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October 8, 2014

he is only allowed sexual pleasure when he takes it from behind

From: Judy
Date: Wed, 8 Oct 2014 11:05:38 -0400 (EDT)

Re: can my sub be obliged to beg to pegged?

I have moved on with my sub and he is no longer permitted any
kind of orgasm other than when I peg him


This seems to have really changed his thinking, somewhat
transforming him

Would love to hear feedback on any others who have done this?

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March 5, 2013

can my sub be obliged to beg to pegged?

Date: 5 Mar 2013 15:05:42 -0000
From: judy

I want my sub to get used to only being allowed to orgasm by
asking me to peg him and not permitted to orgasm by any other

Is this possible?

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November 3, 2011

submits only if done his way

From: Angeloftheknight
Date: Thu, 3 Nov 2011 11:13:10 +0000

I am having a few problems getting My husband to submit totally
to Me. I'll give you some background on us in the hope you can
advise me.

My husband and I have only been together 3 years. I'm 41, he is
58. Between us we have 5 children in the house ranging from 17
to 2 years old. My husband has in the past, from what he has
told me, been on line as a male Dom. Although he has never had a
submissive partner in the D/s sense of the word.

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July 6, 2009

Domestic Discipline - Disciplinary Wives

From: "David" at MsChristine.com / u4ds.com
Date: Mon, 06 Jul 2009 04:08:50 +0100

Disciplinary Wives and the Domestic Discipline they administer.
by David (see "Author's Note" at the foot of this post)

I'm David, I'm a male submissive, and Christine is my lifetime
partner. Christine made me happy by becoming my disciplinary
wife some 30 years ago in 1979. Our 30th anniversary was in June
2009. I mention this to demonstrate that FemDom can lead to
longevity in relationships and it's not just about kinky sex
games in the bedroom.

Rather than talk only about us I want to explore in this brief
article some of the many facets of "Domestic Discipline" and
"Disciplinary Wives". Domestic Discipline may be practiced by
other couples, where the male is defined as the dominant
partner, and I've no doubt that works for some, but here I'm
primarily discussing FemDom relationships.

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June 17, 2009

Real life Fem Dom

Date: Wed, 17 Jun 2009 11:20:10 -0000
From: "MaitresseX"

I have been a member of the DOMestic Yahoo Group for many years.
I have found this list very helpful to me personally/my
relationship. Kudos to Ms. Christine and David.

I have been part of the "scene" for many years as well though
that was not satisfying to me. It is fun to go to fetish/bdsm
parties but it was not real and just role-play at that moment in
time. I have a 24/7 Ds relationship for five and a half years
and I also have slaves/submissives. The 24/7 relationship has
had it ups and downs and outside/real life challenges but I can
safely say that we are now on the right and positive path. Over
the years dominating my slave was very intense in the beginning
and then mixed until now. I am now combining the intensity with
consistent "sessions".

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June 7, 2009

keeping sub hubby nude - chastity a start?

From: Ashley
Date: Sat, 6 Jun 2009 20:38:47 EDT

my name is Ashley... married four years and getting into this
lifestyle... and of course some problems...

do you have any suggestions on making my sub hubby stay nude at

he is quite shy... and slowly learning... i know he needs to be
dominated.. but sometimes it's hard to get him to comply...

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November 3, 2007

Thank you - fixing my dominance

posted by: Precious - MJ W
posted on: Sat, 3 Nov 2007 09:42:34 -0400 (EDT)

Hello Everyone!

Sorry I couldn't reply sooner - busy as usual.

I actually got to sit with my coffee this morning and catch up
on the posts. At first I was not pleased with what I read. It
did seem cold and nasty without context - however I kept reading
and Madamplz you have caught my attention. Your posts ABOUT me
were much more helpful than your post TO me.

I'm guessing it's because I'm new and you could let your guard
down more easily with those you already know.

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October 29, 2007

real Dom vs play Domme

posted by: Madamplz
posted on: Mon, 29 Oct 2007 16:30:26 EDT

In "real" Domme, surferslave wrote:

>All of the above does not really matter in the case of Precious
>because they are already married. From what I read in her post,
>and is commonly the case, her husband would like to be
>dominated. What is somewhat unusual is that Precious is open to
>working towards that goal. Kudos to Precious for that

Alright, now we come to an example of why even the most well-
meaning slaves and submissives give perfectly awful advice to
women who would live in an overtly dominant way. Of course it
matters, and not simply because Precious is already married. If
it didn't matter to her she wouldn't be asking where she's going

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October 24, 2007

dominating a "do me" husband

posted by: Madamplz
posted on: Wed, 24 Oct 2007 12:40:49 EDT

Precious wrote:

>I'm brand new to the list and new to being a "real" Domme.
>I've tried and failed at my husband's request (more like
>demands) for the last 17 years...-snip-...vague suggestions
>like "make your own rules" are more like fluff to persons like
>myself and don't give us much to go on.

Okay, now we come to the real reason so many of these "how to be
domme" questions go unanswered by many other women on the list.
You got some very good advice about making your own rules, yet,
you who have failed at being dominant for 17 years. So the short
answer to the question, "why is no one helping me learn how to
do this":-

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"real" Domme

posted on: Tue, 23 Oct 2007 17:10:16 -0700 (PDT)
posted by: surfer slave

In response to the post by Precious, (in new and need some
), first, thank you for your kind words.

The concept of a "real" Domme is something that has been
discussed at great length as long as I can remember being in the
scene. As usual, I have my own perspective. I don't believe in
the concept of a "real" or "true" or even "natural" Dominant or
submissive. Like "good" and "evil" everyone has some dominant
and submissive aspects to their personality.

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August 2, 2006

impasse - after four years

posted by: Bethany
posted on: Tue, 1 Aug 2006 15:52:50 -0700 (PDT)

Dear All (but especially experienced dommes),

I am writing to ask for help on the issue of most immediate
concern to me which is getting my 'husband' to start dressing
'appropriately' (which is to say panties, bras, dresses etc).

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July 29, 2006

a step by step guide

posted by: Madamplz (at> aol.com
posted on: Fri, 28 Jul 2006 21:19:59 EDT

In "step by step guides?" - Misdomina wrote:

>Does anyone know of any step by step guides on how to train a
>naughty slave husband? I am new to this but love it. Any help
>would be most gratefully received.

There's lots of stuff available in the archives if you belong to
the website. It's very inexpensive to access. David and
Christine also sell a CD which I understand is very helpful.

The term "training" is somewhat subjective in the context of
this list. Some refer to training as the process of teaching
their submissive how to please them sexually, while others like
me include a much broader and often more practical view of the

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July 25, 2006

step by step guides?

posted by: Misdomina
posted on: Tue, 25 Jul 2006 14:19:06 EDT


Does anyone know of any step by step guides on how to train a
naughty slave husband? I am new to this but love it. Any help
would be most gratefully received.



Reply by Madamplz

June 26, 2006


posted on: Mon, 26 Jun 2006 04:29:57 +0100 (BST)
posted by: malini nadar (malininadar)

I am Malini from India. Am married recently and my husband is a
hardcore masochist and a perfect submissive. Although I knew a
little about bdsm, he wants me to learn every aspect of female

Can anyone share information on how to start with a submissive
husband and how to start dominating him? I have a problem
starting, and he wants me to take the first step.

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