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C: male milking devices
Date: 9 Mar 2008 13:33:20 -0000
From: xtiml

On the topic of male milking and devices for same. I know of one
device that will fill that purpose quite well and can be
purchased for under $40.

The name is idiotic but ignore it, it is called rocco's roc hard
and consists of a thick silicone sheath with bulb pump and
electrical device.

It is what a milking machine does, little effort required on the
manipulator. Even set it up without much guidance at all.

google - rocco's roc hard

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Re: C: food and body size control in Ds
Date: Tue, 04 Mar 2008 12:24:58 -0800 (Pacific Standard Time)
From: Lady Mia

JockTrainee190 wrote:

>I didn't want to presume to post a long story about my own gay
>sadorexia experiences with dominant male tops without getting a
>sense that this board was frequented by other gay men.

I am not a gay man - I'm a woman - but I for one would be very
interested to read about your gay sadorexia experiences and any
responses other gay men may have. You know; there might be
resonances with experiences of mine or others. If you're
willing, I would encourage you to post them here.

Lady Mia

The definition of overwhelm:-
Thinking you are responsible for things that you believe you
lack the time, knowledge, ability, and/or resources to handle,
and that you must handle them according to a standard you
believe you can't meet.-Dr. Alexandra Gayek

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Re: C: Newbie/Intro - figuring out expectations and rules
Date: Mon, 03 Mar 2008 21:37:05 -0600
From: Jeff

Well it sounds like you are very together. If he wants to submit
to you and you want him to then you have found Heaven. Of course
there is that old problem with women not knowing HOW to dominate
a man.

Ashen Spirit wrote:

>nervous that I'm not creative enough when it comes to
>'sessions' or punishments

Truthfully young lady a dominant woman is not really a sadist.
She is a purist who gives her Man/mouse what he needs. His
fantasy. A real sadist hurts unwilling slaves. In this fucked up
world of ours there is so little love and love making. I myself
can't get an erection unless a queen is punishing me WITHOUT
GUILT. How can you be guilty of sadism when you are giving your
slave what he craves?

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Re: C: Frustrated and Desperate
Date: 2 Mar 2008 16:54:10 -0000
From: MissE

HTB wrote:

>I think he's just not into it with me!

He comes across to me as a very selfish individual. It is all
about his needs and wants. The not respecting of boundaries is a
real no no. I agree in general with the assessment Madamplz
made.

My previous partner called himself a Dom as well. As I am a
Domme by nature that we switched roles was the agreement. As a
Dom he did not respect my boundaries and as sub he would top
from the bottom as my topping did not work for him (never mind
that his did not work for me, it was all about him). Really he
was just a narcissistic egomaniac.

As a result, as with you, the BDSM went out of the door and the
sexual relationship followed suit. It took a long time to
realise that all dynamics in the relationship were just wrong.
It took six and a half years for me.

From what you describe all dynamics are off. They centre on his
wants his needs his fantasies - and you? You are a the one he
can count on to be there and accept everything. Hard to accept
but be honest it is true.

My ex told me I was not a real Domme and accused me of going
prude. Being in a new relationship I know how wrong he was and
is. I am a true Domme. In my new relationship I have found a
kink compatibility to a degree which is rare, and a wonderful
friend and lover. Nothing prudish there. Whereas my ex - well he
has had to go completely vanilla to get anything. LOL

So really being true to oneself is the only way to go. If this
man is not giving you the space to be what you are and is trying
to change you into something you are not comfortable with he is
bad news. Kick him out and find a real sub. Don't forget there
are many more subs than there are true Dommes.

MissE

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Re: C: Frustrated and Desperate
From: HTB
Date: Fri, 7 Mar 2008 16:39:48 +0100

Thanks for the great insights, and particular thanks to
Madamplz. You've given me a lot to think about with some
excellent questions, that I don't know all the answers to.

On your point about ethics, I agree. It was while being cheated
on that I suddenly realized what his wife must have felt like
when he started seeing me ten years ago. I can also see how I
have basically set myself up for all of this long ago and have
probably been seeking reasons or excuses to stay in the
relationship.

I really do appreciate the time you took to put on paper some
structured thoughts that I can now start to work with and
analyze and try and understand why, as you say, I've been
shooting myself in the foot for so long.

HTB

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Re: P: E-mail Exchange of Self-Punishment Assignments
Date: Sat, 8 Mar 2008 15:04:04 +0000 (GMT)
From: Paulo Jones

Likewise I found Mentisa's email not to be working. I had hoped
to enrol my girlfriend into an email relationship with Mentisa.
I am currently training her and we are in the early stages of
her journey. Naturally when she errs she can expect punishment
and when she does well she receives praise.

I had wanted to move this on to see how she would react to
meeting another master and to see perhaps a different style of
training. I am sure I would enjoy seeing her outside her comfort
zone but with me ready to be her knight in shining armour
afterwards.

She is naturally reluctant at this stage but I realise I must be
patient. I had hoped that Mentisa may be able to offer mastery
from a distance on the basis that he had described.

If he would like to get in touch he can email me. I have not
discussed this yet with Mel, so can make no promises. Also it
might be amusing if a Mistress were to take her on.

Paulo,

pauloandme2@yahoo.co.uk

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Re: P: E-mail Exchange of Self-Punishment Assignments
Date: Sun, 09 Mar 2008 01:53:54 +0000
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com

Hello,

Paulo Jones wrote:

>Likewise I found Mentisa's email not to be working

The address posted on the blog does not bounce when I send email
to it.

Likewise, I suspect you are not copying and pasting as I
suggested, but are misreading and/or mistyping.

sincerely,
Christine at u4ds.com

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Re: P: E-mail Exchange of Self-Punishment Assignments
Date: 11 Mar 2008 12:32:43 -0000
From: Marko

I am a male like mentisa but on the contrary of him I am a sub.
However I would like to be given orders of self punishment and
self bondage via the email. I would appreciate if a female domme
would like to take me as her e-slave. I can send photos of my
punishments.

glencam@gmail.com

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U: TES Offers Free Education to the Pro Dom Community
Date: Tue, 04 Mar 2008 09:09:36 -0000
From: "thrash999"

As you probably already know, a customer of a professional
dominant in NYC was injured recently in an unfortunate accident.

When something like this happens, it reminds us that we can
never be too careful or be too knowledgeable when participating
in consensual BDSM activities. So, In line with our 37-year
tradition of supporting all members of the BDSM community, TES
(The Eulenspiegel Society) is reaching out to Professional
Dominants and showing some love.

We would like to invite ALL Professional Dominants/Professional
Submissives to enjoy ALL of TES' regular educational classes and
workshops FREE during the months of March, April and June.

To take advantage of this offer, just visit www.tes.org/pd
or just send the following information to us via email
to promotion@tes.org

1. Name or "scene name"

2. Email Address (we will add you to our weekly email list to
let you know about all the meetings you can visit for free. You
can easily remove yourself from this list if you wish)

3. A website where you are promoted as a Pro Domme or the name
and website of the Professional House you are working for.

You can visit www.TES.org and click on our
calendar link to see all the classes available to you.

Best Regards

Bo - Promotion Chair
Member of the Board of Directors
The Eulenspiegel Society - TES
www.TES.org

Sent by Thrash
Member of the Board of Directors
The Eulenspiegel Society - TES
http://www.tes.org/

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admin: DOMestic Credit Card Ordering back online
Date: Thu, 06 Mar 2008 21:46:58 +0000
From: "Christine and David" at u4ds.com

Hello,

We are please to announce that we have arranged secure server
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So, if you have been waiting to renew your DOMestic password,
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sincerely,
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