penis plug controlling ejaculation causes pain in crotch

June 6, 2013 2:14 PM | Christine replied:

Hello Ron,

I think you last told us about how much fun your girlfriend was
having with plugging and whipping your penis back in September
2010 in the message she loves to plug my penis and whip my glans.

In that post you mentioned the dull pain in your groin but also
said you had lots of experience with sounds and penis plugs and
had not experienced any serious problems with this.

So, I'm not sure if this pain is something that is causing you
more concern now than it was then?

As David said in 2009 in the thread "Chastity Question, Is "Milking"
Just The Myth That I Think It Is?"

"I think that if you are in any doubt, you should ask your
doctor"

A doctor recently said to me "if it hurts, stop." Pain is the
body's way of telling you something is wrong.

Obviously in bdsm the submissive or masochist often enjoys the
pain and suffering, but you still need to exercise some caution
and always understand what is causing any particular pain and
whether it is something that should cause you to modify your
behaviour.

It's possible that the dull pain or discomfort you are feeling is
being caused by a retrograde ejaculation. This is where your
ejaculate enters the bladder instead of immediately leaving the
body through the penis.

This problem is usually painless and can be harmless. Men with
this problem may notice cloudy urine after sexual intercourse
and there may be a slightly greater risk of infections.

As I explained in the thread "Prostate massage"....

"During ejaculation, contractions of the smooth muscle in the
prostate force the fluid out into the urethra where it mixes
with the rest of the seminal secretions and is carried to the
penis. Prior to ejaculation, ringlike muscles in the part of the
prostate closest to the bladder will tighten to prevent urine
from flowing and to insure that the ejaculate goes where it
should and thus does not pass into the bladder."

If plugging your penis during orgasm disrupts this process your
body may be complaining.

As Pietro wrote in the same "Chastity Question" thread....

"Ejaculation is an 'active' process, where muscles of the
prostate and seminal vesicles contract and the content is
expelled from the gland. This is supposed to avoid the build up
of some toxins inside the gland, and is believed to be the
reason for better prostate health in men with more frequent
ejaculations."

and RobbyLuv72 said in "Chastity health problems"...

"Back pressure on the prostate when cumming and/or not cumming
frequently enough. Causes some of the ejaculate to wind up in
the bladder, which can start an infection. In men, a UTI
generally will involve the prostate as well."

So the advice given by "FlyBoy" in the thread "Prostate Problems"
is something that you should take to heart.

"There is an old rule of thumb; drink 8 glasses of water or 2
liters daily."

In that way the ejaculate that may be going into your bladder
has more urine to rinse it out, and reduce the likelihood of
infections.

As well as more water you may also want to consider drinking
some cranberry juice which is said to be very helpful in
lowering the frequency of such infections.

sincerely,
Christine

The Fem Dom Training Software.
Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.
FemDom Training Program


she loves to plug my penis and whip my glans

June 6, 2013 10:45 AM | Ron replied:

On occasions I have had three orgasms each one becoming more painful....

penis plug controlling ejaculation causes pain in crotch


penis plug urethral play

June 5, 2013 12:32 PM | Ron replied:

My wife has a fetish about controlling my ejaculation....

penis plug controlling ejaculation causes pain in crotch


chastity for small penis?

May 7, 2013 11:29 AM | Sissy stefani replied:

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semi-public humiliation ideas?

April 15, 2013 3:54 PM | stuntlover replied:

Make him dress as a schoolboy - shorts, knee socks, ruffled
shirt with scarf tied as large bow around collar and a large
dunce cap. Take him to a train station exit at rush hour, sit on
a stool wearing a sign that says... "I lost a stupid bet".

he must remain there for two hours.


can my sub be obliged to beg to pegged?

April 8, 2013 4:12 PM | judy replied:

My goal is where he cannot orgasm by any other means, I am
learning a lot about training.



Birdlocked male chastity belt in silicone

April 1, 2013 10:41 AM | David replied:

Christine tells me the Birdcage is now also the Dickcage at:-

http://u4ds.com/2013/04/dickcage.shtml

and that she's now thinking of getting one for me.

She says her caning arm is getting tired, and that buying me one
of these would be a kindness to me!

Hope it's not an April Fool - as a caning is worse than a bit of
soft silicone plastic I could surely escape from if I got
desperate enough.

sincerely,
David at Ms-Christine.com

You can read my own (now very old) article "why" at
http://www.mschristine.com/why.shtml


Dickcage

April 1, 2013 10:27 AM | Christine replied:

This looks like the same device posted in 2009 by Tom at:

http://www.mschristine.com/DOMestic_Blog/2009/06/birdlocked_male_chastity_belt.shtml

and the contact postal address on the web site is the same.


The Best Chastity Device and the Reasons Why

April 1, 2013 8:12 AM | Sissy Slut, RitaB replied:

Dickcage - made of softer more pliable silicone


how to fuck hubby with a strap-on

March 5, 2013 11:03 PM | judy replied:

can my sub be obliged to beg to pegged?


Jim's Story - part forty-two

March 4, 2013 10:27 AM | tony replied:

Excellent story, Randolphus, and written in such a way as to be
very realistic.

Some of the procedures Jim was required to do motivated me to
such an extent that I have mentioned them to my wife. She would
not take the time to read your story, but was interested in what
I had to say, and pleased that I have suggested additional ways
to serve her and do more chores for her. Thank you.

I hope that you can continue as Betty's new job in Washington
leaves a big question mark in my mind, and perhaps the minds of
others.

tony


femdom community for over 60s

December 31, 2012 2:46 PM | shakef replied:

i am a 51 year old submissive male
i am from rome, italy


I am unproven as a sub

November 14, 2012 12:24 PM | David replied:

Suzy asked:

>"Is there a way to subscribe to it via email?"

Yes. For Admin matters please check the right hand menu of the
blog, where you can click through to various Admin messages and
Categories like Receive Email Digests.

Or see my recent message "better than the email digests"

sincerely,
David


Jim's Story - part thirty-seven

November 12, 2012 3:56 PM | Lucky Jim replied:

I think perhaps Madame Pontellier should actually read the story
from the start before commenting on it. All the femdom scenes,
bondage and whipping she says are not in the story are there and
very "overtly".

Perhaps Madame only made her comment in order to post a link to
her own web site?


cuddling, spanking, bondage and role-play

November 11, 2012 9:25 PM | DC replied:

I've been seeing a domme... she has asked me to describe in
advance what it is I am looking for, what I want. Somehow very
little of that makes it into what actually happens. She does
what she wants - how she wants it - as it amuses her. It is
abundantly clear that I am not in charge... and that's more than
fine with me. I've done dishes for her, at her explicit
direction... it certainly sets the tone for the session. (grin)

It's not WHAT she tells me to do - it's HOW she says it...

Be confident, assertive, he will love it... and so will you.


I am unproven as a sub

November 2, 2012 10:35 PM | Susan replied:

I think, that if at all possible, you should arrange a vanilla
meeting with this man. Make sure it is in a public place and that
before you do it you have things like his private address, home
telephone number, car registration. Make sure you have a safety
call to a friend lined up and that you make that call and that if
he/she does not get the call they know these same contact
details.

When you have met him in person you can make a better judgement
as to how genuine he is and whether he is the one you want to be
in a relationship with.

In my opinion, I find that some men are only interested in
wanking material and you are being asked to provide that for him.

For your other bits, yes, some men will use silence as a
punishment.



Introduction - Domestic Discipline

November 2, 2012 10:23 PM | Susan replied:

Isn't it lovely, boys don't like the pain, don't want the pain
(well some of them) but would rather have the pain and know that
their wives are getting what they want than not be in D/s
relationship.

Personally, I do the punishing because it makes a difference to
his behaviour and gets rid of my feelings of being upset and
disappointed with him. I would rather not do it but if it needs
doing then I try to do it so it only has to be done once for that
offence. I would consider I had really failed if I had to do it
more than once.

But I do like having him over my knee. That is how we start off
most mornings (when he is here) and that is what happens soon
after he gets here. Puts us both in our proper positions, a
proper frame of mind. For me that is Domestic Discipline.


nuked begins a new relationship

November 2, 2012 10:16 PM | Susan replied:

Sorry it did not work out darryl, At least you had a year but
maybe next time.


cuddling, spanking, bondage and role-play

November 2, 2012 10:05 PM | Susan replied:

Autumn

You have done really well to start exploring this. Hopefully, as
time goes by you will see what the benefits are to you and to
start wanting his submission for your pleasure and satisfaction.

I too enjoy a cuddle - when I want it

I generally, but not always like a cuddle after I have made him
give me an orgasm with oral sex. (I do not wish for a cuddle
beforehand as I enjoy foot worship for foreplay.) I simply tell
him to come and lay along side me afterwards and then allow him
to put his arms around me. He seems to find this very
pleasurable.

Last thing at night I allow him to get on the bed (not in it)
beside me and we have a little chat and then I initiate the
cuddle. When I am ready, I simply tell him to go to bed - I
prefer to sleep by myself. Again he seems happy to be allowed
this intimacy.

I suspect that he may enjoy the cuddle more if you make it plain
that he is very privileged to be allowed to serve you in that
way. Make sure that he does not behave in a disrespectful way
(your decision as to what is disrespectful) and that you decide
when the service is to end. In other words use the cuddle as an
extension of his service and you will both get what you want.
You will not be dropping the Dom sub role, you will simply be
using it to get what you want.

The Dom sub role is about you getting what you want. He will
find it a lot more satisfying if he understands that you are
always seeking what you want in the way that you want it and that
you are not interested in doing it the way he wants unless by
some small chance that happens to be the way you want.

Let him understand that if you do smack him, have him over your
knee, cane him etc it is because that is what you want either
because the action itself gives you pleasure or because you are
going to punish him for some failure on his part.

As you are the dominant there is no question of him taking you to
clubs, you will be the one who takes him anywhere you may wish to
go, he is simply allowed to accompany you.

Do not feel pressurised into doing something you are
uncomfortable with. He may have a fantasy of being seen in
public as a submissive but that is his fantasy not yours (at this
time). It may be interesting for you to explore this verbally
with him as part of your teasing and denial, you might explore
how he views it, whether he reacts to the idea because it is
humiliating, whether it is because he is proud of you as his
dominant and wants to show you off.

He is incredibly fortunate that you are willing to explore this,
there are thousands of men out there who would give their eye
teeth to be in his position.


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femdom community for over 60s

October 7, 2012 10:37 PM | quitodoux replied:

Hallo Bullawk4,

thank you for keeping your eyes open for me.

I live in Berlin, which is a very liberal city with a gay Lord
Mayor, who has a chance to be elected for a third term. You can
find all kind of kinky people here who are not hiding but coming
out. Munches and clubs for all types of lifestyle bdsm are
booming. Like probably everywhere in this world there are many
more male subs than lifestyle Dominant Ladies. And there seems to
be not a single one over 60 interested in a sub over 70.

As I am fluent in English and French and have a reasonable
command of Spanish, I have tried it also in international
forums. Also, I have no obvious handicap.

Strange world or do I make some basic mistakes in my search in
the FemDom community?



Introduction - Domestic Discipline

October 2, 2012 7:51 PM | David R replied:

For both my wife and I, it's been a journey of learning about
each other. When we first began exploring BDSM. We didn't really
have much information or experience. So it was more about playing
and doing roleplay scenarios.

Before there was such a term as Domestic Discipline. I knew that
was the kind of relationship I was wanting.

My wife enjoyed the power she had over me. Enjoyed the personal
servitude and power to address behaviors and actions she deemed
inappropriate.

Then came the Disciplinary Wives Club which changed our whole
approach to what we had been doing up to that point. Since then,
my life has changed in many ways. I am held to a fairly strict
standard of behavior.

I refer to my wife as, Ma'am! And I suffer real consequences when
I misbehave or disobey her. Corporal punishment, cornertime and
humiliation are tools along with enemas, mouthsoaping and bondage
that are used in our household to enforce her authority.

I love it! Everything about it. And when I'm restrained on the
bed getting my behind blistered. Despite the pain, I know that in
the end. I would rather be there than not.



Introduction - Domestic Discipline

October 2, 2012 6:02 PM | David R replied:

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Introduction - Domestic Discipline

October 2, 2012 11:25 AM | David replied:

Hello and welcome David,

"David" wrote:

>My name is David

Snap. That's my name too.

>and my wonderful wife and I have been involved with Domestic
>Discipline for a number of years.

That's a major interest for us too. My wonderful partner,
Christine, and I could be described similarly.

>My goal here is to meet others who share the same interests.
>Hopefully share experiences and ideas.

As you can tell by the group name "DOMestic" - you've come to the
right place, although people seem to have dried up on sharing
here recently.

Maybe you can start the ball rolling again by telling us a bit
more about what Domestic Discipline is to you and your wife.

sincerely,
David at Ms-Christine.com

http://www.mschristine.com/why.shtml


a Secret FemDom Society

September 26, 2012 11:36 PM | Steve replied:

What a wonderful idea and an interesting concept. Allow me
though to give you some advice. You can't start a secret society
by publicly stating that you want it to happen on the internet,
and asking for people to start it. If it is a secret society then
you should start by talking about this subject with people you
believe might join it.

Second thing is that you say "like Skull and Bones or Masons".

You name two societies that have been involved in conspiracy
stories which involve malicious behavior.

A pro-female society wouldn't be malicious. It would be good and
positive I think. So, I can see how a society like the one you
describe could work, but to have any importance and essence it
should be built on concrete and have a very well coordinated
organization.


cuddling, spanking, bondage and role-play

August 28, 2012 1:46 AM | Autumn replied:

Thank you so much for that reply, Ms Hourglass.

Although my query was submitted quite a few months ago, it is
still very much valid. You really helped me here.

Yours,

with grateful thanks.

Autumn


quiet DOMestic at yahoogroups

August 28, 2012 1:33 AM | David (moderator) replied:

Hello MsHourglass,

you wrote:

>It seems like I am no longer getting the digests.

Don't wait for us to send you the DOMestic digests. Get your
DOMestic posts the very minute they are edited and posted by us.

You can get help using DOMestic NewsFeeds at:-

mschristine.com/newsfeed.shtml

The email address you posted from is not subscribed to any email
list here. So I'm guessing you are still subscribed at another
address and that you have received the last digest in January.

As you can read here...

mschristine.com/domestic.shtml

digests are nowadays occasional and infrequent, so you probably
have not missed any.

If you must wait for the digest, then it is easy for you to check
when the last digest was sent out here:-.

u4ds.com digests link

Kind Regards,
David and Christine


quiet DOMestic at yahoogroups

August 27, 2012 6:24 PM | MsHourglass replied:

It seems like I am no longer getting the digests.

Best wishes.
MsHourglass


cuddling, spanking, bondage and role-play

August 21, 2012 3:31 PM | MsHourglass replied:

Autumn,

I have been on this site for years. It is difficult to be
confident in what you want when this is all new to you, but the
heart of your answer is in what you said you like.

Why not tell him, the next time there is a visit, the only
activities that will happen are the ones you want, and you will
not be taking his requests for spanking or bondage etc - it will
not happen unless you wish it to. Since he would really like you
to take charge, do it in your own way.

If you want just to cuddle, do it, if you want him kneeling or
cleaning the kitchen floor, tell him. He cannot or should not
have it both ways, you in charge but doing what he wants.

Also, maybe less so when you are in your 60s, but tell him there
will be no sex unless he does everything you say, and maybe just
orgasms for you, see how his attitude improves.

Best wishes to you.
MsHourglass


My Heart Grows Ever Fonder

August 6, 2012 9:19 PM | MissScarlett replied:

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I'm Miss Scarlett, I live in the Netherlands


cuddling, spanking, bondage and role-play

July 26, 2012 6:03 PM | Autumn replied:

Thank you for posting my message, Christine.

I hope somebody can help me out. As I explained, the intervals
between his visits are so long, I don't want to ruin the
precious moments when he's with me.

In hope,
Autumn



is it normal to call me a slut?

July 26, 2012 1:03 PM | HuntersShyness replied:

First off let me say that slut doesn't mean the same thing to
everyone. I am Daddy's slut and there is no malice meant when I
am called that.

Does he see the change in you when he calls you that or do you
hide what you are feeling? Being a sub should make you feel
complete not make you shut down. I don't know the dynamics of
your relationship are you D/s or M/s?


Dress Code - Chapter 1

July 3, 2012 2:33 PM | Ms.Marcia replied:

debra wrote:

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Really dear. I don't see why.


Denial the fantasy and the reality

June 25, 2012 7:58 PM | jboy2386 replied:

Hi Paul,

Good luck with finding someone. However you have to realize that
an email tease and denial might not be all it's cracked up to be
in your mind.

Being denied by a woman you can see everyday, catching an
exciting glimpse of her body, but being told you wont be getting
any. Playing t&d games is all intense fun. Being alone, I bet
you anything you like, you jerk off at the first email and feel
guilty from then on.

Somehow remote doesn't quite work - for me anyway.

There are some on-line jerk off control programs that make you
edge and then do humiliating things before they let you squirt.
Maybe one of those might help.


Dom partner new to this lifestyle

June 15, 2012 1:51 PM | kevin replied:

Christine and david,

just wanted to say thanks again for your email.

i bought the software for my goddess, and all i know is that i
am still locked up, massaging her feet and she is giggling to
herself as she looks at it.

regards

kevin



Dom partner new to this lifestyle

June 12, 2012 6:47 PM | kevin replied:

Christine,

Thank you for such a prompt reply.

I agree the blog has really been quiet the last couple of years
which is such a shame.

The device is a cb3000 and I have been locked for 14 days with
lots of tease and denial.

Thank you for the answers I will discuss with my goddess and
hopefully will buy the software soon.

I am more than happy for you to use this on the blog as long as
it is "anonymised"

Thanks again

kevin


Dom partner new to this lifestyle

June 12, 2012 6:10 PM | Christine replied:

Hello,

kevin wrote:

>I have been reading your blog for many years, and what a great
>blog it is.

Thank you, although it's become very quiet lately. A lot of
twittering and not as much in depth communication nowadays I
think.

>I am now in a relationship where my partner is Dom (in fact i
>am currently in a chastity device )

That's what I like to hear. Hope it's working - and perhaps you
could tell everyone about your experiences with the "device" on
the blog sometime? (anonymously if you like)

>and i have shown her your website. We are both interested in
>your software but i have a few questions :- 1) Will it help
>her as she is new to this lifestyle?

It was primarily designed for new-comers to Fem-Dom not for old
hands.

I imagined when we designed it that experienced dominants would
just say - "tell me something I don't know" - but I was
pleasantly surprised at how many experienced doms have told me
they enjoy "refreshing" their ideas and techniques with regular
use of the software.

I've even found myself using it, browsing idly, and then being
surprised at the things I came across that I had quite forgotten
I'd programmed in. (but I've not let David know how often I've
used it - but he'll know when he reads this)

>2) i am not at all being rude but is it relevant today?

Yes. I'd say more than 99% relevant.

>you say you wrote it a long time ago.

Male fem-dom fantasies seem to be the same to me now as they
were when I first met David. Indeed many are the same now as
they were hundreds of years before I was born.

I can't think of anything that has significantly changed in male
or female sexuality or the techniques a woman would use to
control men since we developed the software.

The world is much the same now as it was when I started. TV -
video, the internet, all existed when we wrote and then updated
the software to version 3.

The only major change I can think of is the use of text
messaging in communication between partners. (that is not
discussed at all in the software - but ideas on telephone
communication could be easily adapted).

Canes, riding crops, whips, paddles, et cetera are the same now
as they were hundreds of years ago. Bondage techniques are
equally unchanged.

There are of course some new brands of equipment available, but
the software focuses on styles and techniques for behaviour
between couples. It's not really got much detail about the
equipment.

If we spend any time at all on using equipment it is usually in
generalities rather than spending much time on the specific
details of any brand of equipment.

>3) can it be run on her phone as well as her pc?

I doubt it can be done easily with many older phones. Newer ones
with web browsers perhaps. I can't say for sure. Not least
because phones vary so much and you didn't say what phone she is
using. It's most unlikely to be the same as mine. Sorry.

If her phone can save, store and open web pages then it could
work providing you can bluetooth (or similar) all the content
across to the phone.

I personally find phone screens to be too small to be useful for
anything so I have not tried using the software on my phone
anyway.

If I were you I'd purchase for the pc and experiment with other
devices. If it works see it as a bonus. (please let me and/or
the blog know how you get on)

>4) can it help her with punishments.

Yes of course punishment is covered in the context of suggesting
why, when and how.

But not if you mean random punishment generators offering
specific punishment recommendations - number of strokes etc.
That is not something we bothered with as there were many random
punishment generators available when we wrote the software. We
thought them all rather a waste of time.

Tossing a coin or rolling a dice has a similar effect. (as
indeed nowadays would a similar dice based phone app)

We chose instead to go in direction of teaching the whole
package.

>Hope these questions are ok.

Yes of course. And if you care to drop me a line granting
permission I'd like to include the discussion above on the blog
at some point? Obviously I would not use the discussion unless
you are completely happy with the idea.

>I look forward to reading your reply and hopefully purchasing
>the software for my goddess.

I'm certain it will give you both many years of pleasure.
Hopefully a lifetime.

sincerely,
Christine

The Fem Dom Training Software.
Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.
http://www.mschristine.com/program.shtml


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a Secret FemDom Society

May 28, 2012 10:33 PM | worshipwreck replied:

A lovely idea I've entertained myself quite some time! But there
must be a good reason why it doesn't exist! I guess we men,
especially when we submit, are too boring. Who wants to rule
nobodies?


Dress Code - Chapter 1

May 15, 2012 8:33 AM | debra replied:

i love the story please continue it... but i'm bald and would
need a wig



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