Chastity in the Third Age - using my favourite devices
Date: Fri, 25 Feb 2022 00:44:21 -0000
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
It's been a while since anyone posted here on DOMestic. I hope this update on how David and I have been spending our days stimulates some conversation.
I recently noticed how 'inexpensive' chastity cages for men are nowadays, just as as an example these two I saw on Amazon are now at the 'toys' level of pricing.
At those prices I was happy to buy a couple of 'cheap' chastity cages for shorter term play, rather than try for long term chastity with possibly more expensive or complicated devices. I'll explain...
As long time readers of DOMestic will know, I've never thought that chastity can realistically be imposed on a wanker who is determined to defeat the device by hook or by crook. This is why until recently I only used a homemade spiked penis corset instead of buying an expensive chastity cage. Instructions for making a spiked penis corset are on the DOMestic web site.
My three favourite devices are currently the chastity spikes, the cane, and a small strap on dildo,
and I use them all, if not daily, then many times during the average week. I use the threesome in combination to tease and deny. I've now added a couple of chastity cages as a fun and gentler variation from my use of the spikes.
Even if the male can't remove a chastity device, he can usually find a way to fiddle with himself through any type of restrainer enough to get some stimulation, and can when desperate, bring about some leakage, or even a full blown orgasm. I only use the word orgasm here for the sake of clarity. In our home I always insist that the male 'orgasm' is referred to as a 'spurt' or a 'squirt' and that male masturbation is wanking or fiddling. It is especially important to humiliate the wanker by making him use derogatory terminology when admitting to such 'offensive' activity. But enough digression for now....
I have been keeping David in the spikes every night, so that he can't have a spurt without suffering greatly for my amusement. He knows, because I tell him frequently, that I enjoy the idea that his wanking is painful unless he requested permission for it. And of course, if he does request permission, then I get to enjoy his humiliation at asking for permission and I get to tell him how pathetic he is when he does so. It's delicious how he can't win :-)
As if my pleasure is not reason enough for any male, I can offer the male another rationale for why chastity restraints are 'for their own good'. For example I can tell him it has to be painful for males, otherwise they would all be wanking too much, and squirt more than is healthy. Spurting twice a week is more than enough for male prostate health. And more than twice a week is very bad for male attitude generally. Lectures along these lines often occur during his frequent canings.
In my system of control, as well as the stick, there is also the carrot. So I tell him that the pain of the spikes is to help him control himself so that he can benefit when I allow him a spurt without the spikes. To have any chance of getting a reward like that he needs to get his unsupervised squirts down to less than once every 4 days. Remember that more than twice a week is bad for male attitude. So, if he manages to go a full 4 or five days without a spurt, he is allowed to request a "little wank".
I try to make it hard for him to last through even one night by dropping my panties into his lap at my bedtime after I've kissed him goodnight. That tends to ensure he almost never makes it to 5 days without spurting, so I don't have to supervise the messy squirty business too often.
At around 8pm in the evenings, I either put on his spikes myself, or supervise as I order him to do so in front of me as I relax with a glass on wine. As an additional cruel temptation, I often tell him that he is not allowed to fiddle with himself, even with the spikes in place without sniffing my panties to remind him of my control.
Sometimes I'll send for him after I've retired to my bed, I'll give him my vibrator and tell him to warm it up for me. I make him suck on it to get it nice and warm. While he's doing that I tell him I will not be needing him but he'll find my panties in the laundry basket in the en-suite bathroom. "I'll enjoy thinking of your spikes digging in while you sniff them."
I try to moan loudly as I orgasm as I know he'll be in the en-suite bathroom probably hoping to be summoned even though I told him I would not need him.
The advantage of a chastity cage over the spikes is that I can prolong his restraint into the daytime when we are not in company or out and about. Even a cock that's been toughened up needs some relief from tormenting spikes, but now I can grant that while continuing the restraint. Another advantage is that cages can even be used when washing and showering making sneaky wanking even harder.
He gets a severe caning of well over 40 strokes on a monthly basis as a reminder of what will happen if he misbehaves and I always make that heavy caning hard for him to take.
I also give him a very light caning on a regular, sometimes daily basis, at which time he receives six to a dozen or more strokes of the cane after breakfast.
I question him during the discipline session to check that the spikes have been kept in place for all his unsupervised wanking.
During such questioning I have the opportunity to express my pleasure at hearing about how his 'squirts' were painful. And my deliberately expressed joy at hearing such tales of frustration and suffering form the basis of his own intense pleasure in believing he has to suffer for my pleasure.
For those who might think I'm giving the game away by acknowledging what he finds sexy to believe, and that David will know my mind when he reads this article, let me reassure you (and him) that the two things can be true at the same time. In consensual FemDom the dominant can understand the pleasure of the submissive while she enjoys herself.
I don't lock him into the spikes and I like to leave him with the ability to misbehave, as that provides a lovely excuse for the monthly severe caning. I love to let him complain that it hurts so that I can tell him "It's supposed to hurt," and explain why he has to suffer.
During his monthly caning I might ask him things like, "Do you know why you have to be caned severely like this?" And if he doesn't provide an amusing answer, he can experience the pleasure of my telling him that I have to make it painful to force him to accept the unpleasantly controlled masturbation at night.
"I love hearing how you suffer wanking with the spikes, and you wouldn't suffer for me if I didn't cane you like this would you?"
This helps him suspend the reality and pretend it's only about my need to be cruel. He doesn't have to admit to himself that he enjoys that cruelty. The double-think makes role play all the more fun for dominant and submissive.
I'll try to let you know a bit about my use of my favourite strap-ons/dildos to enhance tease and denial in my next post.