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Re: C: how to be a better dominatrix
From: Madamplz
Date: Tue, 8 Jul 2008 13:38:43 EDT

Jane wrote:

>"I am a novice dominatrix, and find it hard to always be
>convincing as a dom to my submissive partner, which tends to
>make me nervous about what I do and say, which in turn, puts
>me and him off sex.

>I have problems with the power exchange aspect as well as I
>find it can lack emotion. We love each other, but this is a
>very important aspect of his life and has torn us apart.

>Can you advise me how I can get my confidence back, so we can
>both enjoy our sessions?

>I hope I don't sound like a hopeless case. There is a amazonian
>goddess in me dying to be set free."

First, get it out of your head that domination is simply about
sex. It's more about you finding your own power base which
carries over into the rest of your life, including sex. If you
are unaware of your power as a person then you have nothing to
exchange. If you become aware of yourself as a powerful person
or recreate yourself as a powerful person you take that frame of
mind with you wherever you go. It changes your dynamic with your
partner even if you still have sex in the same way.

If you don't feel very powerful perhaps you need to assess why
that is. Have you put more of your focus on what your partner
gets out of the relationship and not enough on what you get out
of it? Dominants are pretty aware of what they want and spend a
good deal of time in getting it. You may find that to be selfish
but as you test the water you'll begin to realize that as you
get more out of your life your partner benefits from that as
well.

Next, realize that dominating your partner is just as much about
his need to submit as it will be about you wanting to dominate
him. He's half of the equation so in that respect you're already
half way to your goal.

Do a lot of reading on this site and especially in the archives.
Save the wanking stories for when you want titillation. Follow
the posts of the dominant women on this list. You'll begin to
see that we may all have different ways of defining dominance
and all of them are valid. Some of our discussions will help you
recognize who you are as that Amazon emerges. Learn what it is
that we do that causes us to actualize as dominants. That will
help you develop your own mindset, interests and practises.

The absolute worst thing you can do is to live up to your
partner's idea of what a dominant woman is. I suspect that's
where you're currently at. It probably feels somewhat like a hat
you put on and take off. My suspicion comes from you by
describing yourself as a "dominatrix", a term which I'm guessing
you've learned from your partner. It's the definition of a
professional dominant.

Many men who've not had experience with lifestyle dominants get
their ideas of what dominant women should be from visiting pro
dominatrixes or reading wanking material written by men who've
had cash-based relationships with professionals.

Your relationship will revolve around your love as well as your
rules for living. What he wears, what he does at home, how he
prepares your breakfast, washes your lingerie, cleans your
house, and even how you spend his cash can all be elements of
what you want out of your relationship. It will have a lot more
dimension than a pro would have with her client.

You're the only one who can set your inner Amazon free so go
spend some time in the archives learning how to hunt.

Madam

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Re: C: how to be a better dominatrix
Date: 5 Jul 2008 21:36:32 -0000
From: Miss Vonn

jane tetzlaff wrote:

>There is a amazonian goddess in me dying to be set free.

Dear Amazonian Jane,

When I was just a wee bit of an amazon myself, I thought about
how much I enjoyed many things my partner did for me and how
they made me feel. I thought of the fact that perhaps he didn't
like doing them, but he did it cause he liked seeing me happy. I
did not focus on the fact that I didn't enjoy certain things, I
focused on the fact that I felt complete bliss, and certainly
that is how he must feel when I take complete control of a
situation. Soon over time, it became second nature and our
relationship flourished as a Ds couple. :)

Miss Vonn

Miss Vonn

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Re: C: how to be a better dominatrix
Date: 6 Jul 2008 08:05:01 -0000
From: TracieMorgan

jane tetzlaff wrote:

>I am a novice dominatrix, and find it hard to always be
>convincing as a dom

The irony of being a Domme is that sometimes it takes total
submission on our part. It's almost like theatre in that you
have to emotionally engage your 'audience', lol. You have to
give in and let go to please your sub, even though you're the
one in control. His joy will increase yours, and make you feel
more at ease as time passes and you get more used to the roles.
Just my 2c, but it's worked for Mine and I.

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Re: C: how to be a better dominatrix
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Fri, 11 Jul 2008 02:00:26 +0100

Hello,

jane tetzlaff wrote:

>I am a novice dominatrix, and find it hard to always be
>convincing as a dom to my submissive partner

This opening remark implies that you are being dominant because
your partner wants you to be, rather than because it's something
that you brought to the relationship. So, right or wrong, I'll
make my reply based on that assumption.

It's perhaps fortunate that I'm qualified to start there,
because this is where I started out with David 29 years ago last
month. Heading for our 30th anniversary in June 2009, so here is
my advice...

You will only be convincing when you stop doing what he wants to
please him.

I'm not saying you can't do things he likes. I'm not saying you
will not be aware that what you do pleases him. You'll like the
fact it pleases him, and that's good. You can't re-write the
truth of your relationship, which is that he has probably asked
you to be dominant for him.

What you can do is tell him that this truth is weighing much too
heavily and is currently standing in the way of you becoming the
dominant you want to be. You need to insist that this has to
change. You need to start doing it how you want, when you want.
The scene, the relationship, has to give you the pleasure you
want.

If you are "acting" the role of dominant he will always be in
the position of judging whether your "performance" met his needs
and desires. He'll be unable to avoid judging them against his
fantasy expectations.

Because fantasies are unrealistic, your "performance" will
almost always fall at least a little short of his fantasies. A
performance, however good, is never going to be perfect.

Many subs have been rehearsing their fantasies in their own
minds since they were very young. They've honed them almost to
perfection, they think. Except that often they are wrong, they
are imperfect, and just fantasies. They are imperfect because
they are fantasies in the mind and they are untested in the real
world and severely defective as a guide to how to play in a
loving marriage.

Most actors at the end of a play on stage will feel that this or
that could have been better. Imagine how they would feel if they
had to hear or imagine the criticism of the audience. And how
much worse they would feel if their performance was being judged
against an impossible dream.

They would give up acting!

But if they got from their performance what they planned on
getting, they would feel exhilarated. That's how you will feel
when you start doing and getting what you want.

>which tends to make me nervous about what I do and say, which
>in turn, puts me and him off sex.

I'm not surprised. You have to be enjoying yourself to be in the
mood for sex. Feeling under pressure to perform for a demanding
audience is not going to work.

You need to take control of what Dom/sub is going to be for you
two, you need to make it your own.

You are the dominant so he should be expected to "perform" to
your script.

>I have problems with the power exchange aspect as well as I
>find it can lack emotion.

Decide how you would like to put your emotions into that
exchange. Decide what emotions you want from him. Tell him how
you want it to be.

>We love each other, but this is a very important aspect of his
>life

Exactly. It's a very important part of "HIS" life. It's not
something you YET own as yours, it's not even something that is
being seen by you as an important part of YOUR partnership.

Take it from him, and make it yours. Tell him he'll have to
learn to enjoy it your way or he can always head for the
highway.

>and has torn us apart.

I'm sorry to hear that. Sounds like he can be demanding?

>Can you advise me how I can get my confidence back,

I'm not sure I'm up to that challenge in a short post late at
night. You will become confident when you know that what you are
doing pleases you in the way you intended it to. When you are
doing it for you, you can be supremely confident that it's what
you want to do.

If he fails to allow you take the pleasure you want in the way
you want then punish him for it. My lover, David, hates to be
punished for real, he prefers fantasy punishments. If your
partner is similar he will soon shape up and give you what you
want from HIS "performance".

You may want to start by gagging him, then sit him on a stool
naked while you relax in an armchair and read him all the print-
outs of the responses you go to your post on the list.

Then you could tell him how it's going to be from now on. Tell
him what you expect from him and how he will be punished if he
fails you.

>so we can both enjoy our sessions?

You will enjoy them when you create them in the way you would
enjoy and do them because you want to do them.

But I would get away from the idea that they are sessions. Try
and integrate your dominance into a whole lifestyle. Sessions
are intense and demanding, and make you feel you are performing,
life isn't like that.

>I hope I don't sound like a hopeless case.

Not at all. Some of us have been where you are.

>There is an amazonian goddess in me dying to be set free.

Consider yourself in charge of the key to your chains.

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

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C: controlling male masturbation with high heels
Date: 5 Jul 2008 23:59:55 -0000
From: Bee

Years ago, Ms Christine did a wonderful little ritual via email
for controlling male masturbation. One of the rituals was to
kneel and beg for permission to spurt while feather light
stroking to a wonderful little picture of black high heels with
some very unique white stripes.

I wonder if anyone remembers that picture and could post it?

Sincerely,
Thanks everyone.

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C: spiked penis corsets and devices
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Sun, 06 Jul 2008 05:27:10 +0000

Hello,

In "Re: C: keeping interest in sex" emily wrote:

>what is and where does one get the spikey penis corset?

I've said this many times over the years, but perhaps you were
not around at the time.

My spiky penis corset is home made, and instructions for making
your own are on the member's web site (link below) and can be
found via the home made devices section of the blog. Scan down
the right hand side menu.

Sharp-Spiked Penis Corset with pictures

But if you are not a member and can't access the link above,
there is a material which is very handy for providing spikes for
home-made devices. The plastic spiky sheeting which is sold in
carpet stores for holding carpets down to the floor. It can be
cut into any shape or size, and glued or stapled to other
materials.

Also, you may want to use the free search engine on the blog at
http://u4ds.com and search for "spiky" or "spiked" you'll find
quite a bit of discussion of items that are equally "yummy".

Here are just a few that I found when I did the search.

http://u4ds.com/2007/08/wanking_stools_and_gloves.shtml

http://u4ds.com/2007/02/briefsunderclothes_etc_with_in.shtml

http://u4ds.com/2007/07/spiked_gloves_supervised_wanki.shtml

http://u4ds.com/2007/03/instructions_for_tcds_chastity.shtml

There were plenty more likely looking links, and even more on
the membership site.

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

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Re: C: how to be dominant for a generous guy?
Date: 6 Jul 2008 00:38:36 -0000
From: Michele

I have always admired Christine's and David's open-mindedness,
but this is a request for information about how to get money
from "generous" submissives. I don't think this site ever dealt
with this sort of thing.

If Pam wants to get into this kind of business she might Google
"money slaves" and get a lot of ideas.

Frankly, I don't think this kind of post has a place here but
again I respect DOMestic's wonderful openness.

Michele

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Re: C: how to be dominant for a generous guy?
From: Madamplz
Date: Tue, 8 Jul 2008 14:50:17 EDT

Pam wrote:

>i am interested in this and have thought about making it a
>profitable side line..... any ideas how i would go about it?
>There is one guy...... should i say is generous and he would
>like me to be dominant...... but for a service like this.....
>well I presume it comes expensive. Your advice would be
>appreciated.

Find a real job, Pam. The person who has the money in this type
of relationship is the one who has all the power, not you. You
may manage the appearance of power and dominance but that isn't
likely to be what you'll end up with. This may look like a great
profession and it may even be one in the short term, but the
long term may be bleak. For one thing, the older you get the
fewer clients you're likely retain and the more likely you are
to face a future of poverty.

Is your generous friend going to set you up and pay your
expenses? What does he get out of that? Is the relationship
likely to get sexual? If so, you'll either be his mistress or a
prostitute with a whip, not a Domme.

You'll have a lot of up front costs. Most pros have a dungeon
with expensive equipment they need to maintain. Your wardrobe
will cost a small fortune.

Most of the pro's I know have had at least one brush with the
police. Their guilt or innocence may be determined by public
opinion formed by what they read about your life in the
newspapers. Those opinions may limit your ability to move in
better social circles and your children may suffer as a result
of your career choice.

Also, the older pro's I know are trying to develop their
sidelines as they get older. Their life is getting more
difficult and more complicated as they age. Is that what you
want for yourself? If it is, then go for it.

The cost of a dungeon in a metropolitan area, the cost of your
toys/tools, and don't forget about the cost of your wardrobe
which will range from a few hundred dollars to thousands. It's
one thing if you have that kind of cash lying around. Since
you're looking for a sideline, my guess is you can't afford the
investment. I've talked to a few women who think this is a dandy
idea for spare cash. One of them was doing it to cover the cost
of her child's milk money and her phone bill.

I've met some of the top pro-Dommes in the world, Pam. You'd
better be stunningly beautiful and incredibly skilled to make
enough money to pay your expenses and set aside retirement
funds.

Additionally, most submissives have a very strong need to
control. I'll bet you think this is your idea to become a pro,
but I'd also bet money it's the brainchild of your generous
friend. Look that gift horse in the mouth. Ask yourself what's
the worst that could come of that relationship because that's
probably what you'll be dealing with the first time you make a
decision he doesn't like.

There's also another consideration here. Whether you're a
lifestyler or a pro you're still going to want to develop
certain skills. Why not develop skills that will increase your
earning power in a legitimate field instead of trying to take a
shortcut that has so many potential downsides?

Personally, I don't like taking on partners. It seems smarter to
empower myself with education or get money from a bank to buy or
build a business and retain my autonomy. Why would you trade it
off to someone who just wants to own a piece of you cheap?

Madam

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Re: C: how to be dominant for a generous guy?
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Fri, 11 Jul 2008 02:59:08 +0100

Hello,

Michele wrote:

>I have always admired Christine's and David's open-mindedness,

Thanks Michele. Great to hear you are still with us.

>but this is a request for information about how to get money
>from "generous" submissives.

I thought it is was more like asking how much to charge a chap
who had pretty much already agreed to be generous with her. At
least that was my reading of the post.

>I don't think this site ever dealt with this sort of thing.

It's certainly not typical of posts here. But I see nothing
inherently wrong with asking the questions that Pam asked, and I
was hoping she would get advice on how to be professional about
becoming a professional dominant if that is what she really
wanted to do. I thought folk might suggest some responsible
resources.

>If Pam wants to get into this kind of business she might Google
>"money slaves" and get a lot of ideas.

Probably, and no doubt she would see some stuff that is quite
irresponsible. I'm sure she would get much better advice from
folk on DOMestic. I see that Madamplz has as usual given some
excellent advice to Pam that surpassed anything I could have
written.

>Frankly, I don't think this kind of post has a place here

Then it may surprise you to know that I suggested that Pam post
her message here when she wrote to me privately. I didn't feel
qualified to answer her questions and didn't see any reason why
her question and any answers she got to her question should not
be published on DOMestic.

So this is what I wrote to Pam when I suggested DOMestic as
somewhere she could ask for advice...

"I'm not competent to advise you about dominating for money, my
interest is in couples, but no doubt someone on the list can
advise you."

>but again I respect DOMestic's wonderful openness.

Thanks Michele. We'll try and remain open.

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

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Re: C: keeping interest in sex
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Thu, 10 Jul 2008 01:24:31 +0000

Hello Appy,

you wrote:

>Do You Yourself get any satisfaction?

Not sexual satisfaction. I just don't have any desire for it
nowadays. But you could describe what I get as satisfaction. I'm
very happy that I'm still able to give David my dominance and
control him in a way that I can see he enjoys.

>Can You cope with a life without sex?

If you mean the "friction" that Woody Allen(?) refers to in his
famous quote. :-) Yes, I can very easily do without it. I have
no desire for it, so why would I miss it?

>I occasionally am allowed to serve my Wife orally. Usually
>this is happening on Sunday mornings. Today however She made it
>clear She didn't want it. I love that, because I always am
>afraid She is allowing me because She wants to pleasure me.
>When She denies me this I am sure it is what She wants.

I'm so pleased to hear that life is still treating you well.
Like David you are fortunate in being able to take pleasure from
denial. May you continue to serve your wife for many more years
to come.

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

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P: naughty slave boy needs gorgeous dominatrix
Date: 11 Jul 2008 20:16:23 -0000
From: Naughty boy slave

I'm a naughty, naughty slave boy needing a gorgeous dominatrix
to be my goddess. Totally open to all forms of BDSM especially
in public, at her friends' place, etc.

I'm located in Palm Beach County, Florida and willing to travel
anywhere between West Palm Beach and Miami.

I envision being on a leash (not around the neck - the other
one) and ring around that area, being walked like a pet. Ordered
to obey commands and whipped, paddled, spanked when she sees
fit. Wearing a butt plug or if possible one that vibrates with
her holding the remote. I wonder if this fantasy could become a
reality?

Oh pretty please?

derfilicious@yahoo.com

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P: sub male virgin 41 Roanoke Va
Date: Thu, 10 Jul 2008 06:05:49 -0700 (PDT)
From: Dean Carroll

i am virgin to the lifestyle but very curious and willing to be
trained. 41 male Roanoke Va area. Responses will receive photos
looking forward to serving the right dom female :-)

droop2469@yahoo.com

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P: submissive in Roanoke,Va
Date: 6 Jul 2008 01:16:42 -0000
From: Bruce Martin

searching in Roanoke,Va., i am a submissive swm seeking to
submit and serve a female superior person.

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Re: P: Whatever Happened to Wanker's Corner?
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Sat, 05 Jul 2008 13:37:10 +0000

Hello,

domonic travers wrote:

>Whatever Happened to Wanker's Corner?

Scan down the right hand side of the blog. It's alphabetical,
and you'll find Wanker's Corner is still there.

The problem is no submissives reported back on whether they
obeyed my initial orders. Not even any subs writing in that they
had tried and failed. Just an empty "Corner".

So my idea of Ladies taking control of them when they had sent
in their initial report could not work. Ladies can't dominate
men in a room that doesn't have any men at all in it.

I created the corner, and issued instructions, and one slave was
given a name and number and he promised to obey and report back,
and then never did so. Several other slaves expressed an
interest, and also did not report back when told to follow my
orders and send in a report.

As the corner involved me issuing the submissives with a
completely anonymous name and number, it's hard to see why there
were no takers, unless of course my orders were too tough for
the timid boys.

>Miss Victoria kindly took pity on me and took me under Her wing
>and controlled me for a time but we lost contact.

Yes I remember that one or two relationships outside of my
Wanker's Corner seemed to be starting as a result of my
suggestion. But my Wanker's Corner idea met with a resounding
silence.

Obviously not as many submissives eager to serve out there as
one is led to believe.

>perhaps some other UK based Lady might like a wanker to toy
>with. She might find it amusing.

Good luck with that. Meantime you are welcome to follow the
instructions and go into "Wanker's Corner" yourself - then, even
if nobody takes you up on it, I'll not be able to blame the men
for being too timid.

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

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S: The Doctor Knows Best - Part 2
Date: Tue, 8 Jul 2008 15:12:49 -0700 (PDT)
From: inlimbo

Continued from:-
The Doctor Knows Best
By inlimbo

Part 2

"The doctor will be right with you," said the pretty young woman
with a smile.

"Thank you," I replied, again trying to look past the desk that
blocked my view to see if she was wearing pantyhose. But I saw
nothing and again cursed myself for my inability to contain my
desires which was the exact reason I was in this office waiting
for the beautiful headshrinker.

A week had gone by and it had been hell, and my work had nothing
to do with it. I had to make a decision as to whether or not to
continue seeing her as a doctor in spite of finding her
hypnotically appealing or to move on and find a psychiatrist who
did not affect me that way. She had indicated she might not even
want to continue seeing me as a patient so I decided to keep the
appointment to see what her decision would be.

"You can go in now," came the voice of the pretty young woman
who may or may not have been wearing pantyhose and I cursed
myself again for thinking the thought.

I entered her office not knowing what to expect. I did not
expect what I saw. It was the same as last week except that the
chair she had been sitting in was now enclosed by a folding
screen. I heard her voice from behind the screen.

"Sit down Tracy," she said, "and tell me how you like my idea of
the screen."

I slowly sat in the chair opposite the screen. I was silent.

"Tracy?" she finally called.

"Yes, I'm here.."

"Well?" she asked.

I stared at the screen and said, "I am going to be brutally
honest doctor., which I have seldom been about this part of my
life and tell you that I feel like I feel an intense hatred for
you. But please do not take it personally. Until this moment I
thought I had spent the week trying to decide if I should
continue seeing you as a doctor who could help me with my
problem, when the reality was I had spent the week anticipating
walking into this office hoping to see my fantasy woman,
standing there so unbelievable sexy, dressed in that beautiful
black suit, your hair pulled back sleekly, sheer black stockings
and black heels, exuding an air of confidence and.....:" I
hesitated.....then said slowly, "and knowingly or unknowingly,
you suddenly took it all away, just like all the others I tried
to worship."

Her voice came from behind the screen, "and when I put up the
screen I said no to you, just like all the women in your life
have said. I became another disappointment."

"No, they were not disappointments, I was a failure. I failed
with unrealistic expectations. To a varying degree all the women
in my life loved me or liked me and tried to be what I wanted
them to be. I was always honest with them about my unusual needs
but I finally realized I was the problem. Like Pogo used to say,
'we have met the enemy and they is us'. I now realize I am my
enemy and I want to change that. Your screen jolted me into
realizing how unknowingly consumed I am with my unrealistic
expectations. I did not even realize how much I had been looking
forward to seeing you again... for all the wrong reasons. I had
fed into my desire to see you as a fantasy woman under the guise
of seeing you as a doctor."

"Are you finished?" she asked.

"Yes," I murmured.

"Take away the screen and put it against the wall."

I rose and folded the screen, looking down at her. She was
dressed exactly the same as last week. I involuntarily let out a
sigh of relief which she heard.

"Is it that important to you?" she asked in response to my
sigh...

"Yes," I said putting down the screen and returning to stand
before her.

"Tell me what you are feeling standing before me."

"I want to be on my knees kissing your feet and shoes,
worshipping you."

"And that is the feeling you wish to change?"

"Yes," I murmured, embarrassment rising in me, hating the
confession.

"Sit down and tell me why?"

I sat. "From the time I was five years old I have obsessed with
stockings, garter belts, panties, pantyhose, slips, all
lingerie, all those sexy, silky, wonderful secret hidden things
that women wear, and I have had a need to worship and be
dominated, both physically and verbally, by the women who wear
them. I always believed that since I had those feelings there
would be women who desired men like me . And after fifty years
of frustration in looking for such a woman I have concluded that
such women do not exist, or if they do they are in such a small
number that I would never find one. I don't blame women, or hold
them responsible for not matching my unrealistic fantasies."

She uncrossed and crossed her legs with a swish of nylon and my
eyes darted down to watch. I quickly looked up to find a smile
on her face. "I see that excites you. Tell me about the women
who did that to you."

I licked my dry lips. "I married what I thought were a couple of
them and have had numerous relationships with others, including
a professional dominatrix and none of them have come close to
what I needed or wanted. In many cases they tried but they did
not have my intensity. I don't blame any one of them, even those
who lied to me about it for their various reasons. I realize it
was always my problem and my unrealistic expectations. I don't
believe a woman exists who wants what I want, and I understand
it now. Women don't want men who desire to be forced to wear
their lingerie, be their slaves, be whipped, make them maids and
all the other domination fantasies you can read about. And
that's as it should be. The women in my life tried but they were
not able to match my sexual desires. It took me a long time to
realize it was all my problem but I now accept it. You asked me
what I want and I want freedom from wanting something that does
not exist. I want to get rid of, hide, change, eliminate, or
even exorcise all those submissive cross dressing feelings I
have. I can no longer take the frustration of never being able
to catch the girl on the Grecian Urn. Like that poor young boy,
the object of my desire is forever out of reach for me. Help me
stop thinking I can find her and let me live out my life without
that gnawing hunger that I can't satisfy."

I paused and looked at her. "And now I am exhausted, I'm
sweating, and I'm stressed out from exposing myself and all my
secrets to a woman in way I never thought I would. I'm tired of
feeling like a leper, and I want out of the colony and I am
resigned to it. I know it's asking a lot but can you help me?"

She smiled and I stared longingly at her, that skirt riding up
her nylon clad thighs, those sheer black stockings, the shoes,
the powerful way she sat. I resisted an urge to fall to my knees
and worship her by kissing her feet and legs. And then she said,
"No, but I can help you get control of your life."

"But if you can't help me get rid of those feelings, how?"

"Let me worry about that, but for now I want you to trust me.
Will you do that. Will you trust me to only have your best
interests in mind, and let me do what is necessary to put you in
the best place possible?"

"Of course, I opened up so much to you that I now feel I have no
choice. And I do trust you."

"And I want to trust you," she said, "but I am having a small
problem. You came to me looking for a matronly woman
psychiatrist and you found me and were surprised. And that
surprised me as I am well known in this city among doctors from
whom I get referrals and also among those people who have
conflicted sexual lives.. I have a rather radical practice and I
am out as being gay. The type of practice I have is no secret
around here but you were not aware of me. Why?"

"I'm sorry, I haven't been entirely honest. I'm not from here. I
live in Carter, about an hour from here, and I got your name
from a doctor friend of mine. I was with a group of people and I
managed to steer the conversation to women doctors who treat
sexual problems. Your name came up among other local doctors and
that was it. It's just my paranoia working. I can't stand the
thought of anyone where I live finding out about my problem.
Disclosure would ruin me socially and in business."

She just nodded and appeared to file it away for future
reference. "I understand, and now it's out of the way. Let's
start by your telling me what it is you would really like from a
woman. In your view what would be a perfect relationship, what
would that idealized woman be like and what would she do that
would be perfect for you. Tell me about it. I want specifics,
and I want descriptive details, all of the dirty things."

I opened my mouth and nothing came out. "I'm sorry," I began and
then started to perspire. "I... I... don't think I can go
there. It's too hard to imagine telling you what....."

And then her hand shot out and slapped my face so hard I had to
struggle not to fall out of the chair. It stung so it brought
tears to my eyes.

"Don't lie to me!" she snapped. "You said you trusted me and now
you will go where we have to go to get to the bottom of this. I
am not going to waste my time avoiding your pain, in fact I am
going to make sure those things come out that are going to cause
you great pain."

She stood up suddenly and towering over me quickly slapped me
again just as hard as the first time. My head snapped back and
before I could even think of what happened her arm came down and
delivered a backhand that shook my teeth and rattled my head. I
would have run but she clasped my knees between hers and leaning
her weight on me held my wrists to the arms of the chair with
her hands.

She put her face a foot from mine and spat words at me. "You
will talk, you will tell it all, all those things you think are
so wrong and dirty and are so ashamed of that they are
unspeakable.Guess what, you are going to speak them my friend,
all of them, every nasty ugly thing that goes through your mind
that embarrasses you to death. I do not care how hard it is for
you to admit things. I will get to the bottom of who you are. I
told you I have a reputation for being unorthodox and you are
now seeing a little of it. Push me and you will see parts that
will scare you. Now, do I make myself clear!?"

Part 3 is now at:-

http://u4ds.com/2008/07/the_doctor_knows_best_part_3.shtml

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Re: S: The Doctor Knows Best
Date: 6 Jul 2008 09:09:01 -0000
From: quincy

Excellent start. I look forward to your further submissions.

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Re: S: The Doctor Knows Best
Date: Sat, 12 Jul 2008 17:30:45 +0100
From: "David" at u4ds.com

Hello,

We have received part three in email, but as this digest is
already pretty big we are holding part three over until the next
digest.

If you are eager to read the next part now, just go to:-

http://u4ds.com/2008/07/the_doctor_knows_best_part_3.shtml

Having just edited and uploaded part three, I don't want to
spoil anything for the reader. So I'll just say...

Thanks "In Limbo" - not keen on the cigarette thing myself, but
the story is nevertheless getting very exciting. I do hope there
is more.

sincerely,
David at u4ds.com

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