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July 31, 2011

a Secret FemDom Society

Date: 31 Jul 2011 21:40:01 -0000
From: subiam

A (Secret) FemDom Society for the Benefit and Advancement of

Pardon the cross-reference but we have been having an on-
again/off-again discussion over on FetLife regarding "Secret
FemDom Societies". (see below) Now, I would like to start
exploring this idea with the members of DOMestic.

We have various FemDom, D/s, BDSM organizations but as far as I
know, we do not have a society like I am about to propose. The
closest may be ClubFEM but I haven't been able to figure out
their charter.

The principal is simple. There are many, many men who identify
as submissive and who wish to serve one or more dominant women.
What if the women created a society in the style of the Masons
or Skull and Bones, whose membership and inner workings were
secret but all members worked to advance the causes, well-being
and status of one or more women or a cause they support?

The idea is that the women would meet and collectively set an
agenda and then task and direct the men to execute to that
agenda. Here are some off-the-cuff examples:

a local group could decide that they wanted to elect a society
member to a local school board, the women and men could then be
the basis of an immediate campaign staff.

another group might have a member who is trying to start a
business, the members could pool some money and tax the men to
help raise some seed funding. The men could also be put to work
doing the manual labor to remodel, provision and even help staff
the new business during its infancy.

on a state or national level, the organization could pick causes
or campaigns that the women felt were important such as a
women's health issue or a promising female (or female-
supportive) candidate, the women could pool their efforts and
direct the men to support the cause or campaign with both time
and money.

on an international level, the society could pick a cause each
year to which the men are expected to make a significant or on-
going contribution, e.g. Heifer International or the Fistula

As you can imagine, there are many, many ways this could work
but the basic model is the women set the agenda and the men do
the grunt work and help fund the operations.

Some men are collared/married/bound in some way to a woman,
while many are not. It would seem natural there would be a
hierarchy, if not a ladder, for the men within the organization
that was tied both to their relationship to a dominant female
member and to his contribution to the society over time.

For the women, I could imagine that the organizations start out
locally using a very simple charter and then each year the women
send representatives to state, national or international
gatherings where they refine their operations, charter new
chapters, and set state, national or international agendas for
the coming year. I could also see the women levying a monthly
tax on the men to fund basic operations, travel expenses, etc.

The women set the agenda and direct the work while the men who
serve or those who are petitioning to join the society, are
responsible for helping execute that agenda.

Just imagine what is possible if our women could tap the
unfocused energy of this vast array of submissive men around the
world who are at their disposal!

Note that I have not made any reference to any overt or implied
sexual acts. I'm not saying expression of sexual power is not
part of this organization - in fact, I would imagine it is very
much a sub-text and probably part of the secrecy compact and
certain rituals. However, sexual activity is not the primary
purpose of this society; it is, however, a means by which the
society preserves its secrecy and achieves its objectives.

So, members of DOMestic, I would love to hear what you think. If
you are a female, is it something you would find valuable and
worthwhile? If you are a male, would you petition for membership
and be willing to subject yourself to its direction?

Thank you for listening.

In male submission,

subiam on Twitter

FetLife group 5997

July 25, 2011

alternative marriage ceremonies

Date: Mon, 25 Jul 2011 19:30:36 -0400
From: Kostya


I am a male, 53 years old, and I got interested in some pegging
and I had an idea (possibly forbidden to a regular lesbian). How
about an alternative marriage ceremony. She should be the groom
(like the penetrator), and her male slave should be the obedient

never done this - some guidance appreciated

Date: Mon, 25 Jul 2011 18:52:41 +0100
From: Sylvia D


I am seeking advise, if this is okay or if indeed possible for
you to help me. I am probably going to ramble but will do my
best to say this.

I am a member of a social network site now for 5 months, and a
Dom has taken interest in me, so much so that now he says (in
mails) I am his (MINE).

He has been in a relationship before with another member two years
ago he ''ended'' it because it was too draining for him and he
couldn't give the woman enough time and this he knew would hold
her back, and gave her nearly one year of after care, this woman
is now in another relationship with a Dom. In fact she has been
collared as they say, in the past 4 years been with 5 different Dom's,
makes me wonder if she is addicted.

He today now says I am in training, in his mails, he already
knows I am and have never done this before, been a sub, but the
idea of it is exciting and I do have slight submissive
fantasies, just not to lengths of the other woman in there..

I rather still find it a bit bizarre, He has sent me
instructions as to what he wishes me to do today, nothing nasty
or anything, I am only trying to paint you a picture of the
scene. He has mentioned that he isn't wanting to upset my home
life just enhance it somewhat to make me feel like a real woman.
He is married himself and lives overseas. He is trying to get me
to start to beg for my wants so to speak, and call him Sir. I
did call him it for the first time today and I quite liked it.

In my head I keep thinking (as this is all new to me)
*manipulation* keeps coming to mind. I am married and my husband
and I do not have sex for health reasons.

It is very early days in talking to this man, but I am starting
to feel confused and I am to put it bluntly, horny all day since
talking to him. I am masturbating at least three times a day, I
haven't done this for quite some time. I don't have any one to
talk to. I am sat here now and have already relieved myself once
today and am feeling I want to do it again, it's all so new to
me, these feelings.

Okay I have never done anything like this before it is exciting
and new.

I guess you may wonder what do I want you to say, I am not sure
really, just some guidance would be very much appreciated.

thank you
Sylvia D

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