.

The day of my next Pilates class, she had me paint my finger
nails and toe nails pink. She added additional padding to my
pink bra, and made me put it on, along with the pink panties,
then the pink top and pink skirt. Anticipating her next move, I
got both the pink running shoes and pink ballet slippers out,
and asked her which she preferred.

"Nice try, but the answer is neither. I think your pink heels
will look nice with that outfit."

I objected, and, of course, got zapped, and wound up wearing the
heels. She also applied light makeup, pink eye-shadow, and
lipstick that matched the nail polish.

On the way to Pilates, we stopped at a sporting goods store. She
announced to the clerk that I needed a running bra. The clerk
looked shocked, but soon recovered. She pulled out a tape
measure.

"Hold your arms out to the side."

That command brought back embarrassing memories, but I did as I
was told. She measured me around the chest.

"The only bras we have in his size are black. Is that OK?"

"I think black will be fine. It will provide contrast with his
pink top."

I was led into a dressing room, and told to remove my top and
bra, which I did. After I had the black running bra on, The
clerk said, "He's kind of flat-chested, isn't he? I recommend he
wear his padded bra under the running bra so he looks more like
a woman."

"Good idea."

So I put the pink bra back on and the black running bra over it.

"I would also like to see some tops more appropriate for
Pilates."

I soon had a low cut, lacy, skimpy pink top with a bare midriff
on over the bras. It didn't even come close to hiding the black
bra.

"That's better. How about pants that match the top?, and he
needs a singlet to run in, something that will show off his
bra."

The clerk left and returned with a pair of pink pants, and a
pink singlet.

"Take your skirt off."

After I removed my skirt, "Oh, those are pretty pink panties.
You're lucky your wife lets you wear them."

Yeah, right.

With difficulty, I managed to squeeze into the pants and get
them zipped. They looked like they had been painted on. The
singlet was also tight.

"Those are the largest we have in stock, but I could order
larger sizes if you prefer."

"No, I think those are just right. We want them to be tight to
show off his body."

"There seems to be a bulge in his crotch. Is he excited?"

"No, that's just a device that helps to control him. If he did
get excited, I would use it would reduce the swelling quickly.
It also works to correct him when necessary."

She pushed a button, and I was on the floor.

"My, that is effective. I'd like to have one for my boyfriend.
Where can I get one of those?"

My wife handed her a ManTran card.

On our way out of the store, my wife spotted a shocking pink
Pilates mat. She decided I needed one.

We arrived at Pilates just as the class was about to start. The
women were all seated on mats on the floor. When I walked in
wearing the skirt, new tight pink top, with the black bra
showing, and heels, the instructor noticed me, and said, "Well,
what do we have here?"

My wife, who had followed me into the room, "He wanted to show
off his new outfit."

"It's lovely. Come up here and let us all see it."

"I can't do that."

I got zapped, and heard, "Do it, or I'll take your pretty pink
panties away. Is that what you want?"

Without thinking, I responded, "No, Mistress," which got a laugh
from the class.

"Oh, you have a pretty pink mat. Bring it up here. I saved you a
place right in front of me."

The spot in front of the instructor was usually avoided because
it was the center of attention. I had to walk carefully in the
heels to the front of the room through all the women, who, of
course, had comments to make.

"Oh, aren't you sweet? You're wearing make-up and pink nail
polish. I like that. Raise your skirt and show us your panties."

I did and got whistles and catcalls.

"Take your pretty heels off, and let's get to work."

Of course, exposing my painted toe nails brought more comments.
I was the center of attention throughout the class, particularly
when my body position was such that my panties were exposed.

The next time I ran, my wife had me dress in the short pink
skirt, pink panties, lacy white petti pants, that hung below the
bottom of the skirt, jog bra, much of which was visible, and
pink singlet. Every woman I encountered noticed and commented on
my appearance.

The following week my wife announced that she had found an adult
ballet class for me. We went shopping in a dance store, where
she told the clerk I was going to start taking a class. The
clerk was very helpful, and inquired where the class was. I
tried on and bought a leotard, tights, and a tutu, all pink, of
course. She also decided the ballet shoes I had weren't good
enough. I needed toe shoes. Of course I had to model everything
in the store, which was full of women and girls.

The day of the class, I again had make-up and fingernail polish
applied. She also did something to pile my hair on top of my
head, incorporating the hair piece.

Unlike Pilates, where the instructor and other class members
knew me, the ballet class was all strangers, or so I thought.
Then I recognized the instructor. She was the dance store clerk
who had sold me the outfit I was wearing. She hadn't said
anything to me in the store, but I sensed that she may have
confided in my wife, and warned the class to expect me. Again, I
created a sensation, which was another humiliating experience.

My wife decided that two weeks of training wasn't enough, so we
continued this routine beyond that. During that time, I slept on
the floor with bound arms attached to the foot of her bed. There
was no sex, except I received the dildo weekly.

Finally, after a month, she sat me down, at her feet, and asked
if I had learned my lesson and would behave properly if she
removed the ball ring.

I, of course, said, "Yes, Mistress."

"I certainly hope so. If you backslide again, you will go to
work and everywhere else in a dress and heels. All your male
clothing will disappear. I will let the girls at the beauty
parlor do the permanent make-up on you. I also will make our
dildo sessions public."

Since I now knew she had the power to do all that, and wouldn't
hesitate, I replied, "Please don't do that. I'll do whatever you
want."

She had me stand and raise the skirt of my maid's dress. She
unlocked, and removed the ball ring.

"I hope we don't need this again."

"So do I, Mistress."

March 13, 2009

2009-03-13 ( 12 edited messages )

# C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
# C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
# Re: C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
# C: Baroness Sacher-Masoch - Masochism trivia
# Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor x 6
# Re: C: fantasy is fun
# S: Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Eleven


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C: Is kink really fair for most Women?
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Fri, 13 Mar 2009 17:18:10 -0000


Hello,

In "dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor", Nuked Potatoes
expresses the idea that kink is not really fair for most women.

Does it matter? I doubt that most men are kinky, so kink doesn't
need to be "fair for most women".

I don't think we need to concern ourselves with "most" people.
Because in developing a relationship between any couple, there
are only two people that matter.

I'm sure that many men are kinky, perhaps it is true that most
have some form of fetish, however mild? The psychological
literature, such as it is, seems to suggest that men do seem to
be more predisposed to fetishism. So perhaps there are more
kinky men than women? But, if that's true, don't let that deter
you.

I'm a dominant and demanding person but I'm not a naturally
kinky person. I don't think I'd ever had a kinky thought until I
met David. I certainly don't recall any.

David is just about as kinky a person as I've ever met, and
although he has a somewhat dominant personality, he is not
naturally a sexually dominant person. Sex mad perhaps, but not a
natural dominant in the dom/sub sense.

Being both sex mad and kinky, David was best suited to the
submissive role with me, and he knew himself and expressed that
idea from the outset of our relationship. For the 30 years
(since 1979) that we've been together, I have been (to use
David's phraseology) either dominantly kinky or kinkily
dominant, I'm not sure which. Perhaps both?

I've had a lot of fun with kinkiness. It's been a joy to involve
myself with those things that David is passionate about. Just as
David has enjoyed involving himself with those things that I'm
passionate about. That's what can happen in a loving
partnership. A couple can share and enjoy the things that their
partner enjoys.

The trick, it seems to me, is in finding a partner who you love,
and who loves you. To do that requires communicating openly,
preferably from the outset, about who you are. How can your
partner truly love you if they don't know who you are?

If it helps Nuked or any one else who has yet to find their
partner. I'd just like to point out that David and I did not
meet online or through contact ads. We didn't meet in a club or
discotheque, or through any organisation connected with kinky
interests. We met, like most folk probably do, in the
conventional manner through business and personal contacts.

If it's true that most women are not naturally or automatically
attracted to kink, then it might be best not to go looking for a
partner in the kinky scene. She (or he) may not be looking
there.

But once having a met a potential partner who you like a lot, if
you don't give that person a chance to know your kinky self,
you'll never find a partner who may love you for who you are,
and who may also want to share your kink with you.

sincerely,
Christine

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C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
Date: Thu, 12 Mar 2009 14:23:21 -0000
From: Mistress P /sub_arub


Is he or isn't he?

I have two questions for the group, and am seeking responses
from experienced female dominants:

Is it possible that submissive men who top from the bottom don't
realize they are doing it (if left uncorrected)?

And if the submissive continues to top from the bottom, even
after being corrected a number of times, would you say he is
truly a submissive?

Mistress P


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Re: C: men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?
Date: 12 Mar 2009 23:08:54 -0000
From: MichaelK


What is topping from the bottom?

In Devotional Sex the couple are more a partnership than
traditional FemDom. So, unless told otherwise by his Princess,
there is nothing wrong with a Knight saying:

Would you like a foot massage?
How about we go to bed for a cuddle?
Can I have a Devotional Cuddle?
Would you like me to Reveal?
Can I give you oral sex?
Can I sit at your feet?

In Devotional Sex most of what is done might arise from a
Knight's suggestions!

This all gives the Princess ideas of what to do next, and tells
her what her Knight is thinking.

But absolutely nothing happens unless the Princess says "yes".

Princess Power is very real because a Princess will not always
say "yes". Sometimes she will be inspired by a suggestion to do
something else. And of course all of her "suggestions" do
happen.

As long as the Princess never feels forced or pressured to do
something she is always the person with the power. And both feel
and know this.

Devotional Sex is mild FemDom (which is one reason it is
suitable for non-dominant women). And it does not aim for the
male to be a "true submissive". So I'm not suggesting that the
more partnership like style of Devotional Sex is best for
traditional strong FemDom couples.

But in a strong FemDom relationship does a Mistress really want
a sub who never makes suggestions? Does she really want a sub
that never shares with her how he would like to please her?

And as I believe that all relationships will only work if both
get enough out of what happens to want to continue, is it wrong
for a sub to let his Mistress know what he would like?

Even in Devotional Sex a Knight's suggestions are never a
command which his Princess must obey. A Knight cannot make
something happen.

Is it ever the case that topping from the bottom does mean the
sub / Knight takes control?

Or does topping from the bottom just mean that the sub / Knight
is making too many suggestions?

Cheers,
MichaelK

PS Thanks to all those who visited my site after my earlier
posting. I hope some of you liked what you found.


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C: Baroness Sacher-Masoch - Masochism trivia
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: 9 Mar 2009 18:46:19 -0000


Hello,

A piece of trivia for those interested in the origin of the word
Masochism.

Marianne Faithfull's maternal great-great-uncle was Leopold von
Sacher-Masoch
, the famous 19th century Austrian nobleman whose
erotic novel, "Venus in Furs", spawned the word "masochism"

This piece of trivial information was not known to me until I
saw Marianne Faithfull interviewed on the BBC's Andrew Marr show
yesterday when she mentioned that although she has inherited her
title of Baroness, she doesn't actually use it.

Marian Evelyn Faithfull is Marianne Faithfull's name by birth,
and her mother was Baroness Eva Erisso von Sacher-Masoch. Her
father, Major Dr. Robert Glynn Faithfull, was a British military
officer and college professor in psychology.

Wikipedia mentions that Marianne Faithfull commented in March,
2007, "I'm even going to Budapest, which is nice because I'm
half English and half Austro-Hungarian. I've inherited the title
Baroness Sacher-Masoch - it comes from one of my great uncles
who gave his name to masochism."

Marianne Faithfull makes peace with her past
What I know about men - by Marianne Faithfull

sincerely,
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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: Fri, 6 Mar 2009 19:56:05 -0800 (PST)
From: MsLynn


Darryl (nuked_potatoes) wrote:

>Forever i have looked for this woman and only in a drunken
>stupor can i find anything close.


Sadly, an old phrase whose author I don't recall comes to mind,
"whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're
right." This is one of those occasions.

I and the many dominant women I know will neither cease to exist
nor pound down doors to prove ourselves.

Darryl (and anyone else who shares your opinion)
I wish you well.

MsLynn


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: 9 Mar 2009 18:01:14 -0000
From: MrSwitch


Moving away from particular kinks and roles.

I think a lot of frustrated 'sub' men I know really just want to
be with a lover who is as dominant with them as a vanilla man is
with a vanilla woman.

Which many people see as quite kinky!

For me it is all about mutuality. And I am very up front about
that in relationships. I have met many women who find this
liberating.

But they have to be dominant according to who they are. Not some
male fantasy.


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: Wed, 11 Mar 2009 10:17:45 -0700 (PDT)
From: Miss Stress


Darryl (nuked_potatoes) wrote:

>There is no such thing as a dominant female. I have to say it
>because it is how it is for me. There is no woman that does
>not want what she dreams and that is a man to care for her.
>There is nothing we can do about being a man, it is what it
>is. I ask myself who am i talking to? And of course it is
>myself.

Hmmm, is this the same nuked that I have chatted with for the
past several years? I do believe that I am a dominant woman, who
desires to do many wonderfully wicked things to men (and have
done them as well and enjoyed *e-v-e-r-y* minute while I was
doing it. Dominant women do exist, they just aren't hanging on a
"Dominant Female purchasing Tree" for you to just walk up and
pluck us away to the house.

>I want to tell the men though, there is no such woman that can
>release you from being a man. We must do our best with what we
>have and be proud as a man.

And why would I want to? I like men. I like men who choose to
submit to me. I don't look for, nor will I tolerate, a man who
feels as though he has to be "made" to submit. I don't tolerate
rebellious submissives either. I want my submissive partner to
reach his full potential in life not only with me as my partner,
but in all aspects of his life - work, leisure time, fatherhood,
everything.

>Forever i have looked for this woman and only in a drunken
>stupor can i find anything close.

Then maybe you might want to re-evaluate what it is you are
looking for. It's easy to say "I want a dominant woman." But it
is extremely difficult to say "I want a dominant female who is
into cross dressing, forced masturbation, who shackles me to the
bed at night and makes me sleep on the floor at her feet, and
will make me eat 'cum pops' every night." The more you know
about yourself, and about what it is that you want from a
relationship, the easier it makes it on finding what you want.

>It is because no woman came into life like this, even if she
>wants to be she cannot. Even if you want her to be she cannot.
>You can have her fuck You up the ass and she may like it but
>it is not what she needs or wants. It is the real truth of the
>matter we must be men and it is ok if you are gay or something
>like that for your woman. But you will never have a dominant
>woman they don't exist without a man. Women who were hurt or
>misled will argue with me for a brief moment but the truth is
>a woman wants a man.

Hell yeah I want a man. However, a man is NOT what makes me who
I am. I AM a dominant female, I have spent *way* too many years
kissing frogs to find my prince, and I'm still kissing the
frogs. I didn't wake up one morning and think to myself, "Oh,
gee, I think I'm going to go find me a punk to turn into my
bitch." My mother was ruler in my household growing up. Dad did
not argue with her, he did not berate her, she did not argue
with him or berate him either. Mom never mistreated my father,
yet she worked outside the home, while dad stayed home and
raised my brother and myself, he cooked and cleaned the house,
and did everything a good little houseboy did. My mother taught
me by example to become the dominant woman I am. This is not
kink for me, it is a lifestyle, and one I am pleased with and
wouldn't have any other way for my life.

>But a dominant woman can only achieve that if she has a man.
>There is nothing you can do about it, if you are a lesser man
>she may be content and grateful. But it will never be her
>passion. So there is no point in any of it really.

LOL. No point? Oh, there is a point honey. What would the point
be to simply fall in love? Love. What is the point of having
sex? feeling good, endorphines, release. What is the point in
having children? To truly know unconditional love, pride, joy,
contentment, peace. What is the point of working? That one's
easy - To have money to afford various things.

So what is the point of pursuing a D/s relationship? To find
that one (or more) special person(s) to find peace, contentment,
security, partnership, love, and whatever emotions/feelings one
seeks from a relationship. However, I do not *need* a man to
make me dominant, I AM dominant. I only need a man in my life to
involve myself in the few kink activities that I do enjoy, and
even then I don't *need* - I simply *want* him there.

Sincerely,
Saber

Miss Stress

"Vocabulary enables us to interpret and to express. If you have
a limited vocabulary, you will also have a limited vision and a
limited future." - Jim Rohn

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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
From: "Tony Kennedy"
Date: Thu, 12 Mar 2009 18:24:22 -0000


David.

Your response was excellent. I agreed with every word.


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: Thu, 12 Mar 2009 23:37:56 -0700 (PDT)
From: nuked potatoes


Hello Ms Christine And david,

I thought of the same thing when David wrote:

>The result is that you would be drunk and tired at the bottom of
>the hole with an empty bottle.

>Would you conclude that because you had found no gold, silver,
>or other precious metal during your dig, that precious metals
>don't exist?

I thought... exactly! i spend all my money on Women and Whiskey!
and the rest i waste :-) i tease and smile Ms Christine and
David of course :-)

i wrote that post in earnest (and i can't find Ms Tiger's email
i am so lame still...) However drunken stupor or not... (~wink~
to Ms Christine) I don't think kink (Dominant Women definition
should be discussed here) is really fair for most Women.

Even professional Dommes are in great need to be accepted, it is
not what they want or love, they are hard about love because
they were hurt. They claim power but it is not their true love,
like any of us..... and like all men they need to love. So again
i say there is no such thing as a dominant woman.

nuked_potatoes a.k.a darryl

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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: Fri, 13 Mar 2009 16:09:28 -0000
From: "David" at u4ds.com


Hello Nuked Potatoes / Darryl ,

you wrote:

>exactly!

Yes, but you only quoted two paragraphs from my reply to you,
and you missed out the most important points....

I (David) wrote:-

"all those precious metals do exist, because you've seen or
heard tell of them" - snip- "you must have been looking in the
wrong place"

you (nuked) wrote:

>i wrote that post in earnest (and i can't find Ms Tiger's email
>i am so lame still...) However drunken stupor or not

Are you lame Nuked? Or drunk in charge of a keyboard again?

I'm not aware of a "Ms Tiger" in the context of this discussion.
I imagine you are referring to Saber aka Miss Stress who has
replied to you several times recently, see the links here:-

u4ds.com/2009/02/dominant_woman_only_in_a_drunk.shtml#c006201

http://u4ds.com/2009/01/femdom_seeking_male.shtml#c006110

http://u4ds.com/2009/03/fantasy_is_fun.shtml#c006185

Of course if it's a tiger you a looking for, you can see some
pics here:-

http://www.google.com/search?q=Saber+toothed+tiger

But that kind of Saber is now extinct. ;-)

To email a real Saber (aka Miss Stress), I suggest you take a
look at the page you posted a message to Ms Saber on, as the
email is given at least twice on her ad at:-

http://u4ds.com/2009/01/femdom_seeking_male.shtml

you (nuked) wrote:

>I don't think kink (Dominant Women definition should be
>discussed here) is really fair for most Women.

That's a different subject entirely Nuked. Probably two
different subjects. Why don't you start different and more
sensible threads? Perhaps they could be entitled:-

"Is kink really fair for most Women?"

"Dominant Women definition needed"

you (nuked) wrote:

>Even professional Dommes are in great need to be accepted

Professional Dommes is yet another subject. And I suggest that
you could open another thread again to discuss your broad and it
seems to me rather silly generalisation as follows:-

you (nuked) wrote:

>it is not what they want or love, they are hard about love
>because they were hurt. They claim power but it is not their
>true love,

Surely you don't contend that those statements apply to all
"professional Dommes"? I'm sure there must be quite a few who
are neither "hard about love" or "were hurt".

Are you perhaps discussing one or two people you have met and
are generalising that those experiences apply to everybody?

>like any of us..... and like all men they need to love.

I don't see why you feel that love and domination/submission are
mutually exclusive. Surely the reading of DOMestic over the last
13 years has taught you that for many (if not most) of us here
it is all about loving domination and submission.

I'm sure there are some professional Dommes out there who both
love their work and who give loving domination to their clients.
Just as there are some who do not.

>So again i say there is no such thing as a dominant woman.

And that statement is demonstrably wrong, and just plain
silliness. If you were not such a long term reader of DOMestic
we would have dismissed your remark that there is "no such thing
as a dominant woman" as just flame bait.

Women obviously come in many types. Some of those types include
three or four of those that you are perhaps getting a bit
confused about. Kinky women, dominant women, and dominant kinky
women. There are lots of other types, and obviously there are
women who are neither dominant nor kinky,

Which type are you looking for? Kinky? Dominant? And yes there
are even dominantly kinky women and kinkily dominant women out
there.

If you read some of the replies to your message here at:-

http://u4ds.com/2009/02/dominant_woman_only_in_a_drunk.shtml

you will see that a few dominant women have already disagreed
with your statement that there is "no such thing as a dominant
woman".

sincerely,
David at u4ds.com

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Re: C: fantasy is fun
Date: Mon, 9 Mar 2009 10:12:19 -0700 (PDT)
From: Miss Stress (Saber)


nuked potatoes wrote:

>Mmmm but reality is different, especially for men :-)

Yes, reality is different - for everyone vs fantasy

>The real thing is love. What i have always heard at this site
>is communication with Your lover.

That is true, communication is essential to *any* relationship,
be it vanilla or cinnamon.

>geocities.com/nuked_potatoes/

I'll have to check out your website.

>"Be Yourself; Everyone else is taken." - Oscar Wilde

LOL! I love that tag line. :)

Saber


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S: Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Eleven
From: Shoekisser
Date: Thu, 15 Jan 2009 22:48:56 +0000


First chapter is at:-
http://u4ds.com/2008/11/anniversary_surprise.shtml


Anniversary Surprise

Chapter Eleven

The next morning she had me up and dressed in the maids dress
early to clean up from the party. Monday was a work day, but she
had me call and say I was sick. My bosses' assistant answered
the phone. She had been at the party, and laughed when I said I
was sick.

"I'll bet you are staying home to clean house. And I'll bet you
are appropriately attired. Tell me what you are wearing."

My wife was listening on the extension, and indicated that I
should comply.

"I'm wearing a black bra, black waist cincher, black hose, and
black patent heels with my maid's dress."

"What about panties? Are you wearing panties?"

"No"

I got zapped.

"No, Mistress."

"Why not?"

"Because my wife hasn't decided if I'm worthy of wearing
panties."

I had previously noticed a pattern develop. Starting two nights
before we were going to host a party, she would refuse my
request for sex. "I want you to be nice and horny the night of
the party." So I usually tried 3 nights before the party. She
knew what I was doing, but didn't object.

So, by Sunday night, I hadn't had any relief since Wednesday,
and the events of the past few days had resulted in a lot of
sexual frustration.

By Monday night I was ready to climb the walls. Lying awake, I
heard her breathing get regular, indicating she was asleep. I
very quietly rolled over onto my stomach, and rubbed against the
mattress, trying to get relief.

"What do you think you are doing?" accompanied by a severe jolt.

I immediately rolled onto my back and pled innocent.

"Well, if you want to have sex on your stomach, we can arrange
it."

She went to the closet, and got out her black leather corset and
put it on. Then black, knee-high, high heel boots, that I hadn't
seen before. I wondered when she had bought them, and whether it
was in anticipation of what was about to happen. Did she know I
would rebel and it would come to this? Finally, she attached the
dildo.

"If it's sex you want, then it's sex you'll get. Up on your
knees", punctuated by the zapper.

I struggled to comply.

She climbed on my back, pulled up my nighty, and skewered me
with the dildo. She wasn't at all gentle, and, in fact, seemed
to be consciously trying to hurt me. She succeeded.

"You have been very disobedient, and have been asking for this.
I can see we will have to do this on a regular basis. In fact,
we may re institute this part of the wedding ceremony in our
meetings, so it can be witnessed by the women you work with. Is
that what you want?"

I risked a zap by saying it, but I felt I must reply with, "No,
Mistress."

Instead of a zap I got a, "Then shape up or I'll do it. In the
mean time, you need to be punished for your outburst. What was
it you said, 'This nonsense has to stop?'..", accompanied by a
jolt. "..'There are going to be some changes made around
here?..", another jolt.

"You are right. Obviously, I haven't made your appearance
feminine enough. As a result, you've gotten too many macho
ideas. We'll fix that starting tomorrow. You will start wearing
a bra, waist cincher, and hose to work, and everywhere else, for
that matter. You will look more feminine at all times."

Tuesday morning, she had me shower, then put on a black bra,
waist cincher, and hose.

"I'm tempted to send you off to work without panties under your
pants."

Fearing that a possible erection would be obvious without
panties, I said. "Please don't do that."

"OK. but the next time you screw up, I will. Put on these
panties. I bought you a new shirt and tie to wear."

The shirt turned out to be a woman's shirt, that was white with
pale pink stripes. It was very tight, particularly across my
padded boobs. The tie was pink with black stylized MTs, the
ManTran logo.

"No socks, just put your shoes on over the hose."

When I was dressed she eyed me critically. "That's better, but
those shoes are too masculine. We'll have to take you shopping
for some more suitable shoes"

So I went to work among the women who had seen me dressed over
the weekend. They all, of course noticed the black bra showing
through the too tight shirt, and my ankles covered by black
hose. I got numerous remarks about my attire.

That night, after work, we met, and went shopping for shoes, in
a women's store, of course. The pair she selected weren't too
feminine, loafers, but definitely women's, with a 2" heel. We
stopped at a shoe repair store to have plates installed on the
heels so "You'll sound like a woman in heels, and people will
hear you coming."

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Is kink really fair for most Women?


From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Fri, 13 Mar 2009 18:18:10 -0000


Hello,

In "dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor", Nuked Potatoes
expressed the idea that kink is not really fair for most women.
Does it matter? I doubt that most men are kinky, so kink doesn't
need to be "fair for most women".

I don't think we need to concern ourselves with "most" people.
Because in developing a relationship between any couple, there
are only two people that matter.

I'm sure that many men are kinky, perhaps it is true that most
have some form of fetish, however mild? The psychological
literature, such as it is, seems to suggest that men do seem to
be more predisposed to fetishism. So perhaps there are more
kinky men than women? But, if that's true, don't let that deter
you.

I'm a dominant and demanding person but I'm not a naturally
kinky person. I don't think I'd ever had a kinky thought until I
met David. I certainly don't recall any.

David is just about as kinky a person as I've ever met, and
although he has a somewhat dominant personality, he is not
naturally a sexually dominant person. Sex mad perhaps, but not a
natural dominant in the dom/sub sense.

Being both sex mad and kinky, David was best suited to the
submissive role with me, and he knew himself and expressed that
idea from the outset of our relationship. For the 30 years
(since 1979) that we've been together, I have been (to use
David's phraseology) either dominantly kinky or kinkily
dominant, I'm not sure which. Perhaps both?

I've had a lot of fun with kinkiness. It's been a joy to involve
myself with those things that David is passionate about. Just as
David has enjoyed involving himself with those things that I'm
passionate about. That's what can happen in a loving
partnership. A couple can share and enjoy the things that their
partner enjoys.

The trick, it seems to me, is in finding a partner who you love,
and who loves you. To do that requires communicating openly,
preferably from the outset, about who you are. How can your
partner truly love you if they don't know who you are?

If it helps Nuked or any one else who has yet to find their
partner. I'd just like to point out that David and I did not
meet online or through contact ads. We didn't meet in a club or
discotheque, or through any organisation connected with kinky
interests. We met, like most folk probably do, in the
conventional manner through business and personal contacts.

If it's true that most women are not naturally or automatically
attracted to kink, then it might be best not to go looking for a
partner in the kinky scene. She (or he) may not be looking
there.

But once having a met a potential partner who you like a lot, if
you don't give that person a chance to know your kinky self,
you'll never find a partner who may love you for who you are,
and who may also want to share your kink with you.

sincerely,
Christine

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March 12, 2009

men who top from the bottom - submissive or not?


Date: Thu, 12 Mar 2009 14:23:21 -0000
From: Mistress P /sub_arub

Is he or isn't he?

I have two questions for the group, and am seeking responses
from experienced female dominants:


Is it possible that submissive men who top from the bottom don't
realize they are doing it (if left uncorrected)?

And if the submissive continues to top from the bottom, even
after being corrected a number of times, would you say he is
truly a submissive?

Mistress P

March 9, 2009

Baroness Sacher-Masoch - Masochism trivia


From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: 9 Mar 2009 18:46:19 -0000


Hello,

A piece of trivia for those interested in the origin of the word
Masochism.

Marianne Faithfull's maternal great-great-uncle was Leopold von
Sacher-Masoch
, the famous 19th century Austrian nobleman whose
erotic novel, "Venus in Furs", spawned the word "masochism"

Marianne Faithfull in Istanbul 2008

Marianne Faithfull - Istanbul 2008


This piece of trivial information was not known to me until I
saw Marianne Faithfull interviewed on the BBC's Andrew Marr show
yesterday when she mentioned that although she has inherited her
title of Baroness, she doesn't actually use it.

Marian Evelyn Faithfull is Marianne Faithfull's name by birth,
and her mother was Baroness Eva Erisso von Sacher-Masoch. Her
father, Major Dr. Robert Glynn Faithfull, was a British military
officer and college professor in psychology.

Wikipedia mentions that Marianne Faithfull commented in March,
2007, "I'm even going to Budapest, which is nice because I'm
half English and half Austro-Hungarian. I've inherited the title
Baroness Sacher-Masoch - it comes from one of my great uncles
who gave his name to masochism."

Marianne Faithfull makes peace with her past

What I know about men - by Marianne Faithfull

sincerely,
Christine at Ms-Christine.com

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March 7, 2009

Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Eleven

From: Shoekisser


First chapter is at:-
http://u4ds.com/2008/11/anniversary_surprise.shtml


Anniversary Surprise

Chapter Eleven

The next morning she had me up and dressed in the maids dress
early to clean up from the party. Monday was a work day, but she
had me call and say I was sick. My bosses' assistant answered
the phone. She had been at the party, and laughed when I said I
was sick.

"I'll bet you are staying home to clean house. And I'll bet you
are appropriately attired. Tell me what you are wearing."

My wife was listening on the extension, and indicated that I
should comply.

"I'm wearing a black bra, black waist cincher, black hose, and
black patent heels with my maid's dress."

"What about panties? Are you wearing panties?"

"No"

I got zapped.

"No, Mistress."

"Why not?"

"Because my wife hasn't decided if I'm worthy of wearing
panties."

I had previously noticed a pattern develop. Starting two nights
before we were going to host a party, she would refuse my
request for sex. "I want you to be nice and horny the night of
the party." So I usually tried 3 nights before the party. She
knew what I was doing, but didn't object.

So, by Sunday night, I hadn't had any relief since Wednesday,
and the events of the past few days had resulted in a lot of
sexual frustration.

By Monday night I was ready to climb the walls. Lying awake, I
heard her breathing get regular, indicating she was asleep. I
very quietly rolled over onto my stomach, and rubbed against the
mattress, trying to get relief.

"What do you think you are doing?" accompanied by a severe jolt.

I immediately rolled onto my back and pled innocent.

"Well, if you want to have sex on your stomach, we can arrange
it."

She went to the closet, and got out her black leather corset and
put it on. Then black, knee-high, high heel boots, that I hadn't
seen before. I wondered when she had bought them, and whether it
was in anticipation of what was about to happen. Did she know I
would rebel and it would come to this? Finally, she attached the
dildo.

"If it's sex you want, then it's sex you'll get. Up on your
knees", punctuated by the zapper.

I struggled to comply.

She climbed on my back, pulled up my nighty, and skewered me
with the dildo. She wasn't at all gentle, and, in fact, seemed
to be consciously trying to hurt me. She succeeded.

"You have been very disobedient, and have been asking for this.
I can see we will have to do this on a regular basis. In fact,
we may re institute this part of the wedding ceremony in our
meetings, so it can be witnessed by the women you work with. Is
that what you want?"

I risked a zap by saying it, but I felt I must reply with, "No,
Mistress."

Instead of a zap I got a, "Then shape up or I'll do it. In the
mean time, you need to be punished for your outburst. What was
it you said, 'This nonsense has to stop?'..", accompanied by a
jolt. "..'There are going to be some changes made around
here?..", another jolt.

"You are right. Obviously, I haven't made your appearance
feminine enough. As a result, you've gotten too many macho
ideas. We'll fix that starting tomorrow. You will start wearing
a bra, waist cincher, and hose to work, and everywhere else, for
that matter. You will look more feminine at all times."

Tuesday morning, she had me shower, then put on a black bra,
waist cincher, and hose.

"I'm tempted to send you off to work without panties under your
pants."

Fearing that a possible erection would be obvious without
panties, I said. "Please don't do that."

"OK. but the next time you screw up, I will. Put on these
panties. I bought you a new shirt and tie to wear."

The shirt turned out to be a woman's shirt, that was white with
pale pink stripes. It was very tight, particularly across my
padded boobs. The tie was pink with black stylized MTs, the
ManTran logo.

"No socks, just put your shoes on over the hose."

When I was dressed she eyed me critically. "That's better, but
those shoes are too masculine. We'll have to take you shopping
for some more suitable shoes"

So I went to work among the women who had seen me dressed over
the weekend. They all, of course noticed the black bra showing
through the too tight shirt, and my ankles covered by black
hose. I got numerous remarks about my attire.

That night, after work, we met, and went shopping for shoes, in
a women's store, of course. The pair she selected weren't too
feminine, loafers, but definitely women's, with a 2" heel. We
stopped at a shoe repair store to have plates installed on the
heels so "You'll sound like a woman in heels, and people will
hear you coming."

2009-03-07 ( 10 edited messages )


# Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor x 4
# C: fantasy is fun
# C: Devotional Sex
# C: Miss Whiplash lucky to be alive
# Re: P: dominant wife seeking couples with similar interests
# P: crossdresser into BD and forced fem
# S: Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Ten


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
From: "David" at u4ds.com
Date: Tue, 24 Feb 2009 02:28:15 -0000


Hello,

Darryl (nuked_potatoes) wrote:

>There is no such thing

Nuked, if you took a shovel and a bottle of whisky with you into
the garden. If you then started digging, taking a sip every once
in a while. If you climbed into the hole and kept digging and
sipping until the bottle was empty.

The result is that you would be drunk and tired at the bottom of
the hole with an empty bottle.

Would you conclude that because you had found no gold, silver,
or other precious metal during your dig, that precious metals
don't exist?

Would you then fall asleep, and when you woke up, realise that
all those precious metals do exist, because you've seen or heard
tell of them?

Then would you realise you must have been looking in the wrong
place and that going prospecting with a shovel and a bottle of
whisky in your back garden was not the best plan?

sincerely,
David

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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: 24 Feb 2009 04:13:31 -0000
From: Princess


Nuked....

I am sorry for you. Sorry that you have not found what you are
looking for.

But I have to tell you..... I am a female dominant. I have
dominated men and women. So if I exist, then other female
dominants exist. It's as plain as your nose on your face.

Princess
Female Dominant in California


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: 24 Feb 2009 04:54:30 -0000
From: jbj


Darryl (nuked_potatoes) wrote:

>no woman came into life like this, even if she wants to be she
>cannot. Even if you want her to be she cannot. You can have her
>fuck You up the ass and she may like it but it is not what she
>needs or wants. -snip- it will never be her passion


I have not met every woman or joined every group but in a
lifetime of such limited experience I agree with Darryl. I have
loved a number of women who because of their love for me tried
to be what I needed. It never worked. I don't blame or find any
fault with them, the need being my problem.

I believe the situation is totally a male creation. I don't
believe a woman exists who from the age of 3 was obsessed with
thoughts of totally dominating a male, disciplining him, making
him dress and act as her maid, and servicing her male lovers,
plus many other things too numerous to mention.

I could go on and on as could any other male submissive but
there is no point. Women just don't naturally think that way and
they shouldn't, and neither should men.

And to me the interesting question is why? Why isn't there one
bolt to fit a million nuts? Why does it seem that women don't
naturally obsess in an opposite manner from us? Where is their
need to dominate to match our need to submit?

I am old, and I always thought it would go away, but the
feelings I did not understand at three years old are just at
strong today. I now realize they are me and will never go away.
Everything I know or read indicates women do not have the same
feelings. It is all male generated.

And I am not saying that domineering women do not exist. I hope
you understand that is an entirely different creature. That is
the way I feel but after Darryl opened this up I would love to
see you flooded with letters from women who say I am wrong.

What bothers me most are submissive men who bitch and complain
about women because they can't find a mistress. Those men should
look in the mirror and take Pogo's advice,"We have met the enemy
and he is US."


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Re: C: dominant woman - only in a drunken stupor
Date: 24 Feb 2009 19:52:14 -0000
From: MissE


I wholeheartedly agree with David on the subject.

No I did not dream of sissyfication from an early age. I did
always feel a sense of "I want one" when I saw a cross-dresser.
I felt the need to tease and humiliate men.

I noticed, before I found kink, that most men found me to be too
dominant both in and out of bed.

Once I found kink, I met submissive men and felt at ease
finally, at least a lot more. I could give up trying not to be
dominant, I accepted that as what I was. One of the features I
did find a lot were the do-me sub that wanted me to be the
dominant of their dreams, without even considering becoming the
submissive of my dreams. Thus, IMO, still trying to rule the
relationship, whilst being served their fantasies. At the same
time they then do not feel dominated (duh!) and blame the
dominant for that.

Topping from the bottom like that has resulted more than once in
me not getting past the point of a nice chat with such men. Not
all submissives are like that, but I have met one too many like
it to discard it as a one-off.

I did find myself a true submissive man and I am not saying I
will not indulge my boy in his fantasies. I will and I do listen
to what he wants and likes and give it to him as a reward for
good behaviour. His aim is to make me happy and so what I like,
to please me.

Fortunately we are extremely kink compatible so there is no real
issue. He is lucky that he gets what he likes because I happen
to like the same thing. That is except for flogging which I like
to do on occasion and he is not a fan of. Too bad for him, I
still flog him when I want to.

So men whom cannot find a dominant should consider their own
actions in the process. Stop telling the woman in your life what
you want and start listening to what she wants.

MissE


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C: fantasy is fun
Date: Tue, 3 Mar 2009 22:25:01 -0800 (PST)
From: nuked potatoes


Mmmm but reality is different, especially for men :-)

The real thing is love. What i have always heard at this site is
communication with Your lover.

nuked potatoes

http://www.geocities.com/nuked_potatoes/index.html

"Be Yourself; Everyone else is taken." - Oscar Wilde


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C: Devotional Sex
Date: 4 Mar 2009 02:22:14 -0000
From: MichaelK


I'm a long-term reader of DOMestic, but this might be my first
post.

I have certainly learned much from reading this digest, and
before telling you my story, I wish to thank our hosts and all
those who have posted over the years.

My personal journey started with playing some Mistress / slave
games with a partner. Each time we started a game we both very
much enjoyed it.

We used to practice ejaculation denial, and I very much enjoyed
my energy increasing over the days.

But my partner did not want to be dominant all of the time, and
often after a few days my energy would be too much for her and
she wanted to go back to normal. Sometime our game would end in
tears.

What changed everything for us was when I read the book "The
Multi-Orgasmic Man", and then learned this technique.

Learning to orgasm without ejaculation, and to calm my erotic
energy, was the break through that made a huge difference.

Our mild FemDom games then became full-time. For the last two or
three years of this relationship I was always her Knight, and
she was always my Princess.

After this relationship ended I realized that adding the Taoist
multi-orgasmic man technique (plus a taste of Tantra) to FemDom
had created something that was not written about elsewhere.

I decided it needed a name, and I called it Devotional Sex.

Perhaps the biggest practical difference between Devotional Sex
and standard FemDom is that with Devotional Sex the woman does
not need to be dominant.

In my dating after my long-term relationship I told all my dates
about Devotional Sex. I was amazed by the results. Many dates
liked the idea, and all my first intimacy with a new date over
the last few years has used Devotional Sex.

I am in the process of writing a website about Devotional Sex.
As my site is free and contains no advertising, I hope our hosts
think it is ok to tell you that the site is:
http://devotionalsex.com

I have gained so much from reading what others have written over
the years that this site is my way of giving something back.

It is such a huge task to write everything that much of my site
is not yet written. But I trust those who look at it will
appreciate the opportunity to read what has been written so far.

I am currently dating Princess Ada, and you might be interested
in reading the real-life story of our very first date at:
http://devotionalsex.com/15real_ada_1intro.html

At the moment I am writing a detailed Blog about our Devotional
Sex life.

The first entry of this Blog is at:
http://devotionalsex.com/15blog_ada1.html

and the most recent entries are at:
http://devotionalsex.com/15blog_ada.html

Most of the stories in DOMestic have been fantasy. I hope some
of you enjoy reading a detailed blow-by-blow account of the joys
of my reality.

What has worked for me might also work for you:

Men who want to live FemDom but have a partner who does not want
to be their full-time Mistress may find that their partner is
happy to become their Princess.

And men who want to enjoy FemDom in their dating might, like me,
find success in dating "normal" women and telling them about
Devotional Sex.

And I hope some women learn about Devotional Sex and decide that
this is right for them.

Of course I am not suggesting that Devotional Sex is the best
way for everyone to enjoy FemDom. But it has worked so well for
me I am sure that it will also work well for some others.

Best wishes to all,
MichaelK

Devotional Sex

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C: Miss Whiplash lucky to be alive
From: "DOMestic"
Date: Sun, 01 Mar 2009 12:02:49 -0000


The 57-year-old Lindi St Clair, prominent in the UK media as
Miss Whiplash in the 1980s is in a "poorly but stable" condition
after being trapped upside down overnight in her car in a brook
near Risbury village in Herefordshire. She is being treated at
Birmingham's Selly Oak Hospital.

Ms St Clair drove off a road Thursday afternoon and plunged 15ft
(4.5m) down an embankment. She was spotted by a passer by in an
upturned Jeep Wrangler in the water about 22 hours later on
Friday and rescued.

She was conscious and was flown to hospital, but had hypothermia
and multiple injuries. Police said the road was very remote. It
took about two hours for Hereford and Worcester Fire and Rescue
Service to cut her out of the car. A spokesman said the car
ended up on its roof in a stream in the Leominster area and Ms
St Clair was lucky to be alive.

Ms St Clair claimed a number of MPs and other senior public
figures were among her clients in the 1980s. She stood for
Parliament for The Corrective Party in nine by-elections. The
party campaigned for the liberalisation of British laws on
prostitution and the sex trade. Her bankruptcy, in 1992,
disqualified her from standing again.

In the 1990s, she left her successful dungeon in Charlton
(Eastcombe Avenue), London, which sported pictures of famous
people and cabinet ministers on the wall, and moved to a farm in
rural Risbury, Herefordshire, where she lives, raising ducks,
geese, chickens and rabbits.

Links display here to:-

"Miss Lindi St. Clair - My Biography".

"May 2005 Interview with Miss Whiplash"


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Re: P: dominant wife seeking couples with similar interests
Date: 6 Mar 2009 14:01:25 -0000
From: Lady Marion, and My sissi


Ms. Kitty wrote:

>Recently, we became interested in developing friendships with
>other couples (man and women) who believe the wife is in charge
>and the disciplinarian. We are seeking a couple like ourselves.


Hiya Ms.Kitty,

I'm Lady Marion, i absolutely love to Domme My sissy boyfriend.
We are both married to other partners, But they know and allow
us our relationship 'cause they are not into the scene.

When we meet at a friends Safe apartment I dress 'sissi' up in
the Underwear that I've worn all day, tie 'her' up (TIGHTLY)
verbally humiliate 'her', and then, My Favourite, Beat 'her'
Panty clad sissy bott'.

'she' then has to perform any sexual pleasures i desire, Then is
Forced to make love to me until i tell 'her' to cum.

We've been together like this for ten years now, Both very
content with the situation. We do many more (loving and nasty
things) but will write more if you find that you are interested
in us.

We both love to know what you get up to in greater detail. We
are 100% discrete, honest and genuinely friendly. we belong to a
couple of BDSM clubs in Our area, Nottingham, England.

Please Both, keep Safe and Well.

Best Wishes,
Marion, and sissi


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P: crossdresser into BD and forced fem
Date: 27 Feb 2009 05:29:17 -0000
From: Lance (Sheila)


Hi,

I'm Lance, 38, CD, Sheila when dressed. I am divorced, but
seeking a Lady for dating, going out to dinner, movies, beaches,
travel, clubbing, just plain fun and enjoying each others
company. Whatever develops beyond that happens.

I am a sub, and get pleasure in pampering a Lady, treating HER
special and exist for her pleasure and comfort. I am weak as a
male, and too weak to become the woman that I am inside without
help and guidance.

I enjoy B and D, role/p, forced fem, maid service, many other
fetishes, no blood, no scat, most anything consensual. If you
think I might please you in some small way, lets have dinner at
your favorite restaurant.

Prefer 28-55 femdom, or TV.

Respectfully Yours,
sheila

The above ad was posted without a location from an IP address
in Dayton, Ohio. See posting guidelines at:-
http://u4ds.com/guidelines_for_posting_and_per.shtml


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S: Anniversary Surprise - Chapter Ten
From: Shoekisser
Date: Thu, 15 Jan 2009 22:48:56 +0000


First chapter is at:-
http://u4ds.com/2008/11/anniversary_surprise.shtml


Anniversary Surprise

Chapter Ten


So I spent half a day at the beauty parlor. I went in my male
clothing, which turned out to be a mistake. Just walking into
one of those places is guaranteed to get a man instantly
noticed. Then when the operators started working on me, every
eye in the place was on me.

The night of the party my wife insisted I had developed enough
flab around my waist that the waist cincher was necessary. After
she laced me painfully into it, I got dressed in my black bra,
black panties, black hose, and 4 inch' black patent heels. She
also insisted the dress didn't look right without petticoats.
When I complained, she threatened to make me wear the super
short dress, so I shut up.

The party was every bit as humiliating as I expected. I
frequently had to raise my skirt to show off my panties. Many of
the women, whom I had known for years, and were always
respectful and well-behaved, reached up under my skirt and
fondled me. I suspected my wife had suggested it.

During the course of the evening, my wife handed out many
ManTran cards to interested women. I learned later that she
would get a $100 commission for every successful referral.
Somehow those checks went for clothes for her, not to reduce the
balance I had to pay ManTran.

The party was such a success that it was repeated every other
month or so. I continued to agree, faced with the threat of
exposure to my co-workers. I learned it was better to go to the
beauty parlor in feminine clothes. The staff, of course, knew I
was a man, but I was able to fool some of the customers.

Then It happened. I opened the door at one of the parties,
curtsied, and was appalled to see my female co-workers.

"You lied to me. You said you wouldn't tell them."

"Actually, I didn't. One of my friends must have told them about
the web site, and shared the password. They called wanting to
see you dressed. I didn't see any harm in it."

I immediately kicked off the heels, and went into the bedroom. I
tore off the dress, petticoats, bra, waist cincher and hose, and
left them in a pile on the floor. I dressed in male clothing,
except I left the panties on since I didn't have any male
underwear. I tore off the hair piece, and washed off the makeup.
I stormed out through the living room full of suddenly quiet
women, and left, slamming the door as I did. I went to a bar,
where I got very drunk.

When I got home about 2 AM, my wife was already asleep. I kicked
off my shoes and collapsed on the bed with my clothes on. I
expected all hell to break loose the next morning, but she
didn't say a word. I undressed and showered. I remembered I
didn't have any male underwear, so I reluctantly put on a clean
pair of panties and finished dressing.

I left, drove to a nearby department store, and bought some male
underwear. After paying for it, I slipped into a men's room
stall and replaced the panties with my purchase. The panties
went into the waste basket.

When I got home, my wife still wasn't talking.

"This nonsense has to stop."

"Yes, dear," she replied, as she served me breakfast.

"There are going to be some changes made around here."

"Whatever you say, dear."

Feeling good about how well that went, but still somewhat hung
over, I took the morning paper to the bedroom and lay down on
the bed to read it. I soon fell asleep.

I was suddenly awakened by a sharp pain in my crotch. I looked
down and saw that the dreaded ball ring had been installed
during my nap. I was also naked.

"Get on your feet," punctuated by another jolt. I struggled to
my feet, feeling like crap. This was worse than any hangover,
and a nap usually helped me to recover. Did she drug my
breakfast?

"Since you can't seem to behave without it. I decided you will
wear the device for a while. Get up and get dressed."

I looked for my male clothing but it was nowhere in sight. She
pointed at the pile of clothes I had dropped on the floor last
night. "Hang up the dress and petticoats and put everything else
on."

I put on the bra, and waist cincher, and sat on the edge of the
bed to pull the hose on and fasten them to the garters. She
replaced the 4 inch heels with the 5 inch pair.

"Since you don't seem to like those shoes, you can try these."

She then tightened the waist cincher tighter than it had ever
been, got the super short maid's dress out of the closet, and
told me to put it on.

"Where are your panties?"

"I threw them in the trash in the department store men's room."

"Let's go get them, and you better hope they're still there."

She drove us to the store and followed me into the men's room.
Some guy was standing at the row of sinks washing his hands. He
looked up to see this 6' 5" tall creature dressed in a short
maid's dress, hose and heels, but with definitely male features,
and not much hair. He then saw my wife walk in. He rushed out in
panic without drying his hands. My wife held the door open for
him and smiled.

I frantically dug in the waist basket, and fortunately, found
the panties under a pile of wet paper towels. My wife took them,
said "Let's go. We need to get your hair done," and led me out
of the store.

She drove to the beauty parlor where we were expected. She
greeted the operators with, "We had a little rebellion last
night, and need to repair the damage."

Being Sunday morning, the place was empty. I was permitted to
stay dressed this time, but the short dress with no panties
presented a modesty problem. That amused the operators. The
manicurist painted my fingernails bright red while the hair
dresser restored my hair piece. Then my makeup was re-done.

"Those eyebrows have gotten unruly. Shall I trim then?"

"They certainly need it. I have been settling for just a trim
around the edges, so he wouldn't look too bad dressed as a man,
but I think his recent actions call for something more drastic.
I have avoided it until now, but I want them plucked."

I opened my mouth to object, and got zapped before I could say a
word. I wound up with just very thin high arches where my brows
used to be.

"We now have the ability to do permanent makeup. We tattoo the
brow ridges, and also tattoo eye liner and lip liner. It's
definitely permanent. You should consider it for him."

"I'll keep that in mind, but we're kind of rushed today. Pay the
lady, and include a generous tip, since you screwed up their
Sunday."

I obeyed.

I noticed a ManTran business card on the bulletin board on our
way out.

I didn't understand the rush until we got home and she
explained. "Since you made such a fool of yourself last night, I
decided you need an opportunity to apologize to all the women
who were here. So, they're all coming over this afternoon. You
will greet each of them at the door, curtsy, and drop to your
knees and apologize while kissing their shoes. Understand?"

"Yes", which got me zapped.

"Have you forgotten the appropriate response already?"

"No, Mistress, I mean. 'Yes, Mistress'"

So, I spent the afternoon shoe kissing and apologizing to all
the women I work with, while dressed in an unbelievably short
maid's dress. I also served drinks, and there seemed to be a
conspiracy to get me to bend over and expose my self even more.

Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse, my wife handed me
a little blue pill and told me to take it. I said, "No", got a
jolt, argued some more, got another harder jolt, and wound up on
my knees, taking the pill. The result was predictable, my short
skirt became a tent. This, of course attracted lots of
attention.

"Is it real?"

"Let me touch it."

"I've worked with you for years, and didn't know you had such
talent."

There also were numerous attempts to solve my problem, including
the usual slaps, and application of heels to appropriate places.
One sweet, little, respectable co-worker, who had never appeared
to be at all aggressive, even immersed it in a glass full of ice
and water. It was painful, but fruitless. Nothing worked.

My wife handed out a pile of ManTran cards. An older woman who I
didn't know asked numerous questions about my stay at ManTran.
After 20 minutes of interrogation, she told me who she was, the
wife of the president of my company.

"And if you even hint to him about this, I'll see that you get
fired, and your wife will probably castrate you."

All I could do was think, "The poor man. He doesn't know what
he's in for." But, I believed her and refrained from warning
him.

When they all finally left, I was directed to get the mattress
out of the guest room and put it on the floor at the foot of our
bed. I was to resume the sleeping arrangements used at the
academy, complete with arm binder.

"Take off your dress and heels. Everything else stays on under
your nighty."

I reluctantly obeyed.


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March 4, 2009

fantasy is fun


Date: Tue, 3 Mar 2009 22:25:01 -0800 (PST)
From: nuked potatoes


Fantasy is fun. Mmmm but reality is different, especially for men :-)

The real thing is love. What i have always heard at this site is
communication with Your lover.


nuked potatoes

http://www.geocities.com/nuked_potatoes/index.html

"Be Yourself; Everyone else is taken." - Oscar Wilde

Devotional Sex

Date: 4 Mar 2009 02:22:14 -0000
From: MichaelK


I'm a long-term reader of DOMestic, but this might be my first
post.

I have certainly learned much from reading this digest, and
before telling you my story, I wish to thank our hosts and all
those who have posted over the years.

My personal journey started with playing some Mistress / slave
games with a partner. Each time we started a game we both very
much enjoyed it.

We used to practice ejaculation denial, and I very much enjoyed
my energy increasing over the days.

But my partner did not want to be dominant all of the time, and
often after a few days my energy would be too much for her and
she wanted to go back to normal. Sometime our game would end in
tears.

What changed everything for us was when I read the book "The
Multi-Orgasmic Man", and then learned this technique.

Learning to orgasm without ejaculation, and to calm my erotic
energy, was the break through that made a huge difference.

Our mild FemDom games then became full-time. For the last two or
three years of this relationship I was always her Knight, and
she was always my Princess.

After this relationship ended I realized that adding the Taoist
multi-orgasmic man technique (plus a taste of Tantra) to FemDom
had created something that was not written about elsewhere.

I decided it needed a name, and I called it Devotional Sex.

Perhaps the biggest practical difference between Devotional Sex
and standard FemDom is that with Devotional Sex the woman does
not need to be dominant.

In my dating after my long-term relationship I told all my dates
about Devotional Sex. I was amazed by the results. Many dates
liked the idea, and all my first intimacy with a new date over
the last few years has used Devotional Sex.

I am in the process of writing a website about Devotional Sex.
As my site is free and contains no advertising, I hope our hosts
think it is ok to tell you that the site is:
http://devotionalsex.com

I have gained so much from reading what others have written over
the years that this site is my way of giving something back.

It is such a huge task to write everything that much of my site
is not yet written. But I trust those who look at it will
appreciate the opportunity to read what has been written so far.

I am currently dating Princess Ada, and you might be interested
in reading the real-life story of our very first date at:
http://devotionalsex.com/15real_ada_1intro.html

At the moment I am writing a detailed Blog about our Devotional
Sex life.

The first entry of this Blog is at:
http://devotionalsex.com/15blog_ada1.html

and the most recent entries are at:
http://devotionalsex.com/15blog_ada.html

Most of the stories in DOMestic have been fantasy. I hope some
of you enjoy reading a detailed blow-by-blow account of the joys
of my reality.

What has worked for me might also work for you:

Men who want to live FemDom but have a partner who does not want
to be their full-time Mistress may find that their partner is
happy to become their Princess.

And men who want to enjoy FemDom in their dating might, like me,
find success in dating "normal" women and telling them about
Devotional Sex.

And I hope some women learn about Devotional Sex and decide that
this is right for them.

Of course I am not suggesting that Devotional Sex is the best
way for everyone to enjoy FemDom. But it has worked so well for
me I am sure that it will also work well for some others.

Best wishes to all,
MichaelK

Devotional Sex

March 1, 2009

Miss Whiplash lucky to be alive

The 57-year-old Lindi St Clair, prominent in the UK media as
Miss Whiplash in the 1980s is in a "poorly but stable" condition
after being trapped upside down overnight in her car in a brook
near Risbury village in Herefordshire. She is being treated at
Birmingham's Selly Oak Hospital.

Lindi St Clair in 1989
Lindi St Clair in 1989 - photo from BBC News

Ms St Clair drove off a road Thursday afternoon and plunged 15ft
(4.5m) down an embankment. She was spotted by a passer by in an
upturned Jeep Wrangler in the water about 22 hours later on
Friday and rescued.


She was conscious and was flown to hospital, but had hypothermia
and multiple injuries. Police said the road was very remote. It
took about two hours for Hereford and Worcester Fire and Rescue
Service to cut her out of the car. A spokesman said the car
ended up on its roof in a stream in the Leominster area and Ms
St Clair was lucky to be alive.

Ms St Clair claimed a number of MPs and other senior public
figures were among her clients in the 1980s. She stood for
Parliament for The Corrective Party in nine by-elections. The
party campaigned for the liberalisation of British laws on
prostitution and the sex trade. Her bankruptcy, in 1992,
disqualified her from standing again.

In the 1990s, she left her successful dungeon in Charlton
(Eastcombe Avenue), London, which sported pictures of famous
people and cabinet ministers on the wall, and moved to a farm in
rural Risbury, Herefordshire, where she lives, raising ducks,
geese, chickens and rabbits.

Links below to:-

"Miss Lindi St. Clair - My Biography".

"May 2005 Interview with Miss Whiplash"

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