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June 30, 2012

I am unproven as a sub

From: Suzanne
Date: Sat, 30 Jun 2012 12:13:25 -0500

Help please, I am new to all this. I am in a one month
relationship that is still in the online stage. I have never
been in a D/s relationship before. The guy seems very genuine
and explains much to me. He has been pleased with my progress
and told me he would increase the level of control over me. He
has been very good about educating me and patient with me.

One of the things he had asked me to do was write to him about
some particular sexual experiences I've had. I didn't have time.
He expressed his displeasure over that yesterday and spoke to me
sharply. It hurt my feelings because I felt like we were growing
so close and he had just said the day before that we are gaining
trust in each other every day and it shows. And that I had
pleased him.

Well I did not react well to him speaking sharply to me first
thing in the morning. And I asked him not to growl. I wasn't
insolent but I complained and I gave excuses about why I had not
completed my writing assignment.

I know he is just tightening the screws as he promised he would.
I am unproven as a sub. He says his job is to slowly educate me
till one or both of us knows this life is not for me - or I
wonder where it has been all my life.

He hasn't written to me since snapping at me. I finished my
writing assignment and I have written apologies and that his
silence seems to be my punishment, that I accept and deserve it
and am trying to learn from it.

It just would be so very nice if I had anyone I could talk to
about this path and the relationship.

I found your blog to be the most helpful one I've read so far.
Is there a way to subscribe to it via email?

Thanks so much.


June 8, 2012

Denial the fantasy and the reality

Date: Fri, 8 Jun 2012 17:56:55 +0100 (BST)
From: Paul Carter

I am a 49 year old male based in the uk. I have become
fascinated by the prospect of being denied but sometimes
allowed, hopefully, release. I gather this is a common fantasy.

I suppose my ideal fantasy would be to serve a couple of good
looking twenty something goddesses being locked in a chastity
device and each of them to have a key. I would do all their
housework and garden duties, sweating and toiling all day for
their benefit. Maybe at the end of a day one or the other would
unlock me so I could self relieve. More often I would be mocked
and dismissed to spend another night building up my tension
until one or the other showed mercy.

The fantasy is not going to happen as I am in a loving vanilla
relationship but, due to circumstances, now celibate.

Would it appeal to any lady readers to email me from time to
time to deny and allow me to masturbate at their say so? I would
find this very exciting.

Possibly it would amuse some lady to exercise distance control
in this way. Possibly a girl with a male partner sub to
demonstrate to him her power across the world.

If I were to receive communication I would always reply
respectfully. I am happy for DOMestic to publish to my email

One final point I would never wish to offend any lady readers
and hopefully I have put my request in a polite manner,

thank you

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