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What is DOMestic?
DOMestic is a moderated mailing list. It is free to subscribers and is currently sent out in a digest format. The subject is DOM/sub of a DOMestic nature
between consenting adults. DOMestic discipline between adults and
children is NOT the focus of the mailing list. Fantasies along these
lines are acceptable only if the motivation is clearly to
describe role playing situations between consenting adults.
The moderators primary interest is FemDom, so it is likely that
the list will attract this kind of post. But we are open minded
and like to read about other variations of dom-sub.
Fantasies involving the pretence of non-consenting situations are
acceptable, but please make a point of suggesting that your post
is a fantasy in a brief introduction.
Many adults like to pretend, in their play, that they are being
forced. Force is OK providing the victim has agreed to play the
victim. This could be called consensual non consensuality or Role
Play. If you want to use the list to pretend you are being
forced, please head up your post as Role Play.
Real force or true absence of consent is not acceptable on this
list, just as it is not accepted by any civilised society.
Force is obviously part of DOM/sub play from the simple
"My wife makes me wear her knickers to work"
to the pretence
"She will not let me have an erection and now she has started
imposing discipline with her cane!"
We all know this is the essence of role play and it's fun!
What will the moderators be doing?
Supervising and administering the list. Adding and removing addresses, dealing with mail addressed
to the moderator. Dealing with returned mail. Deleting flames, advertising, circulars which we have seen
widely distributed elsewhere, one line responses, and
mail which contravenes the purposes of the list.
Sometimes we will edit your post, if just a word or two like
role play is needed to make it conform to list policy.
If your post is fact and must not be edited even slightly, then
say so at the beginning.
Please help keep our moderating time down by complying with the
What is the purpose of the list?
To talk about Play and Reality in a DOMestic sub/dom context.
DOMestic is relationships between people courting,
dating, married, living together, or in a long term
relationship. This includes posts from people who want to be in a
relationship, but are not currently, or never have been.
Play and Fantasy posts might include stories or accounts of
real or imagined events. Descriptions of the way you would like
life to be. Or anything that turns you on.
Reality posts may be any correspondence about the way your life
The purpose of the reality part of the list is to allow us
all to help each other. The play part of the list is to allow us
to entertain each other.
If advice is actively sought in a post, on how something
'SHOULD' be done, then you are of course free to answer and give
your opinion. This is not offensive, because the answer was
Please do not waste your time and energy telling someone they are
not doing it properly. If they are happy with their way, then
please leave it be. By all means post a message saying what your
HELP and Advice?
Perfect harmony of needs and desires is rare.
Because of the diversity of needs and desires, couples will often
need help or advice on how to be 'better' at what it is that we
do. = 'wiitwd'
Frequently a Mistress or Master may want advice on how to do it.
When to do it, and what to do. Sometimes a person just wants to
share or open up their 'real self' without the pressure to
perform or be the role.
The list is a safe place to expose your 'real' self. You don't
have to pretend that you are a lifestyle Mistress if you are not.
You don't have to pretend you enjoy it all.
Personal adverts as such are not popular with readers. So if you
want to encourage someone to write to you direct, tell a little
story. Open up and explain who you are and what you like.
Role play is fun. Let's all help each other to enjoy it.
Signatures should be brief. Signatures are acceptable
throughout the internet as a form of advertising, but it is
generally felt to be polite to keep them short and sweet. Five
lines is becoming a standard acceptable to most on the internet,
remember many of us pay to download your long signatures.
UNLIKE other lists DOMestic is processed manually by humans, so
please be patient! We have to sleep too.
DOMestic is free from hackers and
spammers because it is moderated and manually supervised.
As of 10th October 2000 DOMestic has over 7,000 members from all over the world and is growing steadily.
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