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C: cheap electro-play
Date: 17 Apr 2008 17:24:54 -0000
From: pussikat steve

Ashen Spirit wrote:

>how would I go about building my own power device? I'm cheap
>and don't wanna order one online

I would urge anyone thinking of making their own equipment to
think very very carefully about this course of action. To be
glib about it I could say "if you need to ask then you don't
have the necessary knowledge".

Whatever you do, never connect anything to the mains supply;
this is very dangerous.

To design and build your own electro-play equipment you will
need workshop facilities and a qualification in electronic
design. The current that can be drawn from the terminals must be
controlled by the machine otherwise real damage can be done. To
design and build your own prototype would probably cost more
than buying a ready made unit such as from "e-stim".

Regards
steve.

(retired electronics engineer)

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Re: C: he is rethinking slavery
From: Madamplz
Date: Thu, 17 Apr 2008 19:53:30 EDT

Priestess Avril wrote:

>"I would like to share this with the list and get advice or
>information about problems with my "slave". We have been
>together (currently living together) for almost 5 years. We
>have had a real slave/Mistress relationship combined with a
>normal relationship. He asked me to marry him in December and
>last week said he could not go through with it and then told
>me he is rethinking slavery."

Basic rule of training: If puppy loses interest in Mistress,
Mistress can regain his full attention by turning around and
running in the opposite direction.

Avril, first off, have a little faith in the 5 year long
relationship you've already established with your slave. A
connection like that isn't broken in a couple of months. But
don't allow your slave to languish in this state of limbo. Make
limbo a truly painful experience; one from which he'll need to
escape.

Take a leap of faith and calmly depart from your slave.

Fear is a very powerful emotion. It can stop a man cold. You
can't really blame him if you're asking for a serious lifestyle
change, but you don't want him to do nothing for the rest of his
life. To produce the result that you want you need to make it
very uncomfortable for him to be without you. He needs to be
painfully aware of his loss to find the courage to step off the
cliff.

My advice is to get him to stop thinking. You need to give him a
good shove to force him into a completely reactive state. To do
that, simply leave. Cut off his access to you. Delete his
emails, ignore his phone calls, make no excuses to see him or
contact him in any way and most of all, make lots of plans with
other potential slaves immediately. Put everything he loves and
needs in jeopardy of him losing it. He needs to know there are
other men who are waiting to step right in and that if he fails
to act immediately he will have lost any chance at happiness at
all.

Don't worry that he won't be in touch. After all, he knows where
you live. Give him the opportunity to come crawling back to you.
He will feel completely off balance and lost until he takes the
first step back to you. At this point, you can reestablish the
path to marriage and slavery. You can even raise the bar.

If you leave him in limbo all by himself eventually the pain (or
even the lack of pleasure) will eventually cause him to want to
get out of limbo. If you are his safest place to be, if you are
his comfort, then that's where he's naturally going to want to
be. But he's not going to see that unless you remove yourself
from the equation entirely. Give him the motivating fear that
comes from being without you until that fear is greater than his
fear of being with you as your slave.

Trust in his need for you. Use it like a slap to shake him from
his fear.

Madam

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Re: C: he is rethinking slavery
Date: Sun, 20 Apr 2008 21:14:19 -0000
From: PriestessAvril

I want to thank the responses to my personal email account.
This is very helpful. Also, I think Tom's response is a very
good one. I would like to hear more from Tom either on this list
or my private email:

PriestessAvril@Yahoo.com

Thank you again to this list. I have been a member for many
years and I have found DOMestic to be very helpful and the posts
interesting and useful.

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Re: C: he is rethinking slavery
Date: 21 Apr 2008 14:08:36 -0000
From: tom

PriestessAvril wrote:

>Tom's response is a very good one. I would like to hear more
>from Tom

I am glad I could help. It is tough for a guy to give up
control. Even after 5 years I have trouble. Today was my wife's
boyfriend's birthday and he stopped by early this morning to
claim his present. She had been talking about his birthday for
awhile and I was getting concerned that maybe they were getting
too close. I love her and have given her control as a heart felt
present to show my love. I don't want to lose her.

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Re: C: punishment, type, severity, Dom/sub feelings
Date: 18 Apr 2008 09:41:25 -0000
From: June

Punishment inside a willing role-swap environment, (where he
becomes a willing housewife type), is a delicate subject. It's
actually more about the transfer of power than pain.

Every time reasonable couples attempt to swap their domestic
roles they come up against the natural physical power of 'the
man'. It's bad enough in the bedroom, where he isn't often
willing to become the 'woman' sexually. But once he's worn an
apron, washed the dishes etc domination and feminization can
proceed, if, he accepts punishment.

Over the knee spanking is the best (because it's awkward and
humiliating), and because there is no way back afterwards. A
woman should wait patiently for a good and reasonable excuse
before attempting this, but face-slapping is a good start...

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Re: P: craving abuse feminization and chastity
Date: 18 Apr 2008 09:49:12 -0000
From: June

A 'strong willed very dominant personality' as you describe her
would have her own ideas on how to control you. The fact that
you 'crave abuse' indicates that you have particular interests
of your own. Unfortunately a dominant personality is interested
only in a 'blank slate' - that of a submissive who simply wants
to serve. Men with fetish scenarios are unlikely to be good
servants. Passive gentle men are the best and easier to train.
Feminization is the best first step...

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Re: S: How I became Her toilet.
Date: 18 Apr 2008 14:46:09 -0000
From: nalaka

Surprised to see females like this. Is this happening in India
and Sri Lanka also?

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S: In The Bank Manager's Cupboard. Part Twelve.
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Thu, 17 Apr 2008 18:42:19 +0000

Previous issues are at:-
http://u4ds.com/stories/meeting_and_seduction/

In The Bank Manager's Cupboard - by Ms. Christine
Copyright 1986-2008 Christine and David Stevenson

Part Twelve.

The pain was gradually dissipating, and the erection
which David had barely been allowed to lose during the
whipping with the cat, had returned more strongly than
ever. He was intensely aware of Karin's warm wetness
rubbing into the hairs at the nape of his neck.

His buttocks were ablaze and literally glowing, and the
warmth seemed to spread around and into his genitals.
He had to unwillingly admit to himself that he had
actually experienced quite intense sexual pleasure
during the punishment. Karin's sexual activity was of
course very erotic to witness, and the pain was intense
and not something he would care to repeat.

However he had throughout the punishment had several
erections, each one overcome by pain, then returning more
strongly soon after. In a way the pain had seemed to
intensify his arousal by focusing his attention on Karin.

During Karin's climaxes, the eroticism had brought him
quite close to spurting his own ejaculate onto Karin's
bed, something he already knew he must avoid. Unless of
course she were to grant permission.

Karin panted, "Well slave, that should have taught you
to respect and obey me, now for a lesson in humility."

David could not, of course, make any comment. Nor would
he even were she to remove the gag. But calling him
slave, he thought, was going too far. Although, she was
clearly treating him like one and perhaps it was less
derogatory than 'Wanker'.

He glanced to his left as Karin dismounted, to see her
stepping into a pair of 'dildo pants'. The sight of her
in black boots, stockings, basque and now sporting a
six inch powerful erection was both worrying and
erotic. Still gagged he could not object as she
lubricated the external dildo with a jelly, for a
purpose that was now becoming obvious. Surely she
couldn't intend to abuse him further, not in such a
demeaning fashion.

After her first two orgasms, Karin knew that it would
be easy to postpone and prolong her pleasure as she
worked herself up to her third and probably many more
climaxes. She loved the twin pleasures, humiliating the
male, matched with the simultaneous rubbing of the
internal stimulator. That and the pressure on her mound
of venus, a method that could be relied upon to have
her coming until she collapsed with exhaustion. On this
occasion she had the pleasure of very hot red and sore
buttocks to penetrate and rub against. Enabling her to
add to his discomfort and her own pleasure. Even the
anticipation was exciting as she prepared herself.

She stepped over to the bed and stood arms akimbo with
the dildo inches from his face. "So slave, was your
punishment just retribution?"

He nodded in frantic agreement, anything to avoid a
return to the cat o'nine tails.

"Good," she smiled sweetly, "I'm glad we agree, I get
so irritated when men disagree with me. Now, I presume
you also admit that you need to be taught humility?"

David looked appealingly into her eyes, afraid to
dissent, yet reluctant to concede for he now knew what
she meant.

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U: His Life as a Wife
Date: 18 Apr 2008 09:55:46 -0000
From: June

Fiction is an excellent start for a dominant wife, but there are
one or two good blogs from wives stepping into the arena of
domination and feminization in a domestic setting.

'His Life as a Wife' is one such blog. Makes interesting reading
for women, not so much so for potential sub-husbands... 'Who
wears the apron?' is excellent for example? Men always see it as
'who wears the trousers?'

http://www.domewife.blogspot.com

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U: Submitting to Her - new femdom blog
Date: Wed, 23 Apr 2008 07:22:14 -0700
From: "m m"

I have been a long time reader (and occasional contributor) of
this great list and have benefited greatly from the
contributions and comments of all the readers.

Recently my wife and I have launched a blog which chronicles our
continued journey into female domination and male submission. We
would love to get some readers, and perhaps even some comments
to our posts.

http://www.femdomwife.blogspot.com/

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X: My Password
Date: Tue, 08 Apr 2008 14:20:31 -0400
From: Amanda's slave

Dear Mistress,

My password won't work.

Thank You
Amanda's slave

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Re: X: My Password
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Mon, 21 Apr 2008 17:42:45 +0000

Hello Amanda's slave,

I've taken the unusual step of posting your admin message and my
reply to you here on the list and the blog as I've sent email to
your posting email address twice, and have received no reply.

I can only presume you need to set your spam filters to receive
messages from DOMestic and/or the support address.

you wrote:

>My password won't work.

That would be because the password for the email address you
wrote to me from expired in January.

You probably did not get the reminders because you are not
receiving email directly from DOMestic.

Try checking that you have whitelisted all the addresses shown in
this message....

http://u4ds.com/2007/06/whitelist_newsfeed_or_doomed.shtml

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

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