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2009-07-05 ( 12 edited messages )

# Re: C: keeping sub hubby nude - chastity a start?
# Re: C: Real life Fem Dom
# C: willing lickslave - what next?
# Re: P: command me to perform rimming - Jacksonville
# C: my personal writings - MaitresseX
# C: zapped and padlocked balls - software resuscitated
# Re: C: zapped and padlocked balls - software resuscitated
# Re: X: FemDom Training Program XP IE8
# S: In The Bank Manager's Cupboard. Part Thirty

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Re: C: keeping sub hubby nude - chastity a start?
Date: 2 Jul 2009 09:49:37 -0000
From: lala45

Ashley wrote:

>any suggestions on making my sub hubby stay nude at home?

I suggest you depilate him and begin hand training him i.e. male
milking and masturbation as rewards for submitting to your
desires, also use or instil fetishes in him eventually if

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Re: C: Real life Fem Dom
From: "Darlyn"
Date: Mon, 29 Jun 2009 23:01:20 -0700

"MaitresseX" wrote:

>I have not used the CB 2000 yet; it seems bulky and the acrylic
>is hard

The CB2000 did not work for my slave and myself. Due to his
large size, it kept breaking and cracking, so we had to return
it 4 different times.

I would not suggest this be used by a man who has a nice or
large size package.

My slave now wears a tube. It is wonderful, I am just so sorry
that they do not make them any more. The only problem he has had
is when he goes to court, he has to take it off, so that the
metal detector does not go off.

Hope this helps.


Ms. Irish owner of slave jimmie

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C: willing lickslave - what next?
Date: 4 Jul 2009 21:07:54 -0000
From: judy

hi to this forum

i am seeking advice on my situation, i have myself a very
willing lickslave who has serviced me well, i also keep myself
two lovers who i see weekly and upon them leaving, i require the
use of my lickslave.

what i would like to know, where do i go from here? i enjoy what
i have now, do i pursue more as in rules for my lickslave to
follow or just keep things the way they are?

As of now, i also control when he is permitted to cum which is
no more than once a month as that seems to keep him with a
strong desire to service me when i need regardless of my other

Any suggestions?

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Re: P: command me to perform rimming - Jacksonville
From: Madamplz
Date: Wed, 1 Jul 2009 16:45:57 EDT

johnny wrote with elegance:

>"I am a handsome male, 45, 6'1", 185, athlete, and I desire a
>woman who will command me to perform sex acts on her, I
>especially want to please a woman by rimming her ass hole with
>my tongue. Please let me know if you are into this."

Ladies, with a little work he could be not entirely useless.

When you're finished training him he'd be able to somersault
through a hoop, hump your leg on the fly, and finish with a
perfect landing, face first in the cleft of your derriere where
he'd be stuck - tongue thankfully still able to service Mistress
and at great risk to himself - being unable to breathe for
several hours.

It's the life we've envisioned.

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C: my personal writings - MaitresseX
Date: Fri, 03 Jul 2009 19:12:13 -0000
From: "MaitresseX"

(continued from Real life Fem Dom)

A Never Ending Journey

This journey has brought me places that I did not think I would
ever go. When we met I was searching for something that was very
simple and straight forward. A loving/nurturing relationship,
being worshipped, adored with no taboos or limits. I was not
wrong I just did not have the understanding of how far one could
go in this realm.

Before this I said I would not do many things particularly in
the more extreme realm that we have ventured into. My prior
experiences which were limited do not give me a frame of
reference. This process continually unfolds as we go along this
path. Now we are beginning to explore the deeper recesses of our
dark side. I do not subscribe good/evil to this path it is
simply the full range of being human.

I find the archetypal Goddess Kali exemplifies the extremes from
being a giver and destroyer to loving and cruel. Shiva lays
prone beneath her feet. So now we are exploring the more
extreme; the degradation/humiliation and objectification to the
point where you are no longer considered human. The lowest form
of servitude; selfless and without self.

This is pure worship since there is no expectations or pleasure
derived by you and are rendered totally helpless. Pure obedience
and surrender; you do not have a voice, choice or will. You are
simply an object to be used.

Being a Matriarch

I decided to begin a 24/7 relationship as a Matriarch. It is
inevitable that if you control your slave to some degree you
control his circle which can comprise family and colleagues. I
took these people into consideration in how I dictated myself as
his owner. I found that it was necessary to be responsible and
make judicious decisions for the good of all because of the
interdependent nature of the situation. I made decisions
regarding his work, family and housing,

In retrospect, I believe I made good decisions regarding my
slave and brought order into his life. I was concerned about his
well-being in addition to those who surrounded him. With regards
to his well-being I was concerned about his emotional and
physical health and was careful not to harm him though
occasionally I punished him and hurt him temporarily.

I started the relationship out slowly but it became intense in
short order. He was hungry for slavery and I decided to do an
immersion into slavery after I felt there was chemistry and
compatibility on other levels. There were many facets to this
relationship: physical, spiritual, sexual, intimacy. This was
all-encompassing body, mind, and spirit. I was faced with many
decisions such as how much do I control my slave; do I
micromanage him?

To some degree this sort of relationship was experiential since
I had never been responsible for more than just the slave.
During this process we faced extreme highs and lows because of
expectations vs. reality. We faced outside variables such as
career challenges, money issues and last not least family

This in actuality was a lot of work on my part though when he
did not have obligations to meet he was at my beck and call. I
did not require much in the way of menial tasks since he had a
demanding career which sometimes involved many hours.
Additionally, much time was spent discussing and processing all
that transpired. I didn't have a prescribed routine though he
did serve me in whatever fashion I deemed necessary. I had never
felt such a bond with anyone before it was symbiotic.

The Mistress is a Shaman

The Mistress is a Shaman, Wise Woman, mentor and healer. She
takes you on a journey deep within your psyche and explores your
most primal needs. The slave is totally receptive to whatever
path his Mistress chooses to embark upon. She has total control
of his body, mind, and spirit; he surrenders himself to her and
is rendered helpless. There is a strong physical/spiritual and
sexual need which drives the slave closer to his Mistress that
creates a bond and symbiotic relationship. His pleasure is
derived from hers; his needs are secondary if non-existent. The
Mistress has total power to do as she pleases with her slave.
She can punish/reward, subjugate, objectify, and treat her slave
like common property to be used at her discretion.

The Pendulum Swings

This journey has gone deep within ourselves and to the extreme.
We have touched upon all the aspects but have not fully
experienced the more extreme. I am not afraid to go there since
I know the pendulum will swing back. To reiterate: this has
encompassed body, mind, spirit. This is spiritual, sexual,
primal, loving and nurturing. This is like Kali who is the
nurturer and destroyer, dark/light and yin/yang. The duality is
balance. This is what we should seek; balance and equilibrium.
One can not find happiness without balance.

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C: zapped and padlocked balls - software resuscitated
Date: Wed, 1 Jul 2009 23:22:37 +0000 (GMT)
From: tim spiers

Good Evening,

We purchased your training program more years ago than I wish to
remember - about ten or twelve years ago.

We had massive fun with it and my wife really took it to heart
and since that time we have led a domestic femdom relationship.
I must stress that we are not "heavy breathing" fantasy type
people and we live normal everyday lives except that when the
time, mood and opportunity arise we switch into femdom mode. I
posted some stuff to you years ago (see below) to tell you how
we were getting on.

So - onto our present situation. This is a post from years ago,
I think to you but if not, somewhat similar to my post to

Many years ago I saw a blue movie where a man crosses the local
mafia boss. He gets taken to a warehouse, stripped naked and is
chained to a wall with a padlock around his testicles.

His girlfriend then has to look after the mafia boss and all his
friends so the film was full of her having to please them all.
Each night she would go to the warehouse to feed her boyfriend.
The film closes with him released from the chain but still with
the padlock around his testicles as he pulls up his trousers.

This was and still is a huge turn on for me.

For years I contemplated telling my wife about my fantasy of
being locked up like that but always chickened out. I then wrote
a letter to her telling her about it and bought a padlock hoping
that one day I'd have the nerve to tell her.

I think I must have had the letter for at least two years. Then
one Saturday evening we got blind stinking drunk and I gave it
to her. The evening is a total blur but I can remember her
reading the letter and shouting out repeatedly "Where is it,
Where is it - Put it on - Put it on". So I did so. As I said the
evening was a complete blur.

The next morning I woke up and realized what had happened. I
reached down and - sure enough - there it was. I was terrified.
I lay in bed wondering what she would say. I must have gone off
to sleep again and when I woke up she had gone. I could hear her
moving around downstairs. My worry was that either she was very
pissed off or that she didn't remember.

I was very very nervous when she came into the bedroom with a
cup of tea and a Nurothen. She was smiling so at least she
wasn't annoyed but may be she didn't remember? I asked her, very
carefully, if she remembered the previous evening.

All she said, very enigmatically was "Oh Yes".

I got up and waited for her to talk about it BUT she never said
a word all day. When we went to bed in the evening she told me
to lay on the bed while she inspected the situation. She tugged
the lock about, tried to pull it off and squeeze my balls
through the shackle.

After a bit she just said "You really can't get it off can you"

I said "Not at all"

And she said something like "Poor fool you"

The next morning I had to go to work and she had still said
nothing. My original thinking was that if I was lucky the lock
would go on for an evenings fun. It never occurred to me that it
would stay on for days. I began to get worried that she'd never
take it off.

I woke her up to say I was off to work and still she said
nothing. Finally I reminded her that I was locked up and she
said "So what"

SO - I went to work for the first time with a padlock around my
testicles. It was, quite simply, awe inspiring! I was terrified
all day and was certain people would know. I was also incredibly
incredibly turned on.

We met for lunch and started a long - several days long -
discussion about female domination although I hate that
expression and much prefer 'a power exchange'

From that day on - several years ago - our lives have changed.

Since then our femdom life has gone up and down according to
mood and opportunity.

Later on we got a "shock collar" a modified dog collar one which
I posted about here....


This scared me rigid. I could be locked up with the padlock but
that was it - my obedience determined how long it was on - but
that was it! The shock collar, on the other hand, was a serious
"attention getter"

I have attached an image of the padlock "locked on" if you want
to use it. The longest I've been locked up to date is nineteen

image at:-


So, we have not used the program for about two years and tried
to resuscitate a few days ago to (maybe) get some new ideas.
But, like your recent post, it wouldn't work. What went wrong?
Is it worth updating? Some of your files date back to 1997!

Please feel free to publish this on DOMestic if you wish but
please let me know if it is worth upgrading your program



PS Remember those awesome stories from Bill?

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Re: C: zapped and padlocked balls - software resuscitated
Date: Thu, 02 Jul 2009 02:21:01 +0100
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com

Hello Timmie,

I'll send the latest version now which David assures me will
solve your problems. Please let me know how you get on. Also
please let me know the operating system, browser version, and
anti virus you are running.

Christine at u4ds.com

The Fem Dom Training Software.
Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.

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Re: C: zapped and padlocked balls - software resuscitated
Date: Thu, 2 Jul 2009 00:27:29 +0000 (GMT)
From: tim spiers


That was an incredibly speedy response. Many thanks.

And yes, it now works! I shall look into it and see what
differences there are. Why wouldn't the old version work?

For your information - we are now in femdom mode and I am now
locked up - my wife is a medic and on nights for the next three
nights and - yes - I have cut the grass!

Of all the sites on the web you seem to be the most genuine - it
would be lovely to see more "believable" stories about TRUE
domestic femdom experiences that I am so Bl--dy lucky to have.



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Re: C: zapped and padlocked balls - software resuscitated
Date: Thu, 02 Jul 2009 03:29:32 +0100
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com

Hello Timmie,

>Why wouldn't the old version work?

You didn't answer my questions on your operating system, browser
version, and anti virus - so my guess is that you are running XP
and IE8.

We test the program on all major browsers and operating systems,
but it seems that there is one configuration of AV, security
settings, and browser which cause the browser to lock local
files from running. This, David tells me, is because IE8 on XP is
less than totally secure, so the fix from Microsoft is to lock
certain local files rather than fix the operating system.

Although we were unable to replicate the error on our own
version of Vista, David was able to install a particular AV
program on an XP system which reports suggested exacerbated the
issue, and then he managed to track down the bug in the XP OS
and IE8 browser combination and create a work-around which fixes
it. He was cursing and sighing for a few days in his office!

While I'm answering your questions, you also asked:-

>Remember those awesome stories from Bill?

Yes, indeed. And we are much saddened that Bill's artistic and
creative flow has ceased. (Where are you Bill? Still reading

Bill's stories are still available for members to read again at:-


>I have cut the grass!

Is that both indoor and outdoor?

>Of all the sites on the web you seem to be the most genuine

Thank you Timmie. I don't see a lot of other sites myself, but
those that I do see are often not to my taste.

>it would be lovely to see more "believable" stories about TRUE
>domestic femdom experiences that I am so Bl--dy lucky to have.

You've started the ball rolling (excuse any puns that may be
there) let's hope you keep it up (oops there I go again!) and
send in more of your experiences. If not, then let's hope that
others follow suit and, like you, tell us how they are doing Fem-
Dom at home.

Christine at u4ds.com

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Re: X: FemDom Training Program XP IE8
Date: Mon, 29 Jun 2009 17:57:11 -0700 (PDT)
From: Tom

Paul wrote:

>installed the new software from the zip file you sent, and
>voila! Success!


IMHO you folks are the publishers of the BEST moderated
newsletter on the web for how many years now? I too bought the
program from you and have similar issues. Please advise.

Thank you

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Re: X: FemDom Training Program XP IE8
Date: Sun, 05 Jul 2009 01:53:43 +0100
From: David

Hello Tom,

you wrote:

>for how many years now?

It will be 13 years this October, and I think you've been
reading for most of that time?

Christine sent you the upgrade on the 29th June from the support
address, I sent you a follow up email on the 30th, and Christine
sent another email on the 2nd July. We've not received a reply
to any of those emails.

We're posting this here simply because it's possible that you
have spam filtering which is blocking all but the DOMestic
digest and may not have checked your spam filters recently.

If you received the upgrade, then please let us know that it
worked for you, and if not, what OS, AV, and browser you are

David at u4ds.com

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S: In The Bank Manager's Cupboard. Part Thirty
Date: Sun, 05 Jul 2009 04:14:37 +0100
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com

Previous issues.

In The Bank Manager's Cupboard - by Ms. Christine
Copyright 1986-2009 Christine and David Stevenson

Part Thirty

Catrina Strikland pulled up outside Karin's apartment
block. She locked the car and opening the boot, she
took out her briefcase with her toys.

"Follow me," she ordered abruptly as she strode ahead
of Brian in her long leather coat, her high heels clicking
authoritatively on the pavement. Brian followed as
always, ten paces behind, having climbed out of the
boot and closed it behind him. When he was dressed as
he was, Catrina liked to make him walk alone and

It was just as well that Karin had warned the doorman
that she was having a fancy dress party. Brian was
wearing the full slave garb; shorts, ankle cuffs, tee
shirt, collar, wrist cuffs, and hood. 'D' rings were
attached for later bondage treatment, his outfit was
black leather.

The doorman downstairs politely showed Catrina to the
lift, "Good evening Madam." He raised his eyebrows as
Brian scuttled in after her, just before the doors
closed. In the lift, Catrina took out a rubber plug
gag, blindfold and lead, and snapped them all into
place on Brian's hood and collar. She led Brian to
Karin's door.

Catrina was the last to arrive and Karin was pleased
that finally the party could get into full swing. She
buzzed David to let her in. By now David had become
accustomed to his duties, less embarrassed as nobody
seemed to notice or acknowledge his presence.

As the door closed behind them Catrina took off her coat
and dumped it on David's arm. Handcuffed to the door,
David had difficulty reaching a peg to hang it on. As he
turned back he was caught by Catrina, gawping at her
outfit, or rather the barely covered body enclosed
within it.

Catrina was wearing black shiny patent boots, with
heels that must have been over four inches long. They
strapped tightly at the top of her legs, around her
thighs, barely three inches from her mound. The black
shiny material over her vulva was so soft and supple
that her features were visible through the glossy

Her outfit was a gleaming black that formed like a
second skin over those parts of her body that it
covered. It would resemble a one piece swimsuit,
except for what it left uncovered. It plunged from a
high collar style neckline, down between her totally
exposed breasts, covering the rest of her shapely
torso as though it had been painted upon her.
It passed over her mound of venus and reappeared
as a thin strap of material between her cheeks,
separating the buttocks into two shapely orbs.

Her shoulder length gloves were of the same material
and with straps to hold them in place they completed
the outfit.

Catrina slapped his face twice, "Lust is a punishable
offence, I will ask Karin for the pleasure!" She turned
on her heel, to make her entrance.

David was left with both cheeks glowing and hoping that
Karin would deny her 'the pleasure'. Although he was by
now realising the chances were slim indeed.

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